At what age should a child be completely potty trained?

Angel - posted on 07/13/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )

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My daughter turned 3 this yr and we have been trying for over a year now.. she will sit on it with her clothes on lol..we bought her the princess one that plays music when they "do the deed" so she turns it over and plays with it instead..she is just not interested.

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Cleva - posted on 07/14/2010

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Hello Angel, the immediate problem is the potty has become a toy. This may sound harsh but it needs to disappear. Replace it with something plain, make it stay in the bathroom where it needs to be. She will be a bit stubborn now she is 3 but patience and gentle firmness are what you need now, and in the event of an accident, stay calm, don't make a fuss, just deal with it quietly and move on. Frequent trips to the new plain potty will be needed throughout the day, all day, every day and she will get the message. My grand-daughter is 3 and 1/2 and confidently takes herslf to the toilet simply because my daughter did not make games, songs, etc - just the fact that the task at hand had a purpose in the same way as I potty trained my children. It may assist if both you and your daughter go to the bathroom at the same time - she is old enough to grasp what you are doing so setting an example could solve your problem. Even if you personally don't need to go, go anyway and take her with you to do the same. I hope this helps and please feel free to stop by my page any time. Kindest Wishes.

Suzie - posted on 07/27/2010

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My daughter will turn Three in A week and she simply refuses to sit on the potty.she screams because we had some sewer work gooing on in our town and it sent sweage up the lines and all over the bath room of houses in town they then decided to make sure people had warning the next time they said they would start at 8 am so i hurried at 7 to get her to sit on the potty and they started work early she was covered and know she is tramatised by the potty as it is going to pop on her agin. her doctor said she would get it before she went to school all normal children do.

Andrea - posted on 07/27/2010

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What you need to do is get rid of any diapers. They need to have accidents and feel wet. Then get or make a chart that has these or similar categories. 1. I pulled my pants down by myself. 2. I sat on the potty for a while. 3. I went in the potty 4. I flushed the toilet. 5. I washed my hands. Then get some stickers and an egg timer. When you have a full day start potty training. At first, set the egg timer to go off every 20 minutes; any longer and you'll have accidents. When the timer goes off make it a party; Yea! it is potty time. Have her pull down her pants if she does it she gets a sticker woo! hoo! Then have her sit on the potty another sticker bravo! If she doesn't go no problem move on to flushing the toilet yea! Then have her wash her hands. Reset the timer and go again. Kids love picking stickers and putting them on the chart. It also helps if you keep her well hydrated so she need to go often. Using this method on weekends (because that is when we had the time) it only took us three weeks to potty train my three year old son. He still had some accidents over night but for the most part he was trained.

Sonia - posted on 07/26/2010

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I too am struggling with potty training. All my aunts and family sort of make fun of me that I am not sucessful in potty training my daughter. Its very tiring for me because i have 2. My daughter just turned 3 and my son just turned 2. I take them to the potty everytime I can. my kids prefer the regular toilet more than the potty. but sometimes choose their own potty when they are in cranky mood. I do not feel like going to events now because I get at least 1 negative comment based on this. It makes me feel very inefficient. I too am waiting for that click to happen in each of them.

Kath - posted on 02/01/2013

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i never used pottys etc but just them go at their own pace my eldest who is now 6 only came out of night pull ups about 8 months ago but was day trained around 3-4 no amount of encourgment bribing would work - my husband said when its time she will do it - we did undies from 3 and encourgaged her hourly to go to the toilet and this worked where one day she went by herself u will get there dont stress what will be will be

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Christy - posted on 01/29/2013

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Hi there,
The pressure on parents to do everything at a certain time is unbeleivable, every child is diffrent and they do things in there own time, they are not being difficult they are just not ready. You have done everything possible to potty train dont beat yourself up. It will come naturally, and if you are still waiting talk to your health visitor.

Brittney - posted on 01/27/2013

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I know this is old, but since people still seem to visit the old ones...I think they should be trained just after learning to walk, so 1.

Kisha - posted on 01/27/2013

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My son is 40 Mts he will go pee in the pot when we tell him but wont do #2 in the pot. I hope he gets it soon, I may bye some underwear maybe he will do better then.

Holy - posted on 10/20/2012

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Do you want her to be peeing her pants when she goes to school...... you have to be the boss....

Suzie - posted on 08/14/2010

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wow when there ready they are ready my little girl deciced it was time and in the last two weeks shes gone from not going at all to one accedent today

Davina - posted on 08/02/2010

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I have been very fortunate. My son trained sooo easy, matter of fact I feel guilty saying "I trained him". I was due with my daughter when he was 22 months. I bought and introduced him to the "potty chair", he liked to put his cars in it, stand in it, climb on it. So we packed that away and the first couple of days he would pee on the big toilet, on the 3rd day he pooped. He has never pooped anywhere but the toilet since. He still wore pullups for peeing for about 3 months, then he just stopped and went potty every time. He was still wetting the bed at night (not during naps) we would use pullups at night, but when they ran out, I just started putting him to bed in regular underpants and in about a week (all on his own) he would get up once at night, come get me to go potty and go back to bed. Now he is 3 yrs 3 mos. We have had maybe a handful of peeing accident in the past year. Either he was busy and didn't think to stop, or we were too far from a bathroom. My daughter is now 13 mos and is very selective as to whose around and where she is to go poop. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that she is as easy!!

