Anyone have a stubborn toddler?

Amara - posted on 08/04/2012

My daughter is 2 years 5 months old and goes without diapers all day she tells me when she needs to pee or poop but refuses to sit on her toilet seat and wees on the washroom floor. I even got her a Minnie Mouse toilet ( her favorite cartoon character)seat, she sits for long on it but when it's time for her to pee or poop again tells me to get her down and then pees or poops on the floor. Anyone with such a toddler?

Amber - posted on 07/14/2012

I didn't push it for a few days and then let him sit backwards on the potty and today we went out to swimming lessons no diaper and no accidents. I still put diapers on at nap time and the poop thing is a whole new story but we have made progress.

Tiffany - posted on 07/13/2012

I almost have that same problem my daughter will go and hide when she needs to go or come and tell you she wants big girl panties on then go in her panties Im starting to think she is treating her panties like a diaper. Im at a loss everyone is telling me to stop and take a few days to give her a break from potty training.

Amber - posted on 07/07/2012

I have a stubborn almost 3 year old boy. Noticed that he is grabbing him self when peeing in diaper. Have been asking if he wants to go potty he says no I baby. He watch his five year old brother pee on the fence and now wants to do that too. He managed six hours one day making it to the fence no accidents but was A little grossed out when he pooped beside the fence. Tried taking him to a potty chair or toilet and he screams and bites and kicks you think some one was killing him. I have tried treats stickers toys Mc Donalds and he doesn't care wants to be baby. If you leave him in a diaper he will not tell you if he has peed or pooped doesn't care. Tried telling him he could go to a freinds house like his brother but needs to use potty. He says no mommy change my diaper and I go play. Any one got an idea

Rebecca - posted on 07/01/2012

Hi!
I am reading your very old post now. I have a very similar experience right now with my 3 year almost 2 month old. She has gone pee on the potty a few times here and there but I was not consistent with the potty (and she didn't really mind!). I have tried to get back into it now and she refuses to sit and cries/yells, etc when I tell her to sit on it or even ask her.....every excuse comes out of why she doesn't want to sit on it. Wondering what your daughter ended up doing......how much longer it took for her to be trained.
I hope you read this and can have some positive info for me!:~)
thanks!

Whitney - posted on 05/10/2012

I AM HAVING THE SAME PROBLEM WITH MY TWO YEAR OLD SON AND HE WILL NOT USE THE POTTY I HAVE TRYED EVERYTHING I CAN THINK OF TO MAKE IT FUN TO AND HE STILL WONT GO MY FRIST KID WAS NOT SO HARD TO POTTY TRAIN IT EASY..

Jessica - posted on 05/08/2012

My 2 1/2 yo is very stubborn. My older daughter trained in a week while staying with my mother while I was on vacation lol. The 2nd chile, however, will not go except at night bc she doesn't want to go to bed and she knows of she says she needs to go potty we won't say no. She will sit for an hour if I let but I eventually fell compelled to make her get off and go to bed!! I put panties on her and she doesn't care if she wets them. I try to bribe with m&ms and stickers but she just replies "no potty mommy". I don't know what to do. She has pooped and peed in the potty but only when she doesn't want to go to bed.

Nici - posted on 08/10/2009

Mine does exactly the same thing. I am starting to feel like she will never be potty trained. She will be 3 in October. Very frustrating.

Melanie - posted on 08/10/2009

Hi, i have a lil boy who will be 4 in Jan. He is the same way. WIL NOT use the potty no matter what I try. If you get some good advise please share!!!

Quoting Lori:

we have a very, very stubborn little boy who will be 4 in oct and still won't go potty!! I've been told that since he is speech delayed this will be delayed as well. but we are at the point where the pull ups aren't going to fit anymore as he is in the largest size. we are awaiting the arrival of some training pants that make him feel wet so hopefully that will work. we have tried the bribing with m&m's and that didn't work. we have a potty chart and toys as presents/prizes and that worked once. but he does tell us that he needs his bum changed. any suggestions? he refuses to go into the bathroom for fear of me putting him on the potty. HELP!!

