HELP! potty training across two homes

Kristie - posted on 06/18/2012

I am having a slight similar problem except I have my 3 year old sons dad saying he doesnt wet the bed at their house but he does at my house. Its hard to believe its so different between parents so I am strugglnig with him wanted to not wet the bed.

Misti - posted on 06/13/2012

its hard both households need to b in partnership with it. other thing we dont buy him toys just because anymore we use them as rewards

Misti - posted on 06/13/2012

my 3yr old grandmother got him a chart to put a sticker on everytime he goes in the potty. Here at my house i got a small wipe off board and we put x's on it for each time he goes potty for the whole week then each x equals a penny we do this every week

Laurie - posted on 06/13/2012

he spends a week in each house, but the extent of the communication between his bios is what bumbs and bruises he got during the week (neither wants the other screaming abuse, because they will) and not much else they almost never talk about his health or potty training, when my husband once asked her what his diet was like at her house she said "huh? whats that?" and the truly sad part is that their communication has vastly improved in the last year and a half, i drive myself crazy sometimes and just don't know what to do.

Brittney - posted on 06/13/2012

I didn't want this question to go unanswered. The main problem I see is the communication issue, someone will need to communicate to the bio parents how they are going to potty train and they should use the same method, I also recommend brainstorming a little (like how often is your step son with his bio parents? hour wise. Because I also recommend night training while day training, it seems to go quicker that way.)

I can't tell you how to do it, the problem I had was that my husbands grandparents refused to believe that my daughter (at 1 year of age) was potty training, they said I was wasting my time. I believe that it is possible (she was going in the potty consistently at 15 months and never wore diapers during the day) and for almost 6 months they never saw her, I'm also afraid that if she visits them they wont take her to the potty. There is something wrong with our communication and I just do not trust them anymore.

I don't think it would be 2 steps backward, I think he would just learn he has to use the potty at your house but can use diapers at the other house. The way I made my daughter interested was I put her on it regularly and praised her for going, I only reward her for poops in the potty. I hope this helped at least a little bit.