how on earth do you get a todler to poo on the toilet?

Samantha - posted on 06/26/2011 ( 93 moms have responded )

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our daughter will wee on the potty but now insits she must use the toilet, wi=hich is great, but as for going for a poo that is out of the questuion. ive tryed the "do you want to be a big girl" routine & the rewards systems, and the constantly asking if she needs to go and trying to look out for the signs of her needing to poo plus much more, but getting NO WHERE! shes due to start nursery in sept and this is getting more and more incresingly fustrating and theres only so long i can keep calm. why will she not poo on her potty or the toilet? she knows when she needs to go or when she has dont it. help anyone. x

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Karissa - posted on 06/27/2011

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I am also having some trouble with my son but one thing I have found that works 90% of the time is that while we are at home he runs around with just a long shirt on. Since there is nothing covering his bottom he runs to the potty anytime he needs to go. Of course this wont work in public but it is a starting point. Hope this helps! Good Luck

Lisa - posted on 09/11/2011

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It might work to make a face for them like you are pushing and make up a song for pooping. This worked for my son. We would make the face together and sing, "Come out poopie, come out poopie!" Whatever you can do to lighten the pressure on them to perform and make it fun.

Kristine - posted on 10/03/2011

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i have the same problem with my little boy, i also tried bribing him and telling him he is a big boy, but nothing works. but i did an experiment, i put his potty next to the toilet and when i think its time for him to go poo i let him sit on his potty and then i sit on the toilet pretending i am goin to poo myself. i told him we will go together, and to my surprise he did poo. now he tells me when he needs to go and we never have to wear diaper again except at night(he still wets the bed) . oh well..one step at a time. hope this helps! goodluck

Renae - posted on 11/11/2011

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My son did great with rewards. For peeing in the potty he got a sticker when it came to pooing that was another story. I got creative! I use his teddy bear as the example. I had Mr. Bear sit on the potty and when he went poop he got a prize. A small $1 toy, cars for him. Then my son was so upset that Mr. Bear got a toy and he didn't. I did this for 3 days and yes I had some tantrums but I expained that once he goes on the potty he will get the prizes. On day three of this he went poop on the potty! He was so excited to get his prize. Getting frustrated and withholding things does not work. Rewards are what works! When he went we did potty dance, he got tons of kisses and high fives, then he got his prize. I bought enough cars $1 for one week of poop training. I was worried once the cars stopped coming he would not want to do it any more but at that point then he no longer liked the feeling of pooping his pants. I then gave him stickers for pooping for a while since had stopped getting them peeing (since he had well mastered that already). He was fully potty trained by 2 and half. I was so proud he did so well. He was fully potty trained ahead of all his daycare friends :)

Kath - posted on 10/30/2011

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We had to wait quite a while for poo's on potty or toilet even though he knew when to go. We ended up waving our own poo's goodbye (!!!) with lots of "woosh" sound effects to make it seem exciting (the things you do LOL). When he finally started to do them on the potty he loved tipping them into the loo from the potty himself and then waving them goodbye. We rewarded one sticker for a wee and 2 for a poo - it worked a treat and we haven't looked back. Good luck!

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Kayleigh - posted on 11/04/2012

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im having the same problem with my son iv explained what he has to do and what he has to say and that he gets a treat! but doesnt do it! and when i try him or i no hes gunna do it gets himself worked up and panics! iv tried bribing him and i want to get it done b4 he goes to school next year :/ anyone wanna give me any tips???

Jennifer - posted on 12/15/2011

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that's also my worry before, my son doesnt want to poo on the potty or the toilet couple of weeks after he learned how to pee on the toilet. i just stopped using diapers on him and for maybe one full day he didnt even poop. so on the second day i asked him to stay seated on his potty, i hold his hand and stayed with him til it came out. since then it has been a routine for us. before taking a bath in the morning he seats on his potty and do it. same thing in the evening bath. no pressure now though, cause after making him sit there for a couple of minutes and nothing he can just get up and take a shower. it takes time for him to do it though using other people's toilet. to make it easier and more comfortable for him i always brings his own potty trainer. he was fully potty trained at 2 and a half years old. meaning no diapers even during bedtime. but he was completely potty trained during daytime since he was 2years and 3months.