Claire - posted on 08/07/2009

Mmmmm....I have started the potty training and get pretty knickers which was successful. However she says no thanks to the potty, but will sit on it and do nothing. We have also tried the toilet, again will sit on it and do nothing! ...She tried to pull her knickers and skirt down but not in time to jump on potty which she did attempt to do. So i went a bit bananas and said well done for letting mummy know she wanted potty!!!! ......a few days later she did wee in potty, we praised her with a sticker book, so every time she wees/poos she can choose a sticker. This has worked for 1 day. Today she has held her wee until weeing in her 3 pairs of knickers and carpet. So have decided to keep on trying and leave the wet knickers on until she lets me know!!!! Will keep you posted. Any ideas?? x

Misty - posted on 08/07/2009

I had the same problem with my two and half year old. She is doing really well now at home but still won't pee on the potty at day care. I have started in steps with her. Our first week we started just making her sit on the potty first thing in the morning. That was the hardest time of the day for her. She was really crabby. Eventually she started going with it and after a couple weeks she would sit without screaming most mornings. She is attached to diapers and still asks for them to be put on. I only allow her to wear pull ups when she is napping and night time. We started this after about two and a half weeks of just making her sit on the potty even though she never went. When we finally started wearing panties it took a few days of just peeing herself before she finally got the idea that this isn't going away and didn't like peeing on herself. Now she has been doing well at home for a couple days (just peeing, not pooping) although still hasn't been successful at daycare. MY POINT: Try steps, Just sitting on potty regularly without switching to panties. At first kicking and screaming, they should give in eventually. Try at the hardest time of the day (in morning when tired and cranky) When they stop screaming, try sitting through out they day. When that starts going well, Put panties on and don't look back. If you give in they will keep fighting. Bribing doesn't work with my daughter either. GOOD LUCK.

Angelia - posted on 08/05/2009

Wow....I am SOO glad to see that I am not alone in this. I keep my grandson while his mom works and we are having the hardest time getting him to go potty. He will go once we put him on it, but he kicks and screams the whole way to the bathroom. He will be 3 in October and is a very tall, big 2 yr old so the pull-ups are not going to work much longer. We tried bribing him, using m&m's, going at the same time with him, sitting on potty chair, sitting on regular toilet, sitting on the toilet seat attachment. NOTHING works!!! My baby is 22 yrs old and I don't remember how we did it, but it only took us 1 week to potty train him. I am soooo open to suggestions. Any ideas???

Tammy - posted on 08/05/2009

I am potty training my 2 year old boy now, and I had the hardest time trying to get him into the bathroom to sit on his potty. I couldn't figure it out for a long time, until I had knee surgery and couldn't keep going to the bathroom with him as often. I put his potty in the living room and now he wants to use it! I think he just needed a change of scenery or something! LOL Now I have to tackle the issue of moving the potty back to the bathroom later, but at least he wants to use the potty!

Lynda - posted on 08/04/2009

Sounds like most of tods are ready but one must remember that "potting" IS in thier control and I think that's why they avoid it so long! It's the one thing (besides eating) you can't control, only they can! As harsh as this may sound my daugther took away her 3yr old's diapers and pants for an entire weekend; it worked because he wanted his pants back and had to potty in the pot first. I thought it was wrong but he suffered nothing from it. Good luck! Gramma of many....

Alison - posted on 08/04/2009

Playing with other kids that use the potty may help. It sounds like the only reason she doesn't want to use the toilet is to spite you. That is why I would lay off for now and she will make up her own mind eventually. Also, she may prefer the big potty to the little one. Some kids have issues especially with doing a number 2 in the potty. My daughter has almost always done number 2 on the big toilet rather than the potty. And when she did, I took her picture and made her feel super special! It totally worked!

Kristen - posted on 08/02/2009

WOW!!! Never thought an episode of Dr. Phil really WOULD come in handy!!!! BUT, I was recently laid off my job, & was folding laundry when it was on... i have a 2 1/2 yr old boy that we are working w/to use the potty. Dr. Phil was talking about that book "how to potty train in 5 days"... he guaranteed he could get a kid to do it in ONE DAY! So this is what he did- he took a mom who had a stubborn little boy who flat out REFUSED to go anywhere near the potty. Dr. Phil got a friend to play the little boys FAV tv character (Thomas the Train), and had him on stand by for the "big celebration"... What they did was got one of those old dolls that can pee in it's pants. He introduced the doll as his friend. Then he asked the little boy if he could show him where the potty chair was because his friend had to go potty. The little boy took him to the chair, they removed the diaper off the doll, and then made the doll go "pee in the potty". The mom, Dr. Phil, and the doll all cheered and celebrated. The little boy quickly caught on, and sure enough! not long after Dr. Phil left for the afternoon, he told his mommy he had to go potty, AND DID IT!!!!!!!!! I'm just trying to find a doll that pee's itself now!!! (However, my son DID go pee 4 times today!!! And completely on his own! I'm so proud of him! He's proud of himself too!) Hope this may help.... Too funny!!!!!