Margaret - posted on 07/28/2010

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A child should be completely potty trained when they're ready. There is no specific age when it SHOULD happen (especially if there are extenuating circumstances such as special needs). Some kids do it really early. Some really late. It's extraordinarily convenient if they're trained by kindergarten but otherwise, a child will dictate when they're ready. You can try and try and if they're not ready, they'll prove that bodily functions are a domain fully within their control. Personally, it's not a fight I choose/chose to fight. I'm a potty epiphany mom. That is, if you wait until the child is ready, they will literally train themselves in 2 or 3 days with no effort on your part at all. That is when your child realizes, "OMG you mean I don't have to walk around with a soggy/poopy diap on me anymore!!!!" My daughter trained at 3 in 2 days effortlessly! My other 2 have special needs... Even still, I waited for the potty epiphany which happened a little later than usual and they easily trained via the timed interval method. Relatively painless except for being on a strict timed schedule as I'm not really that kind of person... LOL. Good luck whichever way you choose to go. I do believe that potty training is absolutely individual choice -- the Mom's and the child's!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/28/2010

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My son is just about to turn 3 and is still terrified of the potty. He is extremely tall for his age and cant really sit on the potty chairs. Ive bought the rings that go on the regular toilet and have handles but he screams and cries when I try to put him on it. He can tell me when he needs to use the bathroom but he wont do anything about it and a few minutes later I have to change his pullup.

Aimee - posted on 07/27/2010

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my daughter played with hers too. She will be 3 in december and im hoping will be fully potty trained by then.. we started at 1 and a half and its taking forever! lately she is doing really good at home but not when we leave the house.. every child is different. her cousin has been 3 and still wont go potty outside of the home, and only goes for her dad and not her mom.. shes very stubborn. maybe thats the issue with yours too :)

Heather - posted on 07/27/2010

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I am going through potty training with my daughter right now too and she will be 3 in November. We tried it a while ago and it DID NOT work. We stressed about it. A big thing for me is that I also have a son who is under 1 so I have 2 in diapers and really wanted to get one out of them. I just realized that she needs to do it in her own time. So I left her and then one day we went to the park with her BFF and she seen her go to the potty and she has been going ever since and that was over a week ago. She has had a few accidents so far but not many and she goes on her own 90% of the time without being reminded.
I know it is easier said than done but you really have to give your child encouragement without the stress. That is what I had to realize for us. And like everyone said if she has an accident then just say, next time try to make it to the potty in time to go in the potty.
We don't have sticker charts or rewards this time and she doesn't ask for them. I say if you can get away without treats then that is a good way to go, or at least for us. She is doing a lot better without them. Mackynzee also doesn't like to be wet anymore when she wears her underpants so try that to see if it works. Just wear underwear and many that will say to them, I need to go potty so I don't get wet like this. There are so many things you can try and they may or may not work. Just keep positive cause they can sense your stress and will cause stress for them.
Good luck
Heather

Carine - posted on 07/27/2010

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I had the same problem with my son (now 3) and his "froggy potty". All he wanted to do was sit on it and hop around like a frog. I think it was difficult for him to understand the the potty was not a toy. What I eventually did was put him on a plain potty and to keep him amused gave him and Elmo potty training book. He now pee's on the potty. Hope this helps.

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I feel that since every child develops differently (and learning too) there is no "set' age requirement for potty trained. You just have to work with her and keep doing it. Research (if you already haven't) and try different methods. I know my daughter loved stamps/stickers and every time she went she got a stamp/sticker. She had to fill a hand gridded 8x10 paper and once she did that she got a bigger reward. Toy, cookie, it was her choice. We only had to do about 3 sheets till she one day just walked in to bathroom and did her thing and came out and said, "Mommy, i went potty in the tiolet" She will be 3 in sept. Just find something she really likes (crafty) and find a way to intertwine it with potty training. You can do it and one day you will be proud as i was and still am. Good luck

Beth - posted on 07/26/2010

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My son turned 3 n march. And he has accident free now for a week and a half. he had a time where he was doing good and then i had another baby and he started using his diaper again, also another change he had was the fact that he quit goin to the babysitter (around the other children that were being potty trained). it has been a long hard road. but what seemed to help him was when we just backed off, i mean he would get spatted if he had a accident and that didnt help. now zak is so proud of his under roos that he wants to show everyone. and now that he goes to tha potty he thinks everyone is supposed to see what hes done in the potty ( i kno that sounds nasty but i have the attitude if its gonna help him then do it) but every child is different. and just bcuz it worked for one child doesnt mean that it will for another. i had ppl that would compare him to kids in thier family, but the children were both n 2 totally different situations which i think made a difference.

