Becky - posted on 08/02/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )
We're having this conversation currently on my FB page, Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond. It seems there's a new anti-rewards trend thanks to Alfie Kohn and other experts. Hmmm. I haven't read his book, but I have been known to use reward charts occasionally. I personally don't see a problem with them. Rewards are as much a part of life as consequences, IMO. You get rewards for doing good in school and in the work place. Heck, I reward myself all the time. lol. It doesn't mean I only do good things in order to get a reward, and I think my kids are smart enough to reason that out as well. Furthermore, I think if it ever comes to a point where my children will only do the right thing if a reward is involved, then I need to re-evaluate my parenting because I'm missing the mark somewhere else. To me, if I model good behavior and values and consistently teach my children right from wrong and the value of doing right, then offering them a reward on occasion is not going to make them selfish brats. I think to say so is a bit extreme.
So lets add some spice to our nice girls ;-) What do you think about rewards?