Jami - posted on 12/12/2011

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I consider myself very lucky in this aspect. My daughter potty trained w/i a week of starting (she was about 17mos). I'm not bragging or gloating, believe me, I was just as shocked at it. But what I did was very simple...I let her run around pretty much with just a shirt on that way it was easy for her to know that when she had to go she needed the potty. Now one day she was running around the house naked and started to poop. I think it caught her off guard and freaked her out because as soon as she felt it run down her legs she started running away from it (trying...lol) and screaming her head off! It scared the crap out of her! (pun intended) But she never did it again and was fully potty trained after that.

Blessed - posted on 12/08/2011

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how old is she if she can respond simple ask her does she have a fear,we forget that children are minature adults, don't be fustrated that will only add to the situation, I know as adults I hated using my work bathroom if I had to go, I would rather urinate, so does she feel comfortable, do you sit and watch her,you'll find the missing peice eventually!

Stacey - posted on 12/08/2011

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If you don't work and stay at home taking carew of the kiddies, let your toddler run around bottemless. That ios the only way I was able to potty train my son. I tried pullups and undies, training charts and bribery, nothing worked except this and rewarding him after. It took a couple months but he finally got the idea.

Missi - posted on 12/07/2011

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I've been haveing the poo problem with my daughter for over a year now. She's been peeing in the potty for nearly 3 years and I still can't get her to poo in the potty. I'm truely at my wits end. To the point of taking her to a child psychiatrist for help. She was getting constipated and that I understood but she's past that now. We have about 3 soiled pants a day and I can't get her to understand that if you start pushing you need to go get on the potty. I have tried everything...I even took her to the doctor and all he did was prescribe stool softeners. I'm begging...if there's anyone out there that has had any luck getting their child to go at this point, please let me know what you did different that worked. I'm starting to think she's going to be going in her pants until she's grown...Not what I want for her. I want to put her in preschool but I'm scared they wont allow her to go because of the poo issues.

Emma - posted on 12/07/2011

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I know it goes against convention, but once I was sure my daughter knew she was going for a poo and knew how to use the toilet, I told her off if she didn't use it. At the end of the day they have been used to pooing there pants since they were born and now they need to know its not ok. It took 8 days before she was completely sorted day and night. We do now have the occasional accident, but it is a genuine accident so no I don't tell her off anymore.

Michelle - posted on 12/05/2011

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i have experienced the same thing with my first and second children (they are now in their tweens) but with my third and fourth, no sweat. maybe it was because they can see/witness their elder siblings now poo in a toilet bowl. the toddlers imitate the elder ones because they dont want to be called babies anymore. :-) hugs and prizes helps also.

Renee - posted on 12/02/2011

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i have potty training twins, and what i've found worked for me is giving them candies. i know some parents would advise against it but it worked really well for us. when they started i gave them one candy for pee and 2 candies for poo. (it also helped them learn to count.) i showed them with their hands one candy for pee and i grabbed the other hand and said 2 candies for poop. they learned really quick. then once they started peeing on their own i stopped giving them candy for pee and now they get one candy for pooping. hope this could help

Carol - posted on 11/29/2011

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You know...i don't even think i did anything with my son and he poos in the toilet. However he has to be in the nude to go pee, even wearing undies he will pee in them.

Carly - posted on 11/27/2011

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Toilet training just about broke me as my mum and friend pushed me to do it when I thought he wasnt ready I really wish I had of waited even that extra couple of months (my little boy I put back in nappies about a month before his 3rd birthday) and told him he was a big boy and after his party and was no longer allowed to have accidents... He has since had a few but jeeze it makes me wish I had of just waited a little longer.

