Holds her poop until Nap Time or Night Bed time/Morning...

Andrea - posted on 02/24/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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We started potty training at 22 months and by the time my daughter turned 2 in November, she was pretty much potty trained - with a few setbacks, etc. She now only wears a diaper during her nap and overnight. We can get her to go pee before she goes to sleep, but not poop! When I go to get her after her nap or in the morning, she almost always has a poop. Sometimes I'll see her still awake (we have a video monitor) 30-45 mins after we put her down, and go to check on her, and the poop is what has kept her awake. This happens NO MATTER what time we put her down. I've tried waiting longer to see if she would poop, but no. This is however, a NEW issue. She has pooped plenty of times on the potty when she first started training - but for some reason now has a preference for her diaper. We did discover a constipation issue a couple weeks ago, and have fixed that now. Not sure what to do - should I put her down for her nap without a diaper? I don't dare do that overnight. I also am thinking of using a "reward" method, but only as a last resort - I'm really not fond of rewarding for something that is just part of life - I use praise and excitement, but that's it so far. Any suggestions?

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Bernadette - posted on 03/02/2012

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the different potty may or may not make a difference, it was just a suggestion. I just thought that, even though she had no issues with the other one before being consipated, maybe it would help now as she may be scared to do it for fear of it hurting. I think you need to push a bit harder in the chair position, whereas gravity helps a little more in the squat position, so she wouldn't have to push as hard. Just a thought though.



I don't think your daughter is too young to go without a nappy while sleeping, although you'll probably want a water proof mattress protector. I started potty training my daughter when she was about the same age your daughter is now, and she got it in about 3 days for wees, a few days longer for poos (we also have a chair style potty, which she did find a bit difficult at first as she was used to squatting to do it in her nappy - we have one of the squat ones at my parents' place and she seemed to find it a bit easier) because I just put her in underwear full-time during the day. We'd tried and given up many times, using pull-ups when we went out but because we go out a lot it just wasn't working. So one day i went, nope, no more of this. It's underwear full-time so that she gets it. And get it she did! I hadn't even intended to start on night-time training for a long time, and kept putting her in nappies for sleeps but once she had started doing her business on the potty during the day, that was it. A couple of nights in, she woke up in tears and I went racing in thinking she'd fallen out of bed. She hadn't. It took me a while to work out what she was trying to say through the tears but suddenly it dawned on me that maybe she needed to go. I put her on the potty, and sure enough she needed to wee. After that, she'd wake me up crying practically every night, upset because in her subconscious state she thought she'd done it in her pants, even though she was wearing nappies. So I thought, well if she's going to wake me up every night anyway, despite the nappies, I'll just take her out of them altogether. We've had a few accidents, but they are seriously only once every couple of months, especially if she has had a big day and is too tired to wake herself up. I do usually get her up at about 11 pm and put her on the potty though, and that sees her through the rest of the night. Speaking of which, it's 11pm now so better go do that and head to bed...



But anyway, long story short - no I don't think she's too young to go without a nappy at night. I might be just what she needs. Oh, and if you value your sleep, it might be a good idea to invest in two mattress protectors - put one on the mattress, then a bottom sheet, then another mattress protector, then another bottom sheet. That way, if she has an accident you can just rip off one sheet and mattress protector, and there is a fresh one underneath so that you can just clean her up and put her straight back into bed - no changing sheets in the middle of the night, or having to put her down somewhere while you change it. I know that my daughter settles much faster if I can put her straight back in bed. She's tired, disoriented and upset as it is, and if I have to put her down on the floor or couch or whatever with the lights on, she gets more and more upset. If I can just rip of the top layer and put her straight back in, she goes back to sleep quickly. And so do I...



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Bernadette - posted on 03/08/2012

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good luck with it! She's still pretty young, so I wouldn't worry too much. She'll get it when she's ready.

Andrea - posted on 03/07/2012

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This is all great info. I tried her nap without a diaper - just did loose pj pants and she peed and pooped in them and made no fuss about it :( It also made her skip her nap - which at this point I'm not sure is worth it. We have gone back to diapers during sleep and nothing during the day. The new potty did help, and she loves it cause it looks like a frog :) But I think we are going to hold off on the poop issue for abit. I've resorted to bribery, and told her if she poops on the potty she gets a cookie - hasn't worked yet, but we'll see. I just keep reminding her to go poop in the potty every time I see it in her diaper. She also now is using the potty as an excuse to stay up longer - and it's hard to say no, but after 8 tries and it's 9:30, we just had to. We now give her 3 tries at night, and then that's it. I think I should work on getting her up as soon as she wakes up, or getting her to call me when she needs to go. blah - so frustrating.

Andrea - posted on 03/01/2012

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Also - a poop in her diaper or padded underwear doesn't bother her - she lays in it for a while and only mentions it when I go and get her. She's not the type of kid to call me when she first wakes up - she'll wait over an hour just laying there sucking her thumb or singing to herself - that's why we have a video monitor.

Andrea - posted on 03/01/2012

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Would the potty make any difference if she's had no issues going in this one before? It's not fancy, just basic, but it's one that just has her sitting like on a chair. And you guys don't think she is too young to go without a diaper while sleeping? She goes without them ALL the time other than nap and night time. I actually started her potty training with nothing on bottom - and then moved to having padded underwear - but now I'm seeing that is causeing an issue because she thinks of them as a diaper and accidents are back. So I'm back to nothing on the bottom. She's still having accidents thoug and I'm not sure if the constipation is back, or if she's too distracted by tv,, or both. I got her regular big girl underwear for when we go back to using that, so it wont feel like a diaper - but man, I feel like I'm starting all over again. Maybe her holding it has caused the constipation. I tried her without a diaper for a nap (but she had the padded underwear on) and one nap was successful - the next one she did both in her underwear and had no issues with it - just said in a slightly disappointed voice "awww, peepee in the underwear" like we always say.

Bernadette - posted on 02/26/2012

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I agree with Michelle about getting rid of the diapers altogether. Another thing is that you menioned since she got consipated, she has stopped wanting to go on the potty so just wondering what type of potty you have. The ones that make the child have to squat on, with their knees up and to the sides of the potty (as opposed to sitting like on a chair with the upper legs parallel to the ground and knees together in front) make it much easier to poo. If she was using a potty that didn't put her in this squat position, she may have noticed while she was constipated that it was easier/hurt less if she could do it in her nappy as she could get into the position that was most comfortable for her, which could then have led to her deciding to do it this way all the time.



So if you don't have one of those potties, I'd suggest investing in one (they are the cheapest ones anyway, just the old style basic potty - all the new, flash expensives ones really are nowhere near as good for teaching a child how to poo), and also get rid of the sleep time nappies. She'll soon find it's more uncomfortable to have it in her undies than to just do it on the potty.

Michelle - posted on 02/25/2012

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I would invest in a really good pee pad for her mattress and get rid of the diapers all together, if my daughter has a diaper on I guarantee she will pee in it if she is in her panties all day she goes on the potty for everything.

Ashley - posted on 02/25/2012

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My daughter has done this, for her its more of a stalling mechanism, to get out of going to bed. Its extremely frustrating. With your daughter this doesn't seem to be the case. Not sure what to suggest! With my daughter i tell her she can sleep in it, eventually she stopped it BUT she LOVES going poo in the potty like a big girl. We did the reward method for a short period of time, seemed to help went from giving her bubbles and toy jewelry to candy or stickers.



Not much help I know but Good Luck!!

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