ideas for potty training as my girl wont even sit on the potty

Amanda - posted on 02/09/2010 ( 40 moms have responded )

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my daughter wont even sit on a potty everytime i try sitting her on it she just screams and runs off, shes 14 months and i really have no idea what to do

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Janice - posted on 02/15/2010

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She is screaming and running away because she has no idea why you are sitting her on this big, cold, white, scary thing with water in it. She doesn't know what you want from her. She is far too young to be potty trained. Especially if she is acting like that. Sometimes you will find a baby that age who is ready to potty train, but usually it's the parent who is trained and not the child. Meaning, the parent is trained to put their child on the potty every hour. You should never force potty training on a baby because it will backfire on you. It will become a struggle for you and her even when she is older and ready. If I were you, I would forget about training her for at least another year. Unless she starts showing you that she is ready. That is when she starts asking you to change her diaper, or she starts wanting to sit on the potty. When you start to train her, it should be a slow, relaxing, and even fun process for your little girl. Just put the potty chair away for a while and hopefully she will forget about the negative feelings she has towards it. Just let it come naturally, that is what pediatricians are telling parents to do now... don't worry about rushing. Just remind yourself that it will happen when she is READY. Most babies are not fully potty trained until they are three. Girls tend to train a bit earlier then boys. Also, most of the time babies master the art of "peeing" in the potty before they do "poo poo". Some times you feel rushed to potty train your baby because of child care situations, but trust me, there are tons of child care facilities out there who would love to take your baby with or with out diapers. Forcing the potty on children too young can badly effect your baby through out her life. I hope that I've helped just a little bit.

Amanda - posted on 02/10/2010

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Well this is how we got the girls to potty we started a TREASURE CHEST (suckers, stickers, small toys etc) and everytime they pottied they would get a treasure. We also started a star chart if they went all day with potting they would get a star and at the end of the month if they got many stars out of 30 they would be rewarded with a new toy or maybe a trip out to McDonalds or something. We also stopped buying diapers and purchased pull ups and during the day we bought lil girl undies for them and had them wear them. They only wore the pull ups at night and if we went somewhere. That don't work for everybody but that is what worked with us. All I can tell you is encourage them and give hugs and kisses adn let them know that its okay if they don't get a hang of it right at first. My girls are 2 1/2 and completely potty traind

Sarah - posted on 02/09/2010

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she may not be ready yet, but give it time she will be ready when she wants to. firstly it needs to be a relaxed environment so here are some things i used with my daughter, iuse to let her watch me i never shut the door so she could see that its normal for everyone to use the big toilet/potty, i also let her sit on the potty while i read to her, if you can find a few different childrens story books about using a potty that would be ideal, i even bought a bear in the big blue house dvd - potty time its called and she'd sit there on her potty and watch it for a short while, she would also play with some toys while sitting there, i also used bribes like if she went 3 times a day she could have a small treat like a snake lolly or a small lolly pop as they are her favourites. another thing i done i made a chart with mon to sun and times every hour from approx when she'd wake up till approx when she goes to bed EG- 7am- 8pm then whatever hour she went on the potty she could stick 1 sticker except when she done both she used two on the chart and have one to stick on her shirt/dress, she was always wanting to go just to get a sticker.

the thing is don't be negative towards her when she doesn't suceed or wets herself, just say its ok maybe next time because if you are negative shes only going to go backwards and be frightened shes going to get in trouble.

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Michelle - posted on 08/14/2011

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I can also add that I was fully potty trained even night time potty trained by 18 months but my mom did use cloth diapers.

Amanda - posted on 08/14/2011

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My twins were potty trained right before they turned 2... They did not like the potty chair they were more interested in the big potty so i purchased a snap on seat for them and let them use the big potty.. Which they loved they thought of themselves as big girls.. I also would sit them on the potty when they didn't have to go just for the practice... We would sing songs and i bought books for them about going potty. I started a rewards chart and at the end of the day if they went potty they got a sticker and I also did the treasure chest were they would get something when they did potty (suckers, stickers, lil toys etc.) I wish you the best of luck if you need to talk abotu it anymore feel free to message me.

