cant get my school aged son to wipe his bottom

Jennifer - posted on 03/15/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hey everyone
My son is at school and still dosnt wipe his bottom he hangs on all day too use the toilet just so we can help him. we have tried so many things but still no break through any ides would be great...................

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Briava - posted on 03/17/2014

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Just show him over and over. my 2.5yr old wipes her own bottom. She's not perfect at it, but definitely does a great job.

Lindsay - posted on 01/30/2014

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My son is eight and never wipes after he's had a bowel movement. It obviously doesn't bother him to walk around with a dirty bottom all day. Sometimes I'm alerted by his smell, I spy on him (he leaves the door open!) sometimes and see him just get off the toilet after finishing his business and scampering off to the next activity without a thought of wiping. I'm so upset because I've been teaching him how to do it since he was 2, and have tried everything over the years to try and habitualize this bathroom routine. I've talked to him about the physical and social repercussions of not wiping and he still doesn't wipe unless monitored.
Thank you for opening this discussion - keep us updated on anything that has been helpful to you concerning this problem.

Sarah - posted on 09/21/2012

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I totally understand your issue here. I have tried every thing with my son as well. I have done it all, prizes, a reward sticker chart, and leaving him there crying to do and he still will not. He says that he does not want to touch poop and that he just won't do it! Today he stayed in the bathroom at PE until they went looking for him and finally the school nurse had to do it! I think if you don't have anything constructive to say you should just not help!

Sarah - posted on 07/19/2012

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i have been having the same problem with my 5 year old nearly 6 year old son, he refuses to wipe his own bum, wont even try, he says he doesnt want to get poo on his fingers, its driving me nuts as his dad says i should just leave him on toliet and ignore his calls for help (which i have done in past) but he ends up getting off and being stinky so i end up showering him then so i would rather just help him on the toliet. How can i get him to try? his 3 year old brother does it himself.

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2010

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Lyndsay

I am not allowing it too happen i have tried and tried and tried when he does do it ive got to go in there and fix him up. He has had problems with his bowels since he was a baby im not gonna let him walk around with pooped jocks. I have two other boys that have been taught the same way and they are very capable of doing it themselves so DONT DARE tell me im allowing it...............

Lyndsay - posted on 03/17/2010

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School aged as in 5 or 6? I'm sorry but that is just completely ridiculous to me. If that is still going on its because you're allowing it to. Show him how to wipe properly and tell him to do it himself.

Jennifer - posted on 03/16/2010

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Thanks heaps for your responses i thought i was the only one having these problems which made me feel like i had done something wrong. I guess he will do it in his own time i just have to keep encourage him. My main concern was him holding on so i might seek some advice of Dr, cause it couldnt be good for him holding on.

Thank you so much nicola and emma

Emma - posted on 03/16/2010

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my daughter is the same, some day after school she is clean, sometimes she isnt, she used to wipe her bum in school and she now either thinks she isnt doing it right or sometimes has poo left there, she has come home today with clean knickers, yesterday they were solied but i think thats from her not wiping herself properly. im sure your son will get it soon but if not and your worried, ask a health visitor or a nurse at your doctors. hope this helps, my daughter is 5 and a half.

Nicola - posted on 03/15/2010

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Is he worried that he can't do it properly or that he will get poo on his hands? I guess by school age you would have tried every incentive and encouragement at being a big boy and learning to take care of his own body.



Holding all day is not good for him as this bad habit is very hard to break and can cause chronic constipation which can lead to soiling - which is even worse!!! My 51/2 year old boy has that problem and today alone he has soiled 3 times (some of which is him being lazy and some is a true medical condition where he doesn't get proper sensations to tell him to go because his bowel is so damaged from holding). I am tearing my hair out and just an hr ago said to my husband "what can we do to make him use the toilet properly" to which he replied "he will do it when he is ready". Not the answer I wanted to hear because I want the problem solved now but he is right. He will do it when he is ready - and I guess similarly your boy will wipe by himself when he is ready.



Good luck to you and your family!

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