Mylene - posted on 10/20/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
Ok , we are having an issue with my son and daycare.. It's never been an issue with us so we are a little bit at a loss as to how to handle this.
My son goes to a dayhome 5 days a week. the daycare provider has a 17 month old son (Let's call him Mike), the other children are mostly part-time and there was never a problem until that one kid started coming. Let's call him Junior. So Junior is 15 months old and is a bully. He started hitting the other kids as soon as he walked in the door the first day. My son just walks away from bullies and refuses to play with them even if they "change". Now, apparently my son will refuse to play at all when Junior is there. he will sit in the middle of the playroom and whine until Junior leaves. We thought it was a bully problem as when Junior is not there, my son is fine. junior is better with his behavior and the problem has been addressed with both the daycare and the parents. Shawn still won't play anywhere near him. We thought that Shawn just didn't like him and was perhaps feeling something about Junior we didn't.
Now the part I don't get is that yesterday, the daycare provider brought the kids to play with other kids at the back-up daycare. Junior wasn't there and Shawn still refused to play and just whined. We are puzzled about all of this and I would really love your insight about the situation.
When we bring Shawn to play at the playground or anywhere else where there are other kids, he is fine. He is a little shy at first but he quickly warms up (mostly to older kids). With kids his age he is a little more reserved but still will play with them unless they are bullies. If they are bullies he will move over and play somewhere else. He doesn't whine, cry or fuss... What could be causing the issues at daycare? We were thinking that because we don't have many friends who we invite around our son he could be socially deprived? Does that even make sense? I am not a very outgoing person and generally will need time to warm up to other people as well. I am making efforts to overcome my shyness and "lead by example". I need suggestions or comments from you ladies as Kevin and I are puzzled.