Marylea - posted on 03/05/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )
We were having our apartment fumigated yesterday so we stayed at my dad's last night and the the fact that we don't spank our 22month old daughter came up. Next thing I know I'm getting the third degree from my father and (here's the kicker) my 17year old brother about how I need to spank and how I'm not disciplining my daughter because I don't spank.
My dad says to me "So you don't believe in discpiline?" and I said there were different forms of discipline and told him that I use time outs. My brother starts saying to my dad how I'll learn that time outs don't work when my daughter gets older. It was really infuriating and it took all I had to keep my cool. Of course yesterday was a stressful day for my daughter and her nap was too short so she was over tired and being a little terror last night and this morning so that was fueling the fact that my dad thinks I don't discipline her.
I'm just frustrated with the whole situation. Neither my brother or my father could let it go and they kept bringing up spanking. My dad started going on about how its my will over my daughter's and I have to make sure she understands that, through spanking of course. I totally don't agree with my dad's view on parenting or how he parented me and my siblings. Does anyone else have this problem of family members who just don't understand that spanking isn't the end all and be all of punishment?
Any shared experiences or support would be great cause I'm feeling kind of deflated at the moment.
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