This is really really gross but everytime I did a poo I would get him to come and watch me... Seriously... He has not had a poo accident since... I dont know if it was this but hey as gross as it it it might be worth having her watch you do a poo... :o)

Jennifer - posted on 11/27/2011

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My daughter started out around 18 months old peeing on the potty, it wasn't consitant.. but we were happy with anything at that point because it was really early. As the months went by she continued to wear pullups or panties and pee'd in the potty when she felt like it, but NEVER poo'd in the potty. (tons of accidents) In the beginning the only time we could get her to poo on the potty is if we caught her in the act.. by this I mean she was a "hidding pooper" lol.. so I would quick take her to the potty so she could finish on the potty, then I would would make a HUGE deal about it, with all the bells & whistles (so to speak) Clap & encourage her. After talking to her pre-school teacher she suggested we had to pick one or the other, panties or pullups.. not both because it was confusing her. She also recommended we created a reward system she responded to & she mentioned every child is different. So once her 3rd birthday hit we had about enough. I created a star chart for her that included daily behavior, potty & other tasks that if she completed she could work towards a prize.. such as ChuckE cheese or Bounce U. I made sure SHE put up the stars or took them away if she was bad. We mad a BIG deal about the reward chart everyday. The next step we did was a special potty prize if she poo'd on the potty. I basically picked up a bunch of dollar store things and put them in a gift bag to let her choose. At this point she was in panties and poo'd almost all the time without any accidents. Now it is 8 weeks later and we are 100% accident free & full time in panties (except for night time). We still give "pop on the potty" prizes because she really gets excited about them, but we will fade them out slowly. Hope this helps, because I tried everything else myself also!!!!

Amber - posted on 11/25/2011

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Oh thanks goodness I am not alone in this situation. I'm glad I logged in to see so many helpful tips!! Thanks ladies =)

Catherine - posted on 11/21/2011

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when they go in their underwear, put the poo in the toilet to show them where it goes, every time.

Asmaa - posted on 11/21/2011

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i have th same problem with my son, he goes wiwii in the toilet just fine. but when it comes to poop he just seems to be uncomfortable to go in the toilet or potty. i am really confused i have no idea what to do i tried cheering and motivating him.
he just disappears behind a couch or in a dark room and does it. he is spoiling all his new boxers and undrwear and when i discover him before he accually does poop in his uderwear i take him and i seat him on the toilet and he sits there and does nothing as soon as i dress him he does it again. please help me. i would appreciate the help

Nicole - posted on 11/19/2011

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this is going to sound really wrong...but with my son everytime i had to go to the bathroom or even his father. i made D go along to the bathroom with us so he could learn what we were doing on the potty. hes 2 will be 3 in january and is 99% potty trained. we are just working on the no accidents at night.

Lisa - posted on 11/19/2011

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Oh my goodness...this is a good question! My son is almost three and refuses to pee or poo in the toilet! It is quite frustrating, especially when we are in the bathroom, say brushing our teeth, he is literally a foot away from the toilet, but will not tell me he needs to go and just poos! This is FRUSTRATING!!!! Because he runs around saying his is a big boy and expects everyone to call him one, when he can't even do the #1 big boy thing...poo in the toilet! Plus, he can't start preschool without being potty trained and I am losing my baby sitter come next spring. So any advice will be good! And I am glad that I am not the only one with this issue...makes it somehow less frustrating!

Kelli - posted on 11/19/2011

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For Evan, I bought him a really cool train and told him he could have it if he pooped in the potty. For Emma, it took several Disney Princess dolls for her to catch on to pooping in the potty (and when she regressed, those dolls were taken away). For Grady, he just did it one day--he was ready.

Alisha - posted on 11/16/2011

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for my daughter it was the smell that would get her so i would just had to keep her calm about pooping telling her it is ok to poop everybody does it mommy grandma aunty and she did it and she is very good about it it was tough in the beginning pooing in the potty it just takes patience and perseverance to get it done oh and she would get two m&ms and a phone call to daddy or the grandparents so she got bragging rights for going poo in the potty at least thats how i got it done don't know if i helped

Dana - posted on 11/14/2011

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My 2 year old decided one day that he wanted do it all on his own. With my daughter who is now 5 1/2, I just took her in there one day when I saw that she was starting to poo in her diaper and explained to her that she was pooing and we needed to do it in the toilet. Treats help.

