Joy - posted on 02/14/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
This is a question for any co-sleeping parents out there. My husband & I have a daughter that is 2 1/2 years.
Background: We didn't always co-sleep with her because (for me) I feared one of us accidentally rolling on her. Sometimes my husband drinks - not all the time (maybe once every other month -lately its been even less than that), but it was enough that I'd worry if we'd had our daughter in bed all the time with us when she was smaller. We had a crib until she decided she didn't want it anymore (we had both a bed for her and a crib up for awhile last year.) When she was over a year old we started to sometimes co-sleep. Now that she doesn't have a crib she will wake up in the middle of the night and climb into bed with us -most nights before we wake up in the morning. Since my daughter's been coming into our bed and co-sleeping with us on a regular basis our sex lives have plummeted.
I'm a little frustrated with last night's situation especially. I had gotten her to sleep just over an hour before in her own bed. My husband & I were feeling each other out to see if the other was interested or not (and it was a yes!) but before we got anywhere that wasn't PG we hear a pitter patter, then 'Mommy!' Then she crawled up to nurse back to sleep (she hasn't weaned yet.) Obviously, it ended up as a no-go last night. There is a reason she's an only child right now!
While I don't want to force her to wean if she isn't ready and I want her to be secure as a child and believe that if she self-weans she'll be stronger for it later in life, I also want my sex life back.
So here's my question: How do you get any together time as a husband and wife if you co-sleep?