Jess - posted on 11/30/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )
It has come to my attention that all of my positive parenting friends exist only in the realm of COM's ! Which is truly sad, I wish more of the people in my life shared my views on disciplining with respect and love. But by being around so many non believers I have had to deal with my fair share of misconceptions and I wanted to see what other people have had to deal with also.
I recently moved back in with my parents, both of whom are huge fans of smacking. When I was a child my parents favourite line was "I'll give you something to cry for", I can't imagine saying that to Ava, it would just break my heart.
One of the biggest misconceptions I have come across is that our children have no rules, no consequences and run wild. But this is far from the truth ! My daughter is incredibly well behaved, she has the best manners at just 15 months, she always say's "tah", and even insists on other people saying "tah" to her ! She say's "tah", when sharing toys with children her own age, its the cutest thing !
My father said to me today after Ava starting to complain when I was putting her shoes on, that "I just let her get away with everything and that's why she throughs a tantrum at the slightest thing".
I politely explained to him that Ava is 1 and has no interest in wearing shoes and has no concept of patients. So she complains about sitting still for 2 seconds not because of the shoes. She has no communication skills to say that she wants to hop down and play, so she cries and whines to get her point across. I also threw in for good measure that he hasn't seen anything yet if he thinks 2 seconds of whining is a tantrum because she can really put on a performance when she wants to.
I hate that people think everything can and should be solved with a smack !
What comments and misconceptions have you had to deal with when people learnt that you choose not to smack ?