Ruthie - posted on 08/13/2011

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She is too young! Children do not even have the physical capability to control bladder and bowels before 18 months. Saying a baby knows how to use the toilet before 12 months old is unrealistic and simply not feasible. You should read the book Toilet Learning by Alison Mack. It will help when she is actually ready.

Michelle - posted on 08/13/2011

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I can tell you I sat the potty on the floor and just ignored it. My daughter is almost 15 months now but she started lifting the lid and showing interest at about 13 months. I sat her on it a couple times with her clothes on and then she started wanting to sit on it on her own. Then I took off her diaper and gave her toys to entertain her. Now she is getting really good at going right after I put her on there. Today she went pee twice both times she was on the toilet less than two minutes. I am very happy with the progress and the dr says go with it, don't push her, and let her be the judge of the rate. He even said she may choose to stop at some point but to just play with it. So that is what I have been doing.

Laura - posted on 08/09/2011

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She is probably not ready. It took my daughter a long time to connect when she knew ahead of time she had to go. I tried everything!!!! Stickers, buying new toys, big girl underwear, letting her go naked, nothing worked. I stopped potty training altogether. She is 2 yrs10months old and about a month ago, she just came to me and told me she had to go potty. From then on, I never had to ask her if she had to go potty, she told me when she had to go. She showed signs of being ready around 2 but wasn't actually ready to do it herself till recently.

Karen - posted on 08/04/2011

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My daughter was the same way and now se is trained at 22 months I just started asking her to sit on it for a smartie with her clothes on even if it was a second she got her smartie and then in the summer i kept her nakid and bribed her again until she was comfortable with the idea after that you just have to keep track when she is going it usually is the same times every day keep in mind if she cant hold it in she isnt ready so if she wakes from a nap wet she prob isnt ready I also switched to cloth diapers so she can feel herself get wet and I would change her in the bathroom and tell her to put her pee pee or poo poo in the poty next time this worked for both my children

Kayla - posted on 06/21/2011

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Even though I wouldn't expect her to really get the hang of using it all the time til shes closer to 2, I would put her little potty infront of the tv or in her play room somewhere she is comfortable and let her watch tv or read a book to her while she sits on it. My son was sitting on the potty by 7 months and always watched your baby can read while he went potty.

Sabrina - posted on 06/20/2011

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Is there a direct site to get the potty training dvd from Huggies. I can't find it on the website.

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you could try a game " im gonna beat, i gotta go potty first" or have her around kids who are potty trained that are about her age and maybe she might want to be like them " a big girl"

Felicia - posted on 02/25/2010

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I would say at 14 months old she is not ready. If she is running off and screaming. I would wait 2-3 months and try again. Thats what I did with my son, He wasn't ready til he was 2, and he is 3 now and fully potty-trained. I know it is frustrating but take your time she will get it, Kids are very smart. I had to also just keep underwear on my son all day long, and it seemed like he didn't want them messy at all, so he used the potty and told me when he had to go, but now he can do it all himself. Hope this helps

Aggie - posted on 02/24/2010

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I started my daughter when she was 12 months old and she was doing it beautifully ... then she just didn't wanna sit on the potty one of the days so I gave her a break since she was still young. Now that she's in preschool (which don't require her being trained and they do train her there as well) I try to have her go on a potty every chance I get, but still there's some days when she'll go on a potty and be happy she's a big girl, other times she'll just go in her diaper and keep saying "poop" cause she already went.

I have a friend who told me about a book out there somewhere to guarantee your baby be out of diapers and potty trained within ONLY 3 DAYS (the whole 24 hour days that is). Basically what they say in that book is to go and buy your baby normal underwear instead of diapers or pull ups, so that way she/he feels uncomfortable after going pee or poop in their underwear (diapers and pull ups absorb all the pee and they don't really feel the wetness as much). You obviously have to pick out 3 days when you're totally home with her ALL the time, you can't go out, and you have to sleep with them as you'll have to change underwear and wash them constantly, but ... if it works it's worth the 72 hours isn't it? I'll try it when I know I'll be home with her for 3 days (so far that isn't happening due to my weird work schedule, but I hope it can soon).

Give it a try ... and Good Luck =)

Belinda - posted on 02/24/2010

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My son is exactly the same!! The difference being that when he's at his Dad's 2 nights a week, he tells them when he has to go and does wees in the potty, but when he's home with me, he still won't do it!

