by what age should a child be potty trained

Dianne - posted on 02/03/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




my son is turning 3 in May and at the momet only goes if I send him to the toilet and doesn't tell me when he neds to go

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Melony - posted on 02/29/2012




A child isn't considered behind with potty training until they are 4 years old. This doesn't mean you shouldn't try, it's just that some children develop at different ages and take llonger to catch on than others. Some train around 1 year to 18 months, and some take as long as 4 years old to be properly trained. Pressure ffom other people/family is what makes mothers think that older children should be potty trained already, and that's not always the case. It all depends on the personality of the child. You do not want to create an unhealthy relationship with teh bathroom with your child. My son is very strong willed and is just potty training now (2.5 years) after many, MANY failed attempts. Each time I would try to train before he was ready he would take longer and longer to try the next time around. When he was ready is was a lot easier than I thought. It's all about patience.

Giving them a relaxed environment is key. Grab a few pairs of big boy undies, put them on and wait for the mess. The first few times they definitely will not like the feeling of pee on cloth (it's itchy and annoying) and soon he will figure out that before he needs to go he needs to go on the potty. When he does pee, simply put him on the potty and explain that this is where the pee needs to go so he can stay clean, dry etc. however you want to explain it to him is your choice. If he is ready he will eventually go on the potty. First it will probably be after sitting for a few minutes, and soon enough he will put 2 and 2 together, know the sensation and go when he needs to.

No one way is right for everyone. I would look up different methods online and try what works best for you and your son. Just remember not to pressure him. Not all kids handle that pressure well and in the end it will only make potty training more stressful and take longer than it needs to. Just stay patient, work with him and don;t force him to do anything he doesn;t want to do. I wish you the best of luck :)

Donna - posted on 02/19/2012




My first was really easy to potty train and was going to the potty by 18 months and toilet by just over 2 years old. now hes fully trained at 3 so have no problems. My youngest is the problem although he potty trained very early because he was watching my oldest who is 11 months older than him, we took a backward slide when he developed paediatric constipation which is apparently very common (who knew) so he was in so much pain having a number 2 we had to put him back onto pullups cause he could not go sitting down. He is now on laxatives which help him daily but because having a number 2 does not hurt he does not realise he is doing it so we are back to pullups. he know if he needs a pee and asks to go to te toilet and even stands up for a pee instead of sitting down. Doctor advised me she believes he will eventually realise it does not hurt anymore and natuarlly revert to the toilet but he will be monitored for the next few months. I always think as long as they are trained by Nursery-Pre-school age they are fine.

Brittney - posted on 02/05/2012




In my personal opinion, I think all children need to be potty trained by 1-2 years. I can understand it isn't easy to potty train a 1 year old, but it takes persistence at any age.

Just keep working with him, he'll start to understand. Give him something to look forward to after he goes, such as stickers, hugs, kisses, lots of praise. Don't bribe him, that'll make things worse. Take him to the potty every 30 minutes to 1 hour, look for a pattern in his daily schedule like does he go in the morning as soon as he wakes? before or after nap? once you can answer these questions, he will have less accidents. You can also try letting him pick out underwear, that allows him to become more involved in the training too. Switch to cloth and/or disposable training pants, he needs to know when he's wet so he'll understand before he goes. Take him to the potty about 10 minutes before he has to go.

I hope this helps!

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