Kelly - posted on 12/22/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )
Ok, my son is 6 yrs old, and this is the second time my we have gone through this phase, and it is literally driving me batty!!!
Every time I ask/tell my son to do something, he asks why he has to do it. Now, the first time we went through this stage a simple explanation would do. It was still annoying to explain that he couldn't go into a store without shoes every single time I told them to put his shoes on, or that his teeth would rot if he didn't brush them, but the short explanation was all it took, so I got used to it and eventually, it ended.
Now it is back, and it is back with a vengeance!!!!! We've been at it for a couple of weeks, but I'll use an example from today:
ME: "Please put your coat on, we are going downtown."
J: "Why do I have to wear a coat?"
ME: "It's cold outside."
J: "Why is it cold outside?"
ME: "Because it is Winter."
J: "Why is it Winter?"
ME: "Because it is the time of year when it is cold out and we call that Winter."
J: "Why does it get cold this time of year?"
ME: "Because the Earth is tilted on its axis and the suns rays don't hit us directly, so it doesn't warm us as much."
J: "Why is the Earth tilted?"
ME: "JUST PUT ON YOUR COAT!!!!!!!!!"
J with tears in his eyes: "Why are you mad?"
Me hugging him: "I'm sorry I yelled, I just need you to do what I ask you to when I ask you to do it."
ME: "Please hop out."
J: "Why do I have to get out?"
ME: "Because I cannot leave you in the car alone."
J: "Why not?"
ME: "It's dangerous, someone could take you, you could freeze (though it was warm today), and it's illegal."
J: "Why would someone take me?"
ME: "PLEASE, just get out of the car."
***LEAVING THE GARAGE***
ME: "Please hold my hand here."
J: "Why do I have to hold your hand?"
ME: "Because there is a lot of traffic and I don't want you to get hit."
J: "I won't, I can see them."
ME: "Yes, but they cannot see you."
J: "Why can't they see me?"
ME: "Because you are not tall enough to be seen through the windshild."
J: "Why don't they make the windshild lower?"
ME: "The engine is in the way."
J: "Why don't they put it in the back?"
ME: "I don't know! PLEASE HOLD MY HAND!!!"
J: "Why are you *always* in a bad mood?"
ME pounding my forehead with my fist. And all that was before we even got to the FIRST STORE!!! ....Why do we have to buy gifts? Why do people buy us stuff? Why do they not have daddy's size? Why don't you like this hat? Why is it so crowded? Why didn't everyone shop earlier? Just to name A FEW.
I don't want to be a "because I said so" mom, but I cannot go on like this! Not only is it insanely frustrating, I am coming down with laryngitis and will not be able to answer his questions by tomorrow. Any advice?