What holds you together?

Shannon - posted on 01/16/2011

if anyone has read my other post you know the last 8 years has been tough breaking my hip at 31 not every being able to work loosing 2 homes the last one my landlord stoles everything i owend. we even were homles, my husband has bipolr my twin son has major issues. i always thought i was a failure as a mom, a wife and a person i used to look at my kids in that hotel and my heart beoke what kind of a person am i they lost everything. then for as bad as it was i would get up do what i needed to do find a nice place and started all over. i realized i could of just given up walked away. yes i have family i love my mom but she is not the most caring or understanding her logical is just do it. but what seened like the end turned out to change my hole life, no i do not have my home and i never got my stuff back i realized its just stuff something were sentimental alot was my grandparents stuff but we have been here 2 years my 2 older kids are on there owen and have a 15 and twins that are10 noah is in bocess he has alot of what his dad has abby has some issues they are both at bocess, but they are at wounderful school jaime my baby is also at a great school i guess what really gets me thru is my faith and i believe things happen for a reason we are better off now then we have every been. you just have to bleive in yourself and relize that if you can look in the mirrow and like what you see wich has taken me 42 years but everyday i wake up and i say i am so greatful and positive energy we tend to always think why me this isnt fair why is life so hard that just negitive. if you put that out there that what you will get back. yes someday arehard. surround yourself with friends that make you laugh enjoy what you enjoy get rid of those people that its all about drama and what they dont have. when your young you just think you need any friend in your life then i relized why, because there negitivity becomes yours.rember you are lucky in 2 years we have come farther then we ever have my hole family we started with nothing i mean not even a pillow 2 years later we have a home, not a house but its a home. i learned that you can get what you want and need and thats amazing sence we are both on limited icomes. but your kids do not care were the cable comes from . you have to respect your self and like who you are. but never forget were you came from dont pretend that it doesnt excit its who you are and its apart of you . and rember when you look around be greatful what you have be thnkful because there are so many people that have nothing . life is funny you think you want and need one thing andthe univers says nop your gonna go this way and you relize this is were your supoose to be.yes its awaful that i can not work or do things with my younger 2 that i use to and i could hide and say whats the sence but i wake up everyday i do not let the little things bother me you just take each day say thankyou for what you have and all that drama and negitve tuff push it away i may not have tons of money well hardly any but we are comfortable ,safe and warm and healthy . you need to look deep and realize that you are a special person and you are worth it and the univers always gives you what you want and need . when i lost my home i could of just said enough . but i dint i know with my faith and positve thinking that with time things would get better and it did and part of that was believing inME finally learning to like who i was and learning to expect me and teaching my kids that
shannon

Jaime - posted on 01/10/2011

Lisa, I feel like I haven't seen you around PBS for a long time. Glad to see you now though, hope all is well! ♥

Tanya - posted on 01/04/2011

I cry, I pray, I talk to those who love me! I talk to myself and remind myself that, "nothing ever stays the same - things will get better." I count my blessings, life could and is worse for others.

Amanda - posted on 12/27/2010

honestly...my kids...that may sound corny but sometimes being a mom can make me a little crazy and fustrated and then there are a whole lot of other problems that comes with being an adult and just plain feeling sad because I had kids and married young...I do not regret that at all but sometimes feel a bit sad that i can't go out with friends or have a ladies night because i have to stay home with the kids but then when it all seems to get over whelming and to much then i just look at my wonderful son and baby girl and everything seems to just calm down a little...they are my everything and they definatly hold me together (also help from my family who do give me a break sometimes and help and advice when me and my husband need it)

Chatty - posted on 12/22/2010

SHUT UP! BABY! ;)

Meghan - posted on 12/22/2010

I just got a tear in my eye Dmak!!

Chatty - posted on 12/22/2010

You forgot me, September! ;)

September - posted on 12/22/2010

Reminding myself that it could always be worse! :) Love, my husband, my son, my family and my friends are wonderful too and are great support when life becomes a bit overwhelming.

Chatty - posted on 12/22/2010

MUSIC! Good one, Danielle!

I also forgot to mention my lovely lady friends here. JL, Megs, Nikki.....love you, ladies! You've been a wonderful support to me!