Christina - posted on 02/22/2010

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I was potty trained by 17 mos. old, so it can happen. I wasn't negatively affected by this in any way. Every kid is different.

Christina - posted on 02/22/2010

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I tried to put my daughter on at about that time to poop only. I started pee around 18 mos. It is going well. I just made it very inviting, reading books and bringing a favorite animal/baby doll. She liked pretending the baby or animal goes to the potty. Also, as she got older, I got the Huggies Potty Training DVD free in the mail. You can get this online at the Huggies site for free. It has great potty songs that my daughter adores, Good luck.

Jessica - posted on 02/19/2010

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Way too early!!! She will do it when she is ready, you won't have to do anything. She will let you know! Take her in the bathroom with you everytime you go and say mommy has to go potty. I would do this and soon enough when I would say mommy has to go potty she would run into the bathroom before I could even get there. That way she knows what is going on in there and when she is ready she will let you know!!

Ashley - posted on 02/17/2010

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My daughter is almost 15 months and because of her big sisters she always wanted to sit on the big girl potty. For her birthday grandma got her a started potty and after that she refused to sit on either one. I had to work her back into it, start her off sitting on the potty fully dressed and when she gets comfortable with that then take her pants off but leave on her diaper, after she is comfortable with that then put her on the potty the way you normally would it took me 3 days with my daughter.

Angela - posted on 02/17/2010

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I really don't believe that she is ready. Typically 2 years is closer to being ready. Se needs to show signs first like telling you to changer her diaper when its wet, or getting frustrated when she has a wet diaper. Especially telling you she needs to go potty. But I do believe that 14 months is too early.

Susannah - posted on 02/16/2010

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My daughter is almost 3 (March 2nd) and is just now fully potty trained. It only took her a week, but I know that's because I waited until I knew she was ready. She can take her own clothes off, she knows the difference between wet and dry and pee and poo, and she started coming into the bathroom with me to see what I was doing.



When I told her that I was using the potty like a big girl does, she said she wanted to, also, so I got a potty chart, (free download off the internet) a bunch of stickers and a few coloring/sticker books for when she filled the chart. In 5 days she filled all 35 squares on her potty chart!! (two stickers for poo and for going in a public restroom)



Now she puts her own potty insert on the potty and goes on her own. They also sell portable potty inserts at walmart for when you're out. They're bigger for the bigger toilets you see in public places.



Don't rush it. 14 months is really young. If she's not interested now and you push too hard, the bad experience for her will make it harder on you both in the future. Good luck whichever way you decide! :D

Nadine - posted on 02/16/2010

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sounds extremely young to even be thinking of potty training. I made the same fatal mistake wif my first child and it took 2 attempts there after to fully train him as he felt so pressurised into using the potty. This time around my second son is 2 1/2 and seems to be more aware of what the potty is for and seems more interested in it. Remember it is not a competition with friends children every child is different.

Janice - posted on 02/15/2010

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That was normal back then for babies to be potty trained at the age of one... but usually like i said, it was the parent who was really trained and not the child. Doctors advise against training them too young, and one is just too young.

Elizabeth - posted on 02/14/2010

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Take a baby of hers and have it sit on the potty first. Praise the baby! Praise the baby some more! Put a little potty in your living room so that it is easily accessible. Nothing with bangs or whistles. Let her push it around and familiarize herself with it. When she does sit on the potty praise her and try a potty treat or a sticker. Work your way to sitting with her pants down. Then when you feel she can do it take her diaper off and let her run around naked. You will have puddles but that is okay. Just say "baby your pee pee goes in the potty, not on the floor". It takes some time, patience, and consitency. It will com though. My daughter is not even 2 and she is fully potty trained. Take your time. There isn't a rush, just be consistent.

Kathy - posted on 02/14/2010

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She's only 14 months - that's really young. Keep the potty in the room where she is most of the time and let her play with it. don't put any pressure on about her using it to pee in. once she gets used to playing with it she will eventually sit on it. Go at her pace and she will let you know when she is ready. However i have 4 boys and the quickest to be potty trained was 2yrs 6 months and the slowest was almost 3. Don't get into that competetive thing with other mum's as every child is different. Hope this helps and don't worry - they all get there eventually

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2010

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I would definantly back off for at least a couple of months. She doesn't sound ready and she has to want to. good luck :)

Loni - posted on 02/13/2010

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Ive tried all of that.....she doesnt seem to take a bribe of any kind!!! We had a potty chair but she didnt want anythong to do with it!! I have a seat for the toilet, and I got her to pee the other day, and now when I ask her if she wants to pee on the potty she says " I already did!!!" unbelievable!!!!

