Kids learning swears from others

Meghan - posted on 05/14/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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So J and I went in to pick up my paycheque from work and there is a new male bartender who I have met once and I really didn't like him. So I walk in and he says "hey bitch"..then J laughs and says bitch very proud of himself. I told him no Joshua we can't use that word and I then asked one of my co-workers to take him outside to play. I walked up to this doucher and I said "listen, I know you where joking but a.you don't know me well enough to talk to me like that and b.what makes you think it is acceptable to talk to me that way while I have my son with me?" His response "It's not like he knows what it means"

I don't think I was so upset that J repeated it-even though he has been saying it all day now. I have been ignoring it and letting him get it out of his system, should I ignore it?

I think I was most upset because this "man" talked to me that way infront of my son. I know he was "joking" but I found it really unacceptable! At the risk of sounding like a femenist I don't want my son talking to woman that way

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I agree with Amie, at Joshua's age, IMO, ignoring it is the best thing to do......possibly tell him " STOP " or " NO " but if you get a reaction out of him then definitely just let him work it out of his system!



That guy was a moron!

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Nikki - posted on 05/15/2010

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LMAO!!! What a loser, there are always going to be people like that in the world unfortunately! You should tell him that if you witness any more inappropriate behaviour you will be ringing his mum to dob on him! he he he

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Wait till he calls some old lady in the grocery store a bitch....LMFAO! I wouldn't worry to much about Josh but I'd kick that other dude in the nuts tonight! Can't wait to hear how it goes...



Keep ur chin up champ!

Meghan - posted on 05/15/2010

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Nikki, he lives in his mother's basement...I am not one to judge but he is also pushing 40. One of my comments on my big rant to him was good luck finding a woman when you talk to them like that. I get to work with him tonite, so we will see how it goes

So far today J hasn't siad it. He said it a few more times last nite and finally I said, I know that's a fun word, but it hurts people's feelings Joshua. I don't think he quite understands that but hopefully he got it.

Nikki - posted on 05/15/2010

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What a wanker! guys can be such morons, good on you for speaking up about it. I agree with everyone else to ignore it otherwise he may realise he is getting a reaction from saying it, which could encourage him to say it more. It was unacceptable, I bet he doesn't have kids!

Tanya - posted on 05/15/2010

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Yeah the guy is a douche nozzle!
I would just let him get it out of his system.
I do plan on letting my son cuss as long as he does it well!

Amie - posted on 05/14/2010

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Yes ignoring is fine. It's what we did with our kids. When they're old enough to understand and then if they start swearing again. That's when you can explain better why they shouldn't use those words.



As for your co-worker. Arse! It's one thing to joke like that with people you know but I'd completely lose my cool if someone I barely knew had the audacity to call me bitch. Even if it was meant as a joke. Especially in front of a child! Common sense dictates you act like a reasonable, responsible adult when you're in front of children. Calling someone bitch is neither of those.



It is like so many other adult things, it has a time and a place. It is not for a new acquaintance and it sure as hell is not for in front of children. My god.



I have a potty mouth too but I try to reign it in. I'd never say something like that casually in front of my children. They've heard me mutter (haha remember my sons story? god that was embarrassing) and they've heard me swear when I hurt myself, that's the only times though. I don't actively try to throw in swear words around my kids because I think they need to be exposed to it or because they're too young to understand.

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