One last comment -- it's wonderful to see so many new faces commenting and participating. Hope to see you all around a lot more!

Chatty - posted on 12/22/2010

Great thread, Lisa! ♥ Glad you're back!

What holds me together?

Haha! Nothing -- can't you tell I'm coming apart at the seams? Can you say FRAZZLED? LMFAO!

Seriously though....my mommy! She's been a great support. And, Chad of course. He's the one person in my life that can say, "Everything will be okay!" and it truly gives me a sense of peace. We've been through A LOT together and he grounds me and has a calming affect on me. Ironically, he's also the one person that can get me worked up like nobody's business.

Meghan - posted on 12/22/2010

My close friends. I love my mom but sometimes she can be too "parental." I need to hear the truth sometimes and I have some great people in my life who do that without the lecture.
My son too. When things get really tough I look at him and remember what my goals are.
And I am not going to lie, sometimes a cigarette helps me though...mother of the year over here!

Danielle - posted on 12/21/2010

I would say music.

Whenever my day gets frustrating it helps a lot to be able to shut everything off and just listen to some good tunes.

I also crochet, knitt, scrapbook.. or anything else in my spare time to help balance my duties at home with my own little tasks.

Jaye - posted on 12/21/2010

I just remind myself that it's only temporary! I also seek advice from my mother ,husband and my closest friend.Prayer works the best...smile.

Jess - posted on 12/21/2010

I work for an insurance company in their claims department, we have a running joke at work that we are all only one nasty phone call away from going postal !

When everything gets to overwhelming its defiantly Ava that gets me through. At work, I know I'm there doing it for her. So I can provide for her, at home with her dad, I know its in her best interest to have 2 parents that get along and with her, I know its a developmental thing and we have to work together !

Stephanie - posted on 12/20/2010

My therapist and anger management!! Talking with my boyfriend...being open and honest with him about what's going on with me. I have a two year old and a two month old, I'm a stay at home mom and we are putting an addition on our house. I have plenty to be stressed about but I am trying to deal with everything the best that I can. It's sooo hard sometimes, but I can't let it get too far ahead of me because then I will just explode and that would not be a good day or week or month!!

Carrie - posted on 12/20/2010

i always turn to my fiance. he understands when i need a break, he'll take our son and let me have a breather, he gives me the space i need and a shoulder to cry on even if he doesnt understand my words thru my tears. he is all i ever wished for and i guess i just have it good in that sense. he is my reality check point.

Nichole - posted on 12/20/2010

My children...they are my anchor and my joy!!!!

JuLeah - posted on 12/20/2010

I am kind of lucky .... just about everything that could happen, has. I have little left to fear. I can laugh at most of what comes along now and have learned something bad happening 'right in this moment' is different from worries about something bad that might be around the bend.
For example, I have bills I can't pay, issues with my ex, am still looking for work, my car needs a doctor ..... I could make a huge list if I really put forth effort, but in this moment, this second, I am fine. And, this second, this moment in time is all I have really. The past no longer exists and the future might not even show up.
A friend of mine completely feaked when I said that to her. She yelled, "I could get hit by a bus. I could be dead. Then what??? How will I ever get out of debt then?!?!?"
I just laughed. I kind of think, if you are dead, maybe you have different things to concern yourself with .... I guess it all comes down to perspective

Anupama - posted on 12/20/2010

Shri Shri RadhaShyamsunder & mum

Lovely - posted on 12/20/2010

I dont have much of a support system. When i get to the point where im going off the deep end i look at my son and realize that ummmm he needs the only person thats been here for him and thats his mom. I been taking care of my son By My Self.

Colleen - posted on 12/20/2010

Thats a tough one. I geuss knowing that God"s got my back and the knowledge that I have friends who will always be there for me. Also that I am stronger than I think I am.

Rachna - posted on 12/20/2010

Mother

Jessica - posted on 12/20/2010

Honestly, I don't know, lol! I've cried, freaked out, but somehow get through the worst of it until my emotions even out a little bit. I think I tend to catastrophize (if that's a word...lol) a lot- I blow things out of proportion and thin k they are going to be far worse than they really are. But they never end up getting as bad as my imagination thinks they will, so once things kind of play out and I see that, I can start feeling better and moving on.

I don't know if that made any sense!