Rude comments?

Meghan - posted on 06/05/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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SO this is a little bit of a kids say thing..

J's new thing is saying everything/everyone has a big nose. Mommy big nose, Josh big nose, swiper big nose...even pictures of people with no noses have a big nose according to him. So we where in the store the other day and an older woman came up to Josh and was fussing over him and he poked her in the nose and said "a big nose." She looked horrified and walked away. I kinda laughed because I knew what he was doing...but then I thought well, should I be telling him not to say that anymore? I think it is a little like swearing, if I don't react he will stop, but I don't want him offending anyone. And the other side of me says, ok lady he is not even 2 years old...suck it up buttercup, he is being silly and obviously not trying to be rude!

Anyone else expierenced something like this and what did/would you do?

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Dawn - posted on 06/10/2010

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Kids will be kids. Unlike most, my comment isn't going to be "just let it go". I wouldn't make him feel bad about what he said, but I would correct him. Whenever my son has said something that isn't the correct wording or whatever I always repeat with the correct wording. So, if he is at home looking at a book and says "big nose" and it is a tiny one I say "nah, look...that's a tiny nose!". We both laugh and then he usually repeats what I told him. Not only are you correcting him without it seeming like he did something wrong you are expanding his vocabulary and word use.

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ME - posted on 06/21/2010

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Miles does lots of stuff like this...He accuses people of being "goofballs", and often refers to his sister or his grandmother as a "pain in the neck"...I think it's cute as hell...I have no problem with it. He will eventually learn some new sayings and start using those...anyone who is offended by a two year old should just get over it. Miles says please and thank you appropriately all the time...he's not rude, he just doesn't understand what he's saying ALL the time...

Meghan - posted on 06/19/2010

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HIs "manners" are actually really good- for now anyway!! I don't have to prompt him to say please or excuse me...we are working on thank-you because like I said he usually says "your welcome" instead. He has stopped calling everyone's nose a big nose...except today when his father picked him up...I had to bite my lip not to laugh. He looked at me and said "where did he learn that?" I shurgged and said I had no idea LOL. Guess it was just a catch phrase for a while, I am sure there will be another!

Johnny - posted on 06/19/2010

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Manners. Mine is just working out which circumstances require please, thank you, you're welcome, bless you, and excuse me. She doesn't always get them right. My husband tooted the other night, she looked up at him and said, "thank you Daddy."

Kristin - posted on 06/18/2010

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Boys and their humor, it's enough to make you nuts sometimes. I draw a line a hurtful rudeness and potty talk. I simply tell them that what they said was either not nice or potty talk and until they have something better to offer, no more. I do it immediately too. Of course, I'm also working with a 5 year old and an almost 3 year old. The comprehension is very different.

Of course, I don't see sticking your face into another person's (child or adult) particularly polite either. Hello, personal space anyone?

Maybe start with basic manners? It's all up to you, he's young and will do what you do anyway. Good luck.

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Once when Jake was about 3, my very prim grandmother & aunt were visiting my mother. The trio was in the salon having tea and chatting when Jake wandered in and immediately became the center of attention.

"Did you come to join us?" one asked.

He looked around and replied, "Blah blah blah. yadda yadda yadda," then he left. I was mortified.

They all gasped, but then immediately started to giggle about it and poke fun at themselves.

Meghan - posted on 06/15/2010

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aw J is starting to work manners out too!!! But instead of "thank you" it's "your welcome" Meh, I guess kids will be kids...esp at this age. I appreciate all the input! I just look back at 20 months ago when he sat there and did nothing...now he has this funny, crazy, charming personality and until he is totally offensive I will just smile and be proud of how far he has come!

Sounds like all of us have some great kids!!

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Hahaha, I can add to this thread now... Blake has been working so hard on his manners lately, and it's always "thank you mummy", "thank you daddy", "thank you gran", etc., etc. Twice today we were in shops and the checkout lady handed over the receipt and Blake pipes up "thank you man" lol. I really want to reassure the poor ladies that Blake just hasn't quite worked out gender differentiation yet but at the same time I want to congratulate Blake on his beautiful manners.

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LMAO...hes being a child, let him be, its not done out of rudeness.Many would find it so funny like me for one.Its a pitty the woman couldnt see it was just a innocent childlike comment that was funny and cute.

I had a little girl come up to my boyfriend at the shopping center and give him a valentines teddy and when i came up to the shopping cart she looked at me and pushed her tiny glasses up on to her nose lol looked at my boyfriend and said NOW THATS JUST FOR YOU.The mother was so mortified but we had a great giggle at the little girl(3yrs id say) and the mom then could breathe.



Dont say anything thats the beauty of our children the say the most funny things and its innocence at its best with them.:-)

Meghan - posted on 06/08/2010

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I really don't care and I know he isn't being "rude"...like I said it is something he says about himself, me, a horse, cartoon characters...it's his schtic right now. And in his defense I guess being so young-everyone may have a big nose from his point of view-so how can I tell him it's not?? LOL-k now I am just justifying it all!

HA, and thanks for you stories ladies! Nice to know my son isn't the only one with lose lips! :)

Nikki - posted on 06/08/2010

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When I was pregnant, one of my pre schoolers at work kept calling me Mrs Fatty! Charming child!

Johnny - posted on 06/07/2010

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LOL. Your story reminds me of a couple months ago when Michaela was in her "no" phase. We were in the grocery store and she just kept yelling "no" at everyone. We got to the meat department and just as this lady was reaching into the fridge for a roast, Michaela yelled "no" at her. The woman stopped, looked over at us, and said, "is she a vegetarian?" Hello??? She's about 18 months, what do you think? What kind of ninny takes children under the age of 5 seriously?

Personally, I wouldn't worry about it. Most people (at least those who can think) will find it funny. My neighbors kid is going through a phase where she points out people's bums. Now that's embarrassing.

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Given his age, I wouldn't worry about it too much. He thinks he is being silly. He doesn't know how to make an insult yet.
Given his age, if the lady took offense, then she was just looking for an excuse to be in a bad mood.

Amie - posted on 06/07/2010

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Ya I'm with the other ladies. Just let it be. If some old fuddy duddy wants to be offended, she can take a leap. /:)

I'll never forget Jonathan's doctors appointment at minor emerg though. LMAO! He was 3 at the time. I don't remember why we had to take him in, it doesn't matter. Anyway... So Ryan took him in. I stayed home with the girls. Ryan came home laughing and told me the story. The doctor was standing there talking to him as he checked him over. Then he asked him a question. Jonathan had no idea what the man had said at all, he had a very heavy accent. So Jonathan leans over and says to Ryan "Dad, the doctor talks funny". LOL!! He must have kids because the doctor busted a gut laughing. =)

Jaime - posted on 06/06/2010

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People get offended these days if you offer to hold a friggin' door open for them. Just let it go...kids below school-age generally have no concept of offensive terminology and we can't expect them to cater to everyone's personal grievances.

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Kids say the darndest things....if an adult can't get past what a toddler says then it's a sad sad day! You can try and explain to him that's not aproppriate and offer him something else to say instead but honestly, I wouldn't make to big of a deal about it!

Nikki - posted on 06/05/2010

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Well, only Isobel calling her Dad, Mum, but at 7 months, I think we will let it slide, even though Nathan gets rather offended she hasn't attempted to say Dad! At his age I would just ignore it,it's not like he can understand the concept of empathy and hurting other people's feelings yet. If he was 4-5 then I would take to him about it, but at Josh's age it will stop before you know it. Don't laugh at him if he does it though, no matter how hard it is, it will only encourage him to do it more, maybe if he does it in public, say "it's a nose Josh"

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