Helena - posted on 02/12/2010

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try and get that step with the seat that go on to the toilet. make it a game but don't force her to go on it my girl is 23 months didn't want to go on the potty or the toilet at all, until i got that step with the seat. now i don't have a problem she goes to the toilet on her own takes the step put it on the toilet and do it herself.

Krystle - posted on 02/11/2010

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When we first started potty training we had a battle getting her to sit on the potty but once she was on we would read her books and give her small toys or a coloring book to keep her busy. Just be patient with her, Our daughter is about to turn 3 next week and we only got her completly potty trained about 2 months ago. We were really consistent with sitting her on the potty even when she didnt want to sit on it. Also I dont know if you are using a potty seat or one of the training pottys (we used both) but I learned with my daughter that if you are using the seat putting one of those small wooden fold up tables in front of the potty creates a great table for them to put their coloring books and small toys on :) We had to come up with new ways to keep her focused on sitting on the potty this one worked pretty well for us!

DANIELLE - posted on 02/11/2010

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or try put the pottie infront of the tv with cartoons and say sit on pottie to do wees and try that way for a bit

DANIELLE - posted on 02/11/2010

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hi i have a 4 year old girl the way i got her on the potty or the big toilot is that if she wants a treat or things like lollies or a surprise that did help but after a while they get use to it than you might have to change the rutin to some thing differant... thats how i did that with my daughter

Amanda - posted on 02/11/2010

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yea the reason is she keeps takin her nappy off, my mum and sister had all there kids potty trained by the age of 1

Loni - posted on 02/11/2010

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Shes been in pull ups for about a year, and in that year Ive figured out that she isnt very easy to bribe.. I asked her if she wanted to go to school, she said yes. Then I told her she had o pee on the potty to go to school, and she told me she didn't want to go!!!! Ive taken away the pull ups, but she seems truly traumatized by the idea, and I dont want to scar her for life!!!!

Loni - posted on 02/10/2010

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My daughter is 3.5 and still does that!! i dont know what to do. She knows when she has to go..she just wont have anything to do with it!! HELP

Amanda - posted on 02/10/2010

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She might not be ready to potty train and then again she might. My twins wouldn't sit on the potty chair I had to purchase a Potty Seat that snaps on to the big toilet and they actually did extremely well. She will let you know when she is ready just give her lots of encouragement and hugs and kisses. Give her time it usually takes time

Jessica - posted on 02/10/2010

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I have found that waiting for the child to express an interest really helps. My son turned four last week, and he is just now starting to potty train. With my daughter, she's been interested for awhile, but she's more concerned with her puppy (its a stuffed animal) wearing a diaper and going potty. I told her that she would have to share her diapers and she might run out, so she started to potty train also.

Emma - posted on 02/10/2010

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my daughter is 2 and a bit and i have got her to use the potty a couple of times but still a struggle especially when pooing she hates it without a nappy on ivbeen told its a phase and when shes ready she will use it properly

Stephanie - posted on 02/09/2010

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Bribery will get you everywhere. Seriously she may just not be ready. I've always let my kids set their own pace. My first son was 3yrs when he finally got it, My 2nd son (who is autistic) was past 4 yrs. My daughter is leaving them in the dust. She 's going at the potty with a vengence and she just turned 2 this past Nov. When she started paying attention to us going to the bathroom and paying attention to what her own body was doing I knew she was ready. I made the mistake with my first child of forcing him when he was 2 and it realy turned him off. I laid off the training for a couple of months until he started showing intrest on his own. Hang in there I'm sure you'll do what's right for your daugter!

Natalie - posted on 02/09/2010

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I think she might not be ready to go use the potty. My daughter is 25 months and we're not potty training her but only b/c SHE shows interest. She wants to sit on it and she's happy when she actually goes.

Just hold off on it until she shows you she's ready. Is there a reason why you want her trained so early?

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