Amber - posted on 11/08/2011

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My sister's pediatrician friend said it best. We all hear that they're ready when they're ready, but the doctor said there are 2 parts to the body's development and they have to be synced up for it to work! One part is the body sending signals to the brain that it has to go and the other is the brain being able to receive the message. And as Murphy would have it, there's no set age that this happens so you just have to create opportunities for your daughter to pull it off. To push a child before these two parts are ready is to set them up for failure and frustration....I think it's a lot like waiting for water to boil. It's frustrating for everyone so don't feel like you're alone! Don't worry. It'll happen before you know it. :)

Nicole - posted on 11/01/2011

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I don't have any advice as I was reading this post to get help with my 2 year old daughter! I can't for the life of me get her to go at all on the potty! She did really well for about a month going potty on it all the time with few accidents and even pooped a couple times on the toilet. I am glad I am not the only one having a hard time. It gets frustrating because two nights in a row we have set her on the toilet right before bed and she would sit there for a while and say all done, so we would lay her down for bed and maybe 15 minutes later I could hear her running around in her room. When I went up to check on her and lay her back down she had taken her diaper off (still clean) and pooped on the floor. It was all over everything, her bedding the walls.. Thank you to everyone that posted on here for the ideas. I love this site and being able to feel like I am not alone! Good luck to everyone who is in the potty training process!

Christine - posted on 10/30/2011

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I noticed that my son seemed to hold his on even though he knew that he needed to poo on the toilet. I did the most logical thing I could think of: I ASKED HIM TO LET HIS POOP FALL DOWN! It worked. Sometimes he poops without a problem, other times I offer him (the same) book to read while he "waits" for his poop to fall down. Good luck!

Nicole - posted on 10/26/2011

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actually, as wrong as this sounds...ive been having my son go into the bathroom with me when i have to go dont matter what i have to do, brush my teeth us the toilet whatever. When im finished on the toilet. I ask him to help me flush the toilet, and we waive "bye" to whatever i did and hes been picking up potty training off my me repeatively making sure he goes on an every hour basis and me showing him what to do when im in the bathroom. My son is 2 and a half and is about 98% fully potty trained for during the day. we just have to work on night time potty training so he doesnt have accidents in bed

Katie - posted on 10/25/2011

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I had problems with getting my daughter to poo on the potty too. Then we went over a cousins house and she had her daughters potty infront of the tv. Thought it was crazy at first to leave a potty in the living room but it worked. I would let her sit on the potty and watch tv or look at a book for as long at it took to get her to poop. as she got more comfortable we moved the potty to the bath room then started just using a potty seat.

Ashlee - posted on 10/24/2011

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I would take my daughter the potty with me that helped but when she peed in the potty for the first time by herself thats when she got excited! If she had an "accident" & pooped in her panties, i would take her to the bathroom w/ me and dump it in the toilet to show her where it goes..nothing makes you laugh more then when they come running out all excited bc they pooped in the potty by themself!! but patience is the most important, i made a choice to have her potty trained by her third bday and 3 wks before her bday she was potty trained..so GOOD luck.my son was harder to potty train then she was!

Jodi - posted on 10/24/2011

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they will go when they r ready. i have a 3 and 2 year olds im trying to break at the same time. its hard. he will tell u soon or later.

Katie - posted on 10/20/2011

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I'm so glad I found this post. DD's only 18 1/2 months old, but is day pee trained. However, she won't poop in the potty. I'm 99% positive that she knows she's supposed to poop in the potty. She just doesn't want to sit there long enough for it to happen. I've noticed when she's got to poop, she will keep asking to go potty VERY frequently and pee a little bit, but if poop doesn't come instantly, she's go in her underwear. I have gotten her to finish pooping on the potty after she starts in her panties, but I can't for the life of me get her to go on the potty. Any tips or suggestions?

