Help! My 4 year old son WILL NOT Go on the Toilet!

Amy - posted on 11/30/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hello,

I am at my wits end! My youngest son, who turned 4 in October, refuses to go on the toilet. He has no problem whatsoever, wetting his pants or making a mess in his pants! GROSS!! I have tried everything, from sticker charts, potty chocolate, earning his V-Tech privilge, buying new "big boy" underwear, taking under wear away, putting him back in pull-ups.....NOTHING seems to work! He is just very lazy and would rather continue playing than go to the bathroom. When I make him go, or tell him it's time for a "bathroom break" he flips a lid and screams the entire time he's sitting on the toilet! Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!

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Jennifer - posted on 12/01/2009

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I'm with you, my son also turned 4 in October and its been difficult to get him to go to the bathroom, bribing him only goes so far!! He goes to preschool and needs to be potty trained by next school year or won't be able to go! I don't know what to do anymore!!!

Jennifer - posted on 12/02/2009

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Let him play with cars on the toilet if your using a little toilet seat... Just turn it around so he facing the tank, and put cars back there and let him play, and he will go... That is what we did with my son, to get him interested and it work, and now he is going all by himself... Or you can put his favorite toys back there if there not that big... And then after he got interested in it... We put fruit loops in the toilet and told him to aim for the fruit loops... But then again my son is into deer hunting and bird hunting that is why we did that... Give it a try and see if it works for you!! Good Luck....

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Abigail Jessica - posted on 10/09/2012

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I have the same problem, my son has turned 4 in August ive been potty trainin him for 2 years now. He goes for wee fine on the toilet only when it comes to number 2's. I have tried everythin to get him to go, it just doesnt seem to be workin at all. Its makin me very stressed out and its even makin tears to come to my eyes. I try to give him toys, read to him, food, chocolate when he is on the toilet, even have to bribe him to go to the toilet like he wont be allowed on the computer to play games if he doesnt go. But that method failed straight away. Dont know wat else to do need help!!!!!!!!

Shelley - posted on 12/02/2009

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My son just turned 3, he wouldn't use the potty with all the 'Pomp and circunstance' and decided to use the big toilet one day and came out and yelled at his potty and moved it! He never used his potty once, now working on him going #2! I feel for ya! I thought he'd never be trained! Maybe if there is a boy in the house, allow him ti watch, if not, let him watch you. My son always says I'm going 'stinky' because we sit down all the time. GOOD LUCK!!!

Shawna - posted on 12/02/2009

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At these older ages it is more of a control issue, especially if they are otherwise normal children. It is going to come down to the parent regaining control. My 2nd did not train until this week and she is almost 3. I have a new baby and thought that was the problem, but soon realized I was the problem as well, not being consistant. You MUST mean waht you say and say what you mean. With children this age, I would say it is time for consequences for not going (if they know how). One thing I did with my almost 3 yr old, and my mother-in-law had to do with my husband (who had accidents at 5 b/c he didn't want to stop playing to go), is make them clean themselves. When they have an accident, take them to the bathroom and have them change themselves-YES, even the poop. Eventually they will get tired of cleaning up the mess just like we do. Do that as well as taking away favorite toys. If it comes to it...no t.v., games, or toys until they realize they have to be able to use the potty before they can play or be entertained (especially if that is what is distracting them). Hope this helps!

Michelle - posted on 11/30/2009

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I'm in the same boat . My daughter will be 4 in Jan. Iv been trying to potty train her for the last year. My other 2 children were trained by 2. I've done everything. She just throws a tantrum and says no that she doesn't like the potty... Ugh!!

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