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Interfering grandma

Holly - posted on 06/02/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

I've been trying to potty train my now almost 3-year-old since right before her 2nd birthday. We made the mistake of moving her to a big girl bed a few months into it to make room for a new baby, and that set her back to square one. So we stopped until after the baby was born. We tried again, and she didn't seem to be getting it, so we stopped and waited another month. Now we're working on hard core training with just underwear--no pull ups, no diapers (except for in bed)--and she still doesn't care that she has pee running down her leg. I'm trying to wait until that magic moment when it just clicks, but in the meantime, I have her grandma (my mom) telling me that so-and-so isn't even two yet and she's potty trained and she heard that if you miss your window, you're just screwed. Since I started this, I've heard nothing but other moms telling me about their miracle children who were potty trained at 18 months, etc. It's getting a little frustrating to hear that when I'm already frustrated with the potty training process. They're starting to make me feel like something is wrong with my kid and I know that's not true. Any advice on telling grandma to butt out?

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Christine - posted on 09/16/2012

I feel for you...My son wasn't potty trained until he was 3. I just put on big boy underwear and he had one accident then it was smooth sailing. Tell your mom thanx for her imput but you are doing just fine without her. And she is actually causing more stress and pressure, that you don't need.

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Deann - posted on 06/08/2009

I have mother-in-law like that, that swears by a one day doll method that worked on both her children when they were around 18 months.....I say its bull crap......I have 7 nieces and nephews and a daughter and they all potty trained at different ages.....my daughter will be 2 in august and she has just now began to tell us afte the fact that she has gone. We started just setting her on the potty at bath time at about 18 months but thats it until she starts to tell us she has to go. Kids will let you know when they are ready. I dont think there is much you can do if they dont even realize that they have gone.

MARTA - posted on 06/05/2009

Nothing is wrong with ur child. Some kids are ready faster than others. I got very frustrated with my daughter when I was potty training her. Its very hard but all the hard work is worth it when they start to go. I would ask other moms for advice. See what works. Good luck!

Holly - posted on 06/05/2009

Sounds like we have the same mom! The every hour thing works to a certain extent, but you have to set a timer so you remember. But I think the point is that your daughter probably isn't ready. If she isn't even showing interest in it, then no matter what you do, she isn't going to try until she's ready. I actually thought I was making progress today. I had two days with only one poop "accident" and then today she left puddles all over my floor and pooped in the pool.

Briana - posted on 06/05/2009

I have a 2 and a half year old. She is not interested in potty training at all!! it is so frustrating! I live with my mom and she keeps telling me I need to put her on the toilet every hour and that she's almost 3 so I better hurry before I miss my window. My sister tells me he same thing. I'm so frustrated because I'm not a patient person at all so the potty training process is already hard for me to handle. I don't know how to potty train her.I haven't had any kids before so she's my first one..I just ignore my mom when she tells me that stuff or just tell her that its my daughter and she'll learn when she learns. Every child is different.

Vicky - posted on 06/02/2009

Instead of telling her to butt out, ask for ideas on any different methods to try. You know which ones (all of them) you have tried, so you don't have to "really" listen. Just let her think you are going to give her way a shot. I have an 18 year old who wasn't potty trained until 4, and had her last "accident" in Kindergarten. Now, I am going through this again, with a 4 and a 3 year old who are giving me lots of headaches. I want you to know that you are not the only one! We moms have to stop looking at age as a measuring stick in potty training. I am not lazy! I am not neglectful! I am working with my kids everyday. They will stop having accidents when they decide to stop, I just keep giving them the opportunities. All three of my kids are brilliant. There is noting at all wrong with any of them. The oldest makes the Dean's list! Hang in there!