how do i get my 3yr old son interested in potty training?

Sara - posted on 02/09/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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he seems to have no interest in using the potty. he also freaks out if i mention him using the potty

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Colleen - posted on 02/10/2010

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Don't make him sit if he doesn't want to it will only make things worse. Get some books for him to read about potty training maybe a video also and let him see you use the potty and Daddy use the potty. Don't push it he will let you know when he is ready to use it. Does it tell you when he is going pee? that is usually a sign that he/she maybe ready. If he is not ready no amount of pushing it is going to work it will only make it take longer. He will feel you stressing about it and won't be comfortable. Just keep talking about the potty so his mind can get used to the idea before his body gets used to it. My rule is that if its a struggle to get him/her to go potty then he/she is not ready for it. Potty training is easy when he/she is ready for it. Don't try to make him grow up before he feels mentally ready to.

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Tasha - posted on 03/10/2010

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Every child is different. I have two boys (7 and 3), and my oldest was a piece of cake to potty train. He trained at 3.5 years old and it only took two weeks. My youngest was the same age and it didn't take much longer with him, but the way they each approached potty training was different. My oldest was ready and willing. My youngest knew he could control it and he didn't want to go. He knew when he had to go, knew what he was supposed to do, but was too lazy to stop and do it. So, I went to the extreme and had him run around the house naked for a week. Since I knew that he understood the sensation of having to go, I felt safe and confident in having him run around and not having to clean up messes every few hours. I gave him a "special" seat to sit on. It was basically an old towel on the floor in front of the tv where he could sit. I also had his own little potty chair in the bathroom that he could sit on by himself. That is a big thing. The regular toilet scares them too much. They feel like they're going to fall in. I took him to the store so he could pick it out (that's a huge thing too) and then told him whenever he needed to go, to pull his pants down and sit on his potty chair. He was afraid of making a mess on himself, so he ran to his little potty chair every time he had to go and within a week, he was fully potty trained. The next week I quit using pull ups on him at night and he's maybe had 3 accidents at night since then. Hope this helps!

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Hi Sara, try putting fruit loops in the potty and tell him to shoot at them. for each color he sinks he gets a star. place a star board or paper on the wall next to the potty and the color he sinks get a star. each star represents a prize of whatever you choose. have fun doing it and he will have fun too and get potty trained at the same time.
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Anna - posted on 02/27/2010

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Hi Sara, My name is Anna. I hope you don't mind me sharing my experience with you. I have been a preschool teacher for 12 years, and helped potty training a lot of children. When came to my own child things were different, I decided to try and experiment. Every time that my husband or I went to the restroom we placed our child on his own little potty, with his clothes on, we didn't make him sit if he didn't want to. We did this for awhile and never pressed the issue. Next, we took off his diaper and sat him on his potty, if he wanted to sit he did if he didn't no issues. When he was a little over 2 1/2 years he became completely pee pee potty trained. We only put him in underwear, because pull ups just feel like another diaper. Yes, he has accidents, however, we never scolded him for accidents. Accidents are just what they are. I am still having issues with the back end, I have to remind myself that he just turned three. I hope this has helped, and any suggestions you might have for the back end please let me know.

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There ahave alrady been many answers on here that are likely helpful , but here is y 2 cents worth.... Google the 3 day potty training method. It's an e-book...long story short I had a nightmare potty training with my first child(she was not well trained until well over 3), and used this method for my second - she was completely potty trained in 3 days. I have several friends who have tried it now with amazing sucess... night and day, boys and girls! It's one of those things I just can't help telling other people about it is so wonderful!

the Website is www.3daypottytraining.com

Holly - posted on 02/24/2010

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Oh yea - we used the smaller seat on the toilet too & a stool. I read somewhere to put a stool so they can steady their feet & feel more secure. We didn't start with the stool though until sometime in Dec or January when I read that. He just sort of held onto the sides to make himself feel mroe secure.

Holly - posted on 02/24/2010

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I made up a treat pail with a paint can from the hardware store. We decorated it & called it "Tanner's Treat Pail". He got to pick something when he went & we also did a potty train and he got to put a sticker on each time he went. I went to childavenue (or something like that) & printed it off for free. Good luck! You'll get there! From what I hear they are all so different on when they get potty trained. My son was over just shy of 4 1/2 before we got him completely potty trained on going poop in the toilet! MANY an accident!

