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Meghan - posted on 12/24/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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So 2 nites in a row I have gotten J (26 months) to fall asleep "on his own."
The first nite he flicked on the tv and it took 2 hours for him to finally pass out. Tonite it took half and hour (I had the tv unplugged this time, cause I really don't want to break that habit)

I have used my own method of CIO, Super nanny technique and honestly just actually ignoring him for a bit. So far so good...now I am wonder what to do when he wakes up through the nite? Do I cuddle him or go right back to letting him soothe himself?

It seems like a "waist of time" to just cuddle him during the nite, but on the other side of things he is going to be gone for 5 days and I do enjoy the cuddles.

My thought process is pretty inconsistent. And I don't want this to be a debate about CIO methods. I know him well enough that he can do this on his own and doesn't feel abandoned or scared...we just got into a routine and that might be what is hard for him (the breaking of it.)

SO, without judgement or discussion of which method is better- how would you handle nite wakings when you are just making progress on the falling asleep?

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Jenny - posted on 01/03/2011

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maybe the super nanny technique works while you've still got a cot like with you Jess and your Ava. But i find it extremely tiring with my 25 month old , its not just the inital week where you have to work hard for upto an hour or so to get them to finally sleep, they will test you again and again after you think they get it.

I sort of do what you do with your son Meghan. i know when it is okay to ignore him. And what i do with the night wakings is i quickly go to him and tell him its okay and then i close the door behinde him and ignore him again unless he is real sick or something. you know your child best. im telling you that this has eliminated Daniels night wakings dramatically. he used to get up 3-4 times a night and could take half an hour or more to sooth. but now he only wakes once if at all and is much quicker to settle.

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Ok, here goes....

I let Roxanne come in and sleep with me or I sit up and cuddle her until she's ready to go back to bed on the nights where she does wake up in the middle of the night, BUT, Roxanne has never had any issues going to sleep and typically sleeps through the night.

I would suggest that you establish a very definite go to bed routine with him and don't give in until you're confident that one night of snuggles won't throw his entire schedule off or destroy what you worked so hard to do.

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Meghan - posted on 01/12/2011

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haha yes. I did try that but he is sneaky and the result was him waking up in the middle of the nite and painting himself with my black nail polish....the next nite I made sure I had everything off the floor...he managed to get it off my dresser. LOL funny kid

April - posted on 01/12/2011

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is it out of the question to take his mattress and put it on the floor in your bedroom? then when he wakes up, maybe he will just glance over and see that you're there and he'll nod back off?

Meghan - posted on 01/12/2011

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he has a glass of water, but I personally don't believe that if he has been hydrated well enough all day that he needs water. He is at daycare all day and while I am pretty sure she has drinks available I don't know how much he actually drinks. I wont get into that theory right now because it is besides the point.
We are really close and sleeping separate from me has ALWAYS been an issue for him, plus not seeing me all day then going with his father inconsistently, I have no doubt it is a bit of insecurity

April - posted on 01/12/2011

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i agree...no point in going back now...he's only going to get bigger :) i def think it is a habit because he wakes at the same time. my son wakes up at exactly the same 3 times every night, but i nurse him and it seems like he was thirsty...he acts like he hasn't had a drink in years.i think it's legit...our house gets so warm even when we turn it down! do you think keeping a sippy cup nearby would help?

Meghan - posted on 01/12/2011

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well, that is another thing. I moved him to a bed at 19 months...he did fine at first but I think really it was too soon. And now he is too big and too much of a billy goat to go back

April - posted on 01/12/2011

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does he have a crib or does he sleep in a "big boy" bed? I am noticing that my son doesn't have as much room in his crib and keeps bumping into the sides. I think he would like a full or a queen sized bed to himself!! lol.

Meghan - posted on 01/12/2011

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I have no idea why he wakes up short of just wanting me to sleep with him. He has a special blanket and a whole bunch of "buddies" that he needs to fall asleep. Now it's the getting him to fall asleep when he wakes up I need to work on. I usually just crawl into bed and pass out with him which is no big deal...it will take time. It's only been what 2 weeks? And for one of those weeks he was with his father

April - posted on 01/12/2011

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he is only waking up once? I would say go for the cuddle but not a long one (unless he is having a meltdown). Maybe try to figure out why he wakes . Maybe he is thirsty and needs a cup of water by his bed? Maybe he just needs to know you are nearby without you having to be in the room (not sure how you would make this clear to him though). Does he sleep with a special blanket or toy?

Meghan - posted on 01/03/2011

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Thanks for all the advice...he got it within the first 3 days. Then went away with his father for 5 sleeps so the last two nites were getting him back into a routine. But yea, he is still waking up around 1 am. Work in progress.

Jess - posted on 12/28/2010

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Ava is 16 months, and watches no tv at all. She knows how to turn the tv on and she knows how to turn up the volume on the surround sound and use the remote ! They learn by watching us. She won't still still for more than 10 minutes, so tv isn't even on her radar !

As for J sleeping through the night, personally I would simply return him back to his bed. Remind him that its sleep time and tuck him back. And continue to return him until he goes back to sleep. I know some people doubt super nanny, but personally I love her swift return technique, it even works with Ava in her cot !

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Meh, Roxanne watches a TON of tv.....what of it? LMFAO! How do you think she learns and knows so much? ;)

Jaime - posted on 12/24/2010

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Gray knows how to turn on the t.v as well. He played with all the buttons and figured it out quickly...has nothing to do with excessive t.v. watching. I won't put a t.v. in his room, but I don't mind him watching t.v. for a bit during the day.

As for the OP, I agree with D-Mak ♥

Meghan - posted on 12/24/2010

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yes JuLeah...my son is 26 months and can turn on a tv...why is that shocking? Because there is a TV in his room? I have no problem with tv-my son is very advanced for his age and except for that one nite he has never watched tv before/during bed-which I am generally pretty strict about that but I chose not to make that a battle for the first nite. I am not asking about tv. I put an end to it on the second nite. My question is do I continue to be firm with him if he wakes up during the nite, or cuddle until he has the inital part down pat?

JuLeah - posted on 12/24/2010

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TV???? At 26 months he can flick on a tv and watch it???? And I misunderstanding something? I have to be.

Anyway, rountine is your best bet.

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