Is anyone else irked by other mom's who keep suggesting that we potty train our infants?

Char - posted on 05/12/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I have a friend who keep suggesting that I potty train my 10 month old, she has been potty training her son since he was two months old. She only has the one child so she has this luxury but I'm potty training my two year old and I just don't have it in me to potty train an active 10 month old who will not sit still on a potty at the same time.

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Theresa - posted on 05/14/2011

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Until around age 2 babies don't have any control over their bladder or bowl muscles. "Potty training" them before that is just training the parent, ie the parent knows when baby needs to go so puts them on the potty. True potty training involves the child understanding the feeling of having to go, communicating that feeling and then doing something about it. How many 10 month olds do you know that can say "I have to go potty."? It's ridiculous. They used to say 3 was average age for potty training, now they say 4 is closer to average. If you rush a child who is not ready it just makes more stress for you and the child. When given any unwanted advice I've found the best response is saying, with a smile, "Thank you for your opinion, but I'm very satisfied with my child's progress and so is his/her doctor."

Vanessa - posted on 05/31/2011

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I think you will know when your child is ready! My daughter is exactly 1 1/2 and is fully potty trained but I only started her on the potty because she would say pee pee when she was about to go and hated to be dirty or wet. I don't think I would have started her so young if she showed no signs of being ready.

Carla - posted on 05/16/2011

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It must be nice to have all that time on her hands! Your child will tell you when they are ready and give you signs, I have 4 kids (2 are boys: 16 and 21 and 2girls 2yrs and 6 months) I made the mistake of potty training to early and it backfired and she didnt go near a potty for weeks!! So you potty train when you know the child is ready or you will be wasting TONS of time that you could be spending doing something else!!

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i don't think they are really ready at that young of an age. All of my girls were 3 or 3 and 1/2 when they were potty trained, and they still had accidents after that. Our doctor said that kids up to age 5 usually don't realize the sensation to go to the bathroom until their bladder is completely full...don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should have a 5 yr old in diapers, that is nuts! but they don't need to be potty trained when they can't even walk yet to get to the potty! haha it should not be a stressful event. if they aren't ready or not catching on, just wait a while, don't make them feel like they are in trouble for not going when mommy wants them to. start trying them at 2, but if they aren't ready, it's no big deal.

Melissa - posted on 06/16/2011

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As someone said, at 10 months it is not potty training, it is EC and EC is not at all potty training, it is about communication, routine and picking up signals that babies need to eliminate and giving them an alternative to soiling themselves in a diaper. I have practiced EC with three of my four kids (and yes, babies absolutely do have control over their bladder from birth) Just because you may not understand it doesn't mean that it is not true.

That being said, just ignore her!!! Do what you want to do and just change the subject or tell her out right that it is not for you.

TaKara - posted on 06/16/2011

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I think it's just a matter of opinion and how much "work" you want to put into the process. I personally cannot imagine a child who is talking really good and walking still wearing diapers (but then again diapers were not my favorite thing to deal with). It's work and it was hard but again it was worth the effort.

Jessica - posted on 06/13/2011