Amy - posted on 08/02/2009

Omg I wish will would be this independent. We are having a difficult time on this. He is already four and he will sit on it but still wont do his business. I would love some advice. Please send any advice would be apreciated.

Cheryl - posted on 08/02/2009

The only advice I have is (and this is from my own same experience) is to just let it go for now and try again later. She simply is not ready yet and it's just going to become a power struggle if you continue it this way and believe me, this is a battle she will always win. Just completely let it go for now. When she sees there's nothing left to resist it will make a big difference..

Chris - posted on 08/02/2009

It's a control issue for my 2.5 year old daughter. How do I make sure she knows it's her idea, and not mine? As long as she thinks it's her idea to use the potty, she will go without any problem. As soon as she thinks it's my idea, she is no longer interested.

Heather - posted on 08/01/2009

My little girl turned 3 in June, and HATES the potty. She will cry and scream and have a complete meltdown if I try to put her on it. And god forbid I try to leave her diaper off - that just leads to more uncontrollable sobbing. She is capable, just doesn't want to. So we have just dropped the issue for now, and hope it resolves itself. *fingers crossed*

Meg - posted on 08/01/2009

My daughter was a very stubborn girl when it came to potty training. It took 4 days without a diaper (just used one while sleeping or going to town) for her to finally break. It was a battle of wills and eventually when she saw I wasn't giving in, she peed for me. And since then she stills acts up at times, but she doesn't get her way, and eventually she pee's or poo's. Try to not let up, keep taking her to the potty and letting her sit. Let her know peeing in the floor is not ok, and above all else, don't let her see you upset or agrivated.

Lori - posted on 07/31/2009

we have a very, very stubborn little boy who will be 4 in oct and still won't go potty!! I've been told that since he is speech delayed this will be delayed as well. but we are at the point where the pull ups aren't going to fit anymore as he is in the largest size. we are awaiting the arrival of some training pants that make him feel wet so hopefully that will work. we have tried the bribing with m&m's and that didn't work. we have a potty chart and toys as presents/prizes and that worked once. but he does tell us that he needs his bum changed. any suggestions? he refuses to go into the bathroom for fear of me putting him on the potty. HELP!!

Heidi - posted on 07/31/2009

OMG, this is my daughter to the tee!! She is sooo stubborn! I completely understand how frustrating this can be, especially since all the signs are there that she is ready. Our little girl will be turning 3 in a month and has always been very independent, so we thought hey, she's showing all the signs that she is ready to be a big girl. We even bought two potty's for her, the bijorn and a soft potty, both in pink, but all she wants to do is sit on it and not do her "business" in it! We are now trying to get her to go on the adult potty with an attachment, but she's only gone pee-pee once. I've come to the conclusion that she just has to decide when she is ready to use the potty by herself. In the meantime, I've learned to just take a step back and when she tells me she has to go, I take her to the potty and sit her on it for five to ten minutes only. Usually a fun game of singing kills the time and once in a while will distract her enough to go, yay. Good luck and hang in there. I think it just takes time. :0)

Kim - posted on 07/30/2009

And my daughter gets very flustered when her diaper is off and has to go. She gets very nervous and wants me to immediatly put it back on. I feel like she has every single sign that she is capable to do it...but she is simply choosing not to

Kim - posted on 07/30/2009

there is a really good book out though ...its called 'potty training in 5 days' can't remember the author but appearently it really works...i don't have the time to devote to it unfortunatley i work full time and have a 1 year old..arggg!

Kim - posted on 07/30/2009

mine little man will be 3 next month and he wears a nappy full time still but will pooh in the 'big' toilet everytime but won't wee in it. Won't go near the potty either...what do i do? hes going to school in january and i don't want him in nappies still!!

Samantha - posted on 07/30/2009

I have a stubborn potty training toddler. She takes her diaper off and walks around naked but when she needs to go potty she doesnt want to..... i let her read on it or even play like little electronic games. we sing and stuff on the potty to... i sit on the big girl potty with her. she is starting to ease up.....

Samantha - posted on 07/30/2009

I have a stubborn potty training toddler. She takes her diaper off and walks around naked but when she needs to go potty she doesnt want to..... i let her read on it or even play like little electronic games. we sing and stuff on the potty to... i sit on the big girl potty with her. she is starting to ease up.....