i have a 3 n a half yr old doesnt talk n need 2 get her toilet trained can somebody have any ideas

Christine - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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i have a3 N A Half yr old still in nappies as she doesnt talk its hard 2 communicate with her does any1 have any ideas on how i can communicate with her 2 get her toilet trained as i also have a 16MTH OLD(14MTHS CORRECTED HE WAS 2MTHS PREMMIE), A 5YR OLD N A 12YR OLD WOULD APPRECIATE ANY IDEAs n advice ANY1 IS WILLING 2 GIVE THANKS?

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Eunice - posted on 06/17/2013

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My son is 3years and 3 months and he does not talk he has like 100 words but no sentences. I potty trained him in a week. It was easier for me because he knew when to pee and pu within a week.What i did was to take off the diapers so he naked all day. They may not talk but they are aware of what to do....clever creatures

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Nicola - posted on 09/24/2009

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hi my son is 3years 4months and was potty trained at 3years 2months, he also has speech problems only says about 30 words and no sentences. try n teach ur child the word pee pee my son now started saying that. you just have to get rid of nappies during the day and get them on potty at regular times during the day. he will eventually get it as my son was a struggle to get on potty at first. and now uses big toilet. he just pulled at his trousers and i ran wi him to toilet. its hard but he will get it eventually just keep nappy off anf he will .

Colleen - posted on 09/24/2009

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Ok, I'll just say I'm no expert here but the earlier comment on 3 day training go to 3daypottytrainingmethod.com. It's an e-book for $24.99 and really was a good use. Yes you or whomever is training are with your child all the time and you learn their potty cues. Like my daughter would shiver before going, or get letters or numbers wrong when she normally is pretty good at them. These examples may not be the best for someone but they were small cues to me. The sign for potty is only with 1 hand so maybe that would be an option also to help. You could go to ASLpro.com and scroll down to main dictionary, select the letter P and search for the word potty, they give you a demo of the sign. Again, I only use 1 hand for the sign, make a fist and tuck your thumb under your pointer and shake your hand side to side, I don't make the shape of the bowl as they do after. There is also Baby signing time if you go the signing route. I love them, very helpful go to SigningTime.com. Good Luck to you!

Rachel - posted on 09/23/2009

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my son is the same age and he doesnt talk much i had to start potty training him for nursery so far he has done well just need to get the number 2s sorted lol.
if she can follow instructions she will be fine just keep sitting her on the potty she will soon get used to the idea oh and start off with no pants on first if u can spend plenty time at home good luck x

Kylie - posted on 09/06/2009

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I second the picture card system. I have a child with Autism and this worked for him. He was 4 1/2 when he finally trained though. My 4 year old is still in nappies, but he has PDD-NOS and struggles with communication. It's incredibly frustrating to try and potty train a child with a communication issue. The pictures may work better for you than the signing. Your speechie should be able to help you out with them. Baby steps, a lot of love and a lot of patience. You'll both get there in the end.

Christine - posted on 09/05/2009

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yes my 3yrold does have a speech prob as we have bn going 2 a speecvh patholigist for 3 terms straight now the speech patholigist has diaGNOISED HER WITH CHILDHOOD APRAXIA OF SPEECH n i only have 1 n a half hands i was born that way so signing 4 me is a lil bit difficult but mayb it is going 2 b my only hope thanks 4 ur response much appreciated

Barbara - posted on 09/01/2009

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Hi Christine my son is 3 1/2 and has a developmental delay. He speaks very little one to three words at a time. It is so hard when they are not able to communicate there feelings or needs in words. I have been trying for about six months and we are still hit and miss. His pediatrician says not to push to hard and that he will get it when its right for him. I have done it all though. Let him pick out big boy underwear. He has two potty chairs, theres a little seat cover on the big toilet. I am sorry to have not been a help but sometimes it is nice to know your not alone. I just know how difficult it is to have a non verbal child or one with limited verbal skills. I think you and I both have a long road ahead. Good luck. Look'n Up

Heather - posted on 09/01/2009

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My friends little brother was the same way and they had a speech therapist see him. He wasn't developementally delayed, he just had no need to talk. He was spoiled. So they taught him sign language and he did eventually come around. Don't worry too much, this will come when your child is ready. As far as potty training goes, so long as they show they can understand you for anything else, the same should apply to this situation. Sit him/her downand show them the potty. Do as you did for your other children. Everyone approaches potty training a little differently. Just do whatever feels right for you.

Good luck!

Danae - posted on 08/31/2009

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My 2 year old doesn't talk and she is potty trained. I just taught her to point or pat her parts when she needs to go. Even people who don't know her (church and stuff) get what she is saying. You don't need her talk to potty train her. If she can communicate and understand you she will do just fine.

