Grandparents & potty training

Martha - posted on 03/21/2009

My son is 2 27 months old and he hates the potty and only likes the toilet, but I have the same problem he goes sometimes on the toilet and the other times he goes in his pull ups...He hates when there is pew in his pullup he tells me mommy pee pee hhahaha...It just takes time I care for many children over the years and there all different..One thing I tryed was putting there favorite toy on the potty and pretend he pies in the potty put water in the cup and poor it in like he did,that worked for me for one of the boy I babysat...Good luck My group is called I am a proud mom if you would like to join it has a picture of a child on it...thanks

Natalie - posted on 03/20/2009

Hi Steph, you need to tell both grandparents that he is your child and you will raise him how you and your husband decide, there is no set text book style child ( unfortunately) they are all different and what may work on one child will not neccasarily work on another.Time's were different back when we were kids and nappies were so expensive and cloth nappies so hard to wash so ofcourse we were rushed into potty training. I think there is being too much focus on him learning to use the potty which is scaring him off, and putting too much pressure on him. My husbands grandmother tried telling us that she had her children potty trained by 9mths so my hubby got that idea in his head and started putting pressure on our daughter and she didnt want to know about it- after many arguments about it he finally came round- we placed the potty in her playroom where she is most the time but where she can still see us and she just started going- havent mastered #2's yet though- I think its important that the parents start off first and then once he is in a comfortable routine at home introduce the potty to him at the grandparents and stipulate that its your terms and maybe take the potty he is using at home to the grandparents -know its a hassle but get him used to the one and not 3 diff ones-nothing makes me madder than interfering parents, you need to start sticking up for  your son more as ultimately he is the one who is suffering from it , i know its easier said than done, but once you've established your boundaries then you'll get your confidence back- My daughter is 2 and a half now and while she was doing great with the wee's she has now gone backwards and wants a nappy on all the time- Jamie on here pointed out that there was a change in the home- and she was right, my hubby lost his job afew weeks ago so she is most likely picking up on our vibes that all is not right- but when we started her we just showed it to her and let her go- didnt make a big deal  out of it when she did start using it as didnt want  her to feel bad if she had an accident- sometimes when we ask her she screams no, other times she just gets on it herself- your son will get there steph, but think its important to not have EVERYONE in his life who is important to him making a big deal out of it, like i said to my hubby- how many teenagers do you see in nappies?? zero- because at some point they will pick it up on their own and its important that you just encourage and love them! Im a first time mum too and it can be daunting because everyone seems to think they know everything about your child, but ultimately no one knows your child better than you, so just go with your gut feeling! Hope this helps