Caitlin - posted on 09/02/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )
I'm completely at a loss with this one. I have 2 daughters. My oldest is almost 3, the younger one is 18 months. I am a HUGE advocate of reading, and always wanted to start reading to them from an early age. Added to that, my older daughter LOVES letters and numbers and singing her ABC's, she'll BEG me to sing them with her. I love that she loves it so much. She also LOVES books. I have quite the collection of board books and regular books, learning to read books, books about animals and everything,(a lot were hand me downs in good condition so I have a full half bookshelf of them).
When I read, she climbs on my lap and constantly points to letters and tells me what they are (cute but somewhat annoying because I can't read when she does it, but I lvoe that she's eager to learn) She will BEG me to let her have a book, mostly I still give her the board books, because she is HORRIBLE to books. That is my problem. ANY book left anywhere near her (and it's been like this for a while) gets ripped, thrown and destroyed. I have tried taking it away (she'll pull a fit but then wander off and distract herself with something else), I've tried making reading time an "only with mommy" activity where we read together, but she refuses to let ME turn the pages, she will grab and tear at the book and pull a fit, but if I let her turn the pages she will grab the book and run off or flip all the pages, scream "the end" and then run away. She just doesn't seem to understand how books and stories work, no matter how much I try. I'd love to read them bedtime stories, but I can't do it for either of my girls, because the demon child will step in and destroy.
I'm at a loss. My younger one will sit there for loong periods of time (while her sister is not around) flipping pages to her favorite board books, looking at the pictures and she will let me read to her, but I can't do it while my older daughter is awake, because It always ends up in an activity of frustration.
This is pretty much an activity in frustration for me. I'm amazed at her learning ability for knowing all her letters and even identifying the phonetic sounds that a lot of the letters make, but if she wont look at or use a book properly, it's all for nothing really. I've had to scrap many books so far because no amount of tape could save them, even supervised, she sometimes manages a really good quick rip. Nothing I do seems to help her understand!