Mandy - posted on 02/17/2010

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sounds really funny-but toss a couple cheerios into the toilet and make it a game and have him aime for them. sounds really weird, but i have heard it work on MANY occasions.

Barbara - posted on 02/17/2010

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with my son my mom did it,, she took him to the garden and water the flowers,,, when he learned to ask then to the potty..... it worked fine, but at night he was a bed wetter till 6 yo,,, with my girl Im in the process and when ever she goes she gets a princess sticker, a small one for peeing and a big one pooping... its working soooo wonderfull....

CaSandra - posted on 02/17/2010

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Transitoning my son into a new school (day care) was fairly easy. His new teacher was working with him and everything was going great until my son was in the bathroom when the fire alarm went off. Now he doesn't like to go to his new school and has no interest in going potty anymore. I am hoping that time will help but how much time should I give him. By the way he is three.

Erin - posted on 02/14/2010

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Thanks...I will give the table idea a try and I will try to relax and let it happen. Thanks again.

Sara - posted on 02/12/2010

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I tried to potty train my son twice with no joy, however i gave up and moved house we left it for ages and then all of a sudden he did it himself, I am a great believer in that they will do it themselves when they are ready and you will not have any accidents i am sure that will work for you Ben is 3 1/2

Krystle - posted on 02/12/2010

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We regressed with our daughter may times Erin, We tried books, charts, dances and everything you can think of, Then about 3 months ago we took away the potty chair and gave her a potty seat and a small fold up table in front of it where we would put coloring books and toys. She would get so into sitting there that she started wanting to go potty by herself. Within a month she was completly potty trained. She hasnt even had a accident at night. We let her pick out her own undies from the store and explained to her that diapers were for babies. I don't know if your son is like this buy my daughter who will be 3 in a couple of days makes it known to everyone that she is not a baby Good Luck!

Erin - posted on 02/11/2010

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Ok, keep the ideas coming for me. I have the same problem. My son just turned 3 and wants nothing to do with the potty. The hard part for me is just after his 2nd birthday, we started trying and it was going great...he was almost potty trained. Thne something happened, not sure what, but he regressed...completely. We tried not to go back to diapers but after about 3 weeks of wet/dirty clothes and house...we gave in. He wont tell us when he wants/needs to go potty anymore, he doesnt want to have his diaper changed if he is wet/dirty, and he screams when i even mention using the potty. We tried rewards of all kinds (candy/toys), books, charts, dvds, targets in the potty, special big boy underwear...you name it, we tried it. We have several different potty's and seats, thinking maybe he didnt like the ones we had. We take him with us so he can see, we tried sitting/standing. He flushes the toilet all the time so I know he isnt scared of the noise. It is so frustrating. I just keep trying to tell myself that you dont see many teenagers walking around in diapers.....but mine might be one of the first!! :) Someone help..

Tammy - posted on 02/11/2010

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My son is not interest in using the potty at all! He will sit on it. he is wearing big boy underwear. But is not talking in full sentances. Help plz
I have read most of the hinds on getting them to help but I am still suck in a runt.

Lana - posted on 02/11/2010

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Show him some cool big boy underwears..They have so many to chose from with characters the kids just love..

Sabrina - posted on 02/11/2010

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try a reward chart every time he uses the potty put a sticker on the chart and tell him that every sticker is worth 5p and the more 5p he gets means he ca go to the shop and spend on pocket money toys or sweets it worked with my little girl and she was dry in a wk hope this idea help u sabrina xxx

Melissa - posted on 02/11/2010

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I tried a few times to toilet train my son and it wasn't until he was 3 that it was successful. I would say that my son is a very strongwilled child... I read the book Potty Training in One Week by Gina Ford... it was awesome and is only short so didn't take long to read... I followed all the principles and within one week had my son happily using the toilet (started on the potty for a few days). I used a stamp chart and gave a treat for when he goes poos... he forgot about the treat after a couple of weeks! And he was dry at night after a couple of weeks too. The book does say not to use pull ups or nappies once you start training (apart from slep times) so that they don't get confused. Good luck... it sounds like you're nearly there! One day soon it will just click and you'll be wondering what all the fuss was about (that's how it happened for me and my son:)

Leah - posted on 02/10/2010

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Have you tried putting a seat on the toilet itself, my son wouldn't use the potty he screamed blue murder, we battled with the potty for months I cant tell you how frustrated we were but the minute we tried this he took to the idea, and he loved flushing the toilet, strange but true. Also he liked the idea that he was a big person and could use it like we did. Hence he was only trained 2 months before his 3rd birthday.

