Jodi - posted on 04/25/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Please help, my family relations are on the line! Here's the situation: My sister has a son who is 2 and a half, my daughter isn't quite 14 months yet. My sister and I are very close, we get together SEVERAL times a week so the kids can play including one night a week at our parents' house for a family dinner with our other sisters and their kids and one week day at my parents' house while I help my dad watch her 2 boys (he's just not comfy with it.) Anyways, ever since my daughter started walking my nephew has been pushing her, hitting her and throwing things at her, so this has gone on for pushing 5 months now and only getting worse. She has gotten bruises, cuts, scrapes and goose eggs from his bullying. The most recent was he pushed her off of our little kid picnic table unto cement, she has a HUGE egg on her head now, then he tried to push her down the stairs, but I caught her before she fell, it was my last straw!!!!
My sister will not do anything other than time outs, where she talks to him, hovers over him and does not use a firm voice and she will not allow anyone else to try to discipline him. I talked to her about it today and simply stated it was unacceptable and that we needed to find a solution. She refused to try to think of anything else we could do to get a handle on this. She was VERY defensive and walked away. My husband and I agree that my daughter can not play with him anymore until we can find a solution, but that means I don't get to see my family together anymore.
My daugter flinches when he gets to close and runs to me or grandma when he walks towards her...I need advice on what I can say to my sister and what kind of punishments would be appropriate for a 21/2 yr old for this behavior.
Please help, I'm at my wits end and ready to pull my hair out!!!!