Jean - posted on 10/19/2011

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It is tough. My first son has Autism, so he didn't poop on the potty till he was 4 due to sensory issues mostly. So for some kids, it is very tough and just takes time.

My little one, who is almost 3, will poop on the potty, but would rather just do in his underwear! Which just sucks. I used to clean them, but now just buy tons at Walmart for that once a week when he does decide NOT to use the toilet.

I don't know, after training them both, I kind of feel like it isn't worth really pushing. Kids are ready when they are. We pushed and pushed my older son and it just ended in us all being miserable about potty training for an entire year. With the little one I tried, he wasn't ready, I waited and tried again, he wasn't ready, then the 3rd time he was!

Good luck! Try some rewards. For my older one, getting to set off little fireworks in the backyard did the trick! Every kid is different.

Kristin - posted on 10/19/2011

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my daughter turned 2 at the end of may and a couple of months ago we started working with her on the potty. at the beginning she was having a lot of accidents (like all kids do) she loved stickers so i thought about trying a potty chart. i printed 3 off line (1 for each grandparent and 1 for home) and bought pretty stickers. the charts were hung where she could see them and we all made sure she understood how special those stickers were. we explained that everytime she peed on the potty she could put a sticker on her chart. and when she would poop she got to put 2. she loved the idea of it. currently she only wears pull ups for naps and bed time. the first time she pooped in her potty i was in the shower. she came in and said mommy i peepeed but she had no pants on so i was concerned. i went to her potty and found she pooped in it all by herself. she has gone in her pants a few times but mostly she goes on the potty. i hope this suggestion is a little helpful!

Rebekah - posted on 10/18/2011

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sigh.... I am glad it isn't just me... I was starting to feel like a failure. My son will pee in the potty- but not poo.
I have resorted to having having a stash of M&Ms in the bathroom and trying to bribe him... .lol. Lord know I have tried EVERYTHING else.

Karen - posted on 10/17/2011

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I trained our little boy over this past summer,on a potty and he started k-3 playschool. I worried he wouldn't use the big potty at the school, but him seeing the other kids using the big potty, he did too. The first couple of days he had accidents, but we explained to him that if he had more "accidents", he wouldn't be allowed to go back to school until he could use the potty. Were into week 6, with no more "accidents"

Suzanne - posted on 10/17/2011

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I just started potty training, (3 in dec) she took to it really well with wee's. 1st poo was a fluke i think as she's had a wee accident so i sat her on the loo to clean up and she was crying and did one, but then she went all the next day till just before bed. then nothing for the next two days, i kept thinking she's holding on to it till she has a bed time nappy on, but she kept saying she wanted a wee and kept passing wind, then eventually did do it on the pooty, try not to get stressed otherwise she'll pick up on it, i know it's easier said than done, but she'll pck up on your stress. good luck.

Zara - posted on 10/17/2011

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im having the same problem but other way around. my daughter used to go to the toilet for wees but then this stopped and she will only go for poos. if she does have a accident pooing wise she always comes and says "sorry mummy" ive tried everything too dont no where to go from here :(

Ells - posted on 10/16/2011

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that's funny! my boy started with poo in the potty first and it took a while to get him used to wee in it...
well what i did is: made sure he was ready, then everytime he was making that face that he makes when he needs a poo i just took him to the toilet/potty and sat him on it with some kinda trick. if he did it i praised him lots and gave him a sweetie, he wass proud of himself he didn't want me to clean the potty lol
i suggest you to ask her all the time if she needs a poo, try to check if she has a time (ie morning) of the day to go for a poo and guess by the face or her usual habits when she's pooing. after you got her to poo in the potty praise her loads and reward her, she will want to do it again and again.
good luck

Dusty - posted on 10/12/2011

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this is TOTALLY normal for a child. My son did it for the longest time! I know it's frusterating but let her do it at her own pace. What helped my son is when his dad would do it, he would let him come in & then he would say "see daddy goes poop on the toilet"....if you can get your husband or boyfriend or a male figure that you totally trust to do this, it may help

Kelsey - posted on 10/11/2011

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my 2 year old pee trained herself very well but i still have to make her sit on the potty when she has to poo...it reall easy to spot when she has to go because he eyes get a red and watery they have ever since she was born and as soon as i see it i make her sit on the potty and she is not allowed to get up untill she is done. then she gets a nickle dime or quarter to go into her piggy bank

April - posted on 10/07/2011

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heres what i did it worked with in two days. if they poop in there undies or pull up take them to the bathroom take the pull up off and let them dump it in the toilet and let them flush it. they will see its not scarry. we even said bye to the poopie. do this everytime and with my son it worked great

Michelle - posted on 10/06/2011

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I have the opposite problem... sorta. My daughter initially had no problems going poo on the toilet. I just never could get her to pee on it. At least not consistently anyways. And now it seems we have back-tracked because she has been pooing in her pamper lately.

I am attributing to the stress and inconsistent schedules in the last couple months. (We are trying to move back to my hometown 8 hours away, and have had to make multiple trips down there to look for a house within a short period of time.) But I'm really getting frustrated with it. Once we get moved and settled... we are certainly getting back on a regular regimen!

I will say that when we first started the pooing on the toilet... She was initially afraid of doing it. I think what scared her was that she didn't know what was going to happen with it, and perhaps splash up.

Amanda - posted on 10/06/2011

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Give it time. eventually your daughter will poop in the potty like a big girl. Don't rush. I'm in the same boat with my son. Sometimes if you time it just right you might be able to get your daughter to the potty in time for her to poop in the potty

Gemma - posted on 10/06/2011

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my lil girl is 2 1/2 and she has pooped in the potty 2 times when she was wearing nappys now she has been wearing knickers she wees fine but poos herself and it very frustrating she knows where to do it cause she say poo potty but just dont do it i am losing my mind

Kristine - posted on 10/05/2011

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We recently conquered the pooping issue. One of my friends suggested allowing my 2 year olf to run completely naked form the waste down. She said with her little one that even the underwear was to much reassurance that he would go in his pants. I tried it and she refused to poop on the floor... she started to complain about a belly ache and then I suggested trying the potty...it worked.

Donna - posted on 10/03/2011

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my daughters were almost 4 when they were fully trained. i think they finally got it when i walked around the corner and saw my one daughter pooping in the corner.i was so mad here the potty seat wasnt even 3 feet away and shes pooing in the corner. so i picked up the terds with a napkin and put them in the potty. thats when i think it clicked lol

LAtu - posted on 10/03/2011

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I potty trained my daughter at 16 months only because we were expecting another baby before her 2nd birthday... I use to take her and sit her in the toilet every 15mins or half hour till she got the hang of knowing that she needed to use the toilet to do poos, yes she did accidents on the floor but she got there, she used the toilet at 18 months and then out of pull ups at 20 months... I guess all babies are different but I did the same to all my kids and all is well... i had 3 kids under 2 when my baby was born but only my newborn was in nappies, the other two were already out of nappies, so allow them to have accidents but always remind them and show them they need to sit in the toilet to do poos, children learn but constant Repetition... hope something works for ur toddler...

Lina - posted on 09/26/2011

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Samantha this topic came up on oneof my child development modules. the most excellent time to establish potty training is when both you as the parent and your child are physically and emotionally ready to begin. I would advise you to wait till your child is able to pull down his pants on his own. This will help him to insure he knows what to do before sitting down on his potty. Also make sure he can sit down quietly in one position for two to five minutes. This will help him to relax while sitting down on his toilet waiting for his “pupu” to come out. Make sure he understands the physical signals that mean he has to go and can tell you before it happens or even hold it until he has time to get to the potty.
And lastly keep in mind that boys because of maturation issues they tend to be about 6 months later than girls. my daughter is 2 1/2 and is finally on just underwears during the day and pampers at night. :0)

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