Helen - posted on 08/31/2009

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my 3an half year old son is having trouble with his speech and potty training, is there any ideas anyone has to help me potty tain him please

Jennifer - posted on 08/31/2009

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I use stickers with my daughter who is 22 months. She is still learning but she gets a sticker for everytime she SITS on the potty (just to get her used to it) and gets to put her sticker on her chart we keep next to potty. Everytime she wants a sticker we bring her to the potty. Now that she is getting comfortable we are integrating m&m's when she actually GOES on the potty so she knows she she pees she gets a candy and when she poops she gets two. I am a working mother and going to school full time as weel so putting her in big girl underwear is hard to do all day since she is at daycare. I also found when we do use the big girl undies on the weekends she just goes in them she tends to pull on them to get them off she doesnt tell me she needs to be changed, just pulls them off.

Hope that helps :)

Sign language is a good idea too! A simple thumb inbetween your pointer finger and middle when you make a fist them shaking it is a good sign for potty... we used that for my step brother who was develpmentally challenged and couldnt speak.

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All i did, was put my son into big boy undies after we picked them out together, and Everytime he went pee, he got one piece of candy, when he went poop he had recieved two pieces. Candy was a big help. We also bought books that we read every day about potty training. The books helped. We aslo bought a little potty, that he had picked out as well. Getting them to pick out their own things, helps a lot. They feel good to use it, bc it's theirs, and they had picked it out. I hope ic ould help. Good Luck!!

Samantha - posted on 08/31/2009

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once a preemie hit 1 yrs adjusted age they are pretty much caught up. my daughter was 2 mths preemie as well and that is what i was told. however if she is 3 and not talking you should take her to her doctor or a speech theropist my nephew had the same problem saw and speech theropist and it was long before we could understand him. for potty traing look for signs weather its crossing legs, holding herself, hiding in a corner to pee or poop...ect

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Hi! My 3 year old son is also not talking and we are in the process of potty training. He is going to a developmental preschool where they are focusing on speech and other developmental issues. Anyway, we use picture communication for almost everything. We have a picture of him sitting on the potty and standing at the sink. Right now I'm using it more like a time line (first you sit and then we wash hands) We keep the pictures on the wall next to the potty and he has gone to them a couple of times and gave me the picture of the potty and I very quickly helped him get his pants down! Hope this helps....it sure has helped us :)

Kelsey - posted on 08/31/2009

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There are many ides I have-I am reading toddlerwise by Gary Ezzo and he brings up potty training-there are three diferent techq. you can use! Finding a way for you and your child communicate will be very helpful also as your son/daughter cant talk-the easiest at this age would be making up your own sign language! Good luck, and dont rush! (=

Nicole - posted on 08/31/2009

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By 3 1/2 she should definatly be talking. If you haven't had this checked out, I would do so immediatly. If you have already spoke with your doctor about it and she is aware of the problem, then I would question them about the potty training. They have probably dealt with this before and might have some really good suggestions for you. I do agree with everyone else, that taking her into the bathroom and telling her where the potty is, and showing her how it works might help. I'm not sure from your description of your daughter if she is mentally delayed, or just has speech problems. If she can't comprehend what you are telling her about the potty, you should definatly speak to the doctor about it. Sorry, I'm not much help! I hope everything works out for you!

Tanya - posted on 08/31/2009

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You know what I did.....I simply took my child to her room...with a trash bag...made her throw all her diapers AND pullups away!...Then I put her in regular underwear...NOW...at first you must keep your child at your side 24 7 the first couple days...when you see the child wetting...You run them to the bathroom and tell them..."This is where your pee pee and poop goo..You can tell me when you need to go and I will help you" I'm NOT joking after doing this with my child for 3 days....She was totally potty trained...I got this idea from a potty training service! Oh the reason I don't put her in pullups is she gets confused!....I just but a waterproof mat on her bed....Cuz you want them to feel wet so they don't like it! Well Hope this helps!

H.J - posted on 08/31/2009

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Use sign language seens as she doesn't have the language to do it any other way. At 3 she should have some language, does she have a developmental delay? Being a child care professional it is my job to toilet train children of varying needs every day so if you could give us a little bit more info Christine then I could help some more.

Tiffany - posted on 08/31/2009

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why doesn't the 3 & 1/2 year old talk? Is it speech problems? Is their some way that you can teach her a sign to communicate the need to pee or potty? Perhaps show her the potty, then a sign to let her know, take her with you when you use the restroom, tell her that "mommy goes potty" and use the same sign. So she will begin to connect the sign with using the potty?? I'm not really sure, just a suggestion! Good luck!

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