Christina - posted on 02/10/2010

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My daughter will be 2 on Feb 18th, and I bought special bath toys and a few potty books that we have in a bucket next to the toilet that she can only use when she is going potty. When she is done whether she has gone or not we get up and clap and dance around so she understands that she did something special and then she gets stickers if she does go potty.

Sara - posted on 02/10/2010

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I have found a few tricks that work amazingly well with my son who is going to be 3 in a few days. he gets treats for using the potty. everytime he goes and uses the potty he gets 1 m&m, we have books he is only allowed to read when sitting on the potty.

Jennifer - posted on 02/10/2010

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We would reward him - 1 m&m for peeing, and up to 3 for pooping. Also, we would read stories in the bathroom. My son decided that he was done wearing diapers 2 wks after his 3rd birthday. We never went the pull-up route and after about 3 wks of getting up in the middle of the night to change the sheets, we no longer had nighttime issues. I am glad that we didn't prolong it with the pull-ups. I don't recommend them, they just prolong them learning when they need to go at night.

Christina - posted on 02/10/2010

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we went to our library and checked out some childrens books and movies that were about potty trainng. They helped to spark the intrest. We would also take him with us when we went potty, and say wow...daddy went potty yeah! soon he would tell us good job mommy or good job daddy...and he wanted us to tell him good job too. Plus it helps for them to see other kids their age going potty too. My son was in preschool for a week and thats all it took, he was trained right after he turned 3. GOOD LUCK! I know it can be super frustrating, but when the child is ready they will let you know.

Sara - posted on 02/10/2010

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thanks ladies i will be trying some of these things. we were making progress last spring until he went to use the potty on his own(he didnt wait for me to come help). climbed on the potty and fell in. he hit his head and got stuck. thats when the avoinding the potty began. i only have him sit on the potty when he tells me he wants too. theres no consistancy to when he wants but i am tryin my very hardest to go with his pace. Again thanks for the advice ladies i will let you know how it goes.

Rebecca - posted on 02/09/2010

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My step son was about 28 months when we started potty training and what we did was associate it with positive things, for example keep a little box of books that he may like or toys and keep it near the potty. Reward him with little toys from the dollar store or stickers or maybe a couple M&M's lots of hugs, kisses and praise is what they really enjoy, the prizes are just something a little extra. At first he would be very upset about sitting on the potty, but now if I ask him to go sit on the potty he is quick to get his pull-up down and be on there, lol. But yeah its a long process but he will get it eventually, mine actually gets soo excited now once he goes potty and sometimes when I bake cookies he will go running to the potty because he knows he will get cookies if he goes potty. Its so cute that he knows how to earn things now. Good luck, its a lot of work but its worth it!

Danielle - posted on 02/09/2010

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my daughter is 15 months and is already beginning potty training. a very good tip is to get the insert that you put on the toilet that fits their bottom so they don't feel like their going to fall in. with my daughter...i sit her on the potty, and sit down in front of her. she leans forward and puts her arms around my neck and that seems to help soothe her that sitting on the potty is OKAY. sometimes she pees sometimes she doesn't...but she's not afraid. if he's 3..you should start putting pull ups on him...not diapers. diapers are designed to keep the child feeling dry...even if they are wet...i would suggest finding the pull ups that have the cooling sensation. also talk to your child and make it known that "big boys" use the potty. do not scold him if he doesn't use it...this can make things worse. boys are always going to make more time than girls generally. one tip ive heard from another mom is that her son did not want to leave "play time" to run to the bathroom. so she put a potty training chair in his play room and that helped him start going when he needed to. after he understood that...she moved it back to the bathroom so he could understand where to use the potty.

Angelina - posted on 02/09/2010

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wow that sounds just liek my daugter and she turns 3 on feb 26. If anyone knows a salution please help us out! =)

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