Lacey - posted on 07/22/2010

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I am having the same problem with my daughter who also turned 3 this year. Don't stress over it. Every child is different. She will learn in her own time.

Amanda - posted on 07/22/2010

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My doctor says, "relax"...each child has their own time frame. Don't stress and force it. My daughter is three now, and not completely potty trained, but close! In the summer, we go without bottoms, a lot and it helps. She is much more aware of "feelings" with no pants on. I can tell her maturity and awareness develops on it's own. She is quite sensitive so I don't think that pressuring her is a good idea. Let it flow naturally. No pun intended. I've never seen a college entrance exam that wants to know at what age the child was potty trained! And no one in college still wears diapers! In the 1950's they potty trained their children much later in life than is fashionable today!

Jessi - posted on 07/22/2010

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From comparing notes with many other moms I have found that something clicks with the kid and they instantly decide not to go in their pants anymore and that's the end of it. That's what happened with me too. That and something that happened at my daughter's daycare. She was about to move to the three's room and she was VERY excited for the move. She LOVED Ms. Shannon. So Ms. Shannon had a talk with her and told her that if she didn't start going in the potty then she wouldn't be able to move to the next classroom. That week, she stopped having daily accidents and went to the bathroom every time she had to go. She was probably training/in pull-ups for about six months before that and was gradually getting better and better, but it was that talk that flipped the switch.

If you really think the only thing the potty is is a toy, then I too suggest that you get a new one. The one we have has a removable seat so that you can put it on the regular toilet to help the child transition when they're moving from the potty to the toilet.

I also did potty charts, poopy charts. with prizes/goals. they helped and it made it fun. Don't stress about it, don't make her get stressed. You don't want to make going to the bathroom traumatic. If she is stressing, stop for a week or two and start back up. And there are a couple books I highly recommend that helped a lot for me. Everyone poops. In this book I changed one part, when they're talking about where adults, older, younger children poop, then they go to where babies poop and I would say "only BABIES poop in their pants." And then The Potty Book. They have one for boys and girls. My daughter still loves this book and she's 4. She even named her baby doll Hannah, the name of the girl in the book.

If there is an accident, don't make a big deal of it, just clean it up, have the child help if they can and move on. At my daughter's daycare, they made the child change their own clothes so that they didn't get attention from having an accident. If they have to do it themselves, they'll also turn out not liking it and not want to do it anymore because they'll have to dress themselves.

Emily - posted on 07/22/2010

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My daughter was just 3, and decided, herself, not to wear nappies, at all, anymore. This was after having lots of friends, with kids her age, visit and they were all out of nappies. My son, now 3.5 yrs, has been out of nappies for roughly 3 months now. I had tried before to train him, but with no joy. All he did was scream and cry, so I gave up as it was stressfull on us both. Then 3 months ago, something in his head clicked and he started using the potty and came out of nappies completely. So far, no accidents in bed.... touch wood!!! I do believe each child is different and it certainly isn't worth getting stressed about. The more you force them, the more afraid of the toilet/potty they become!!!!

Stacie - posted on 07/22/2010

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I agree with Cleva in that the potty should not be a toy, get a simple one. Also, keep the process simple. At the same time, kids do this on their time. It is us parents that put the pressure on the child and sometimes that can really backfire. My 5.5 yr old was pressured into it be her Grandma at the age of 2, which then created many fights with our daughter over pottying. It turned out she wasn't ready because she was having chronic urinary tract infections (UTIs) and they hurt, so she would scream if we made her sit on the potty. So we had about 2 years of a pottying nightmare before we figured out what was wrong. The 1.5 yrs have been a lot easier because while she still has wet accidents on occaision, we take it as a matter of fact with her, and generally she uses the potty. The wet accidents happen when symptoms are starting. My point in sharing that with you is that once we treated pottying as a matter of fact it calmed everyone down and she started choosing to use the potty on her own. Prior to that we were choosing when she used the potty and she is too strong willed for that. Good luck!

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I just started my son (2yrs, 7mnth) and all has been going well except that he refuses to use a potty and for some reason he feels he has to wee outside ???

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My son was 3 1/2 before he decided he was a big boy and would use the potty. It was like a switch was flipped. One day he decided he would be a big boy and that was the end of it. I kept him in pullups for the first 5 days because that's what he wanted, just in case. After that, I "put my foot down" and told him that big boys wear underpants while babies wear diapers. Well that was the end of the pullups (and the celebration in my head went off in full force). Sometimes I think they just have decide for themselves and then they do awesome.

Jen - posted on 07/16/2010

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warlmart has this double tolit seat it is a real adult seat and a toddler seat togather it helped us and its not that much that way there is no playin at the potty.

Jen - posted on 07/16/2010

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My son goes with his clothes on too. Everone keeps telling me each child at their own time and I beleive it with my older child it took seeing others in underwear at preschool.LOL letting someone else help really helps as long as it is simliar tec.

Colette - posted on 07/14/2010

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i started potty training my son just after his 2nd birthday,it took 5 mts in total to fully potty train him with no accidents.i think every child is different she will get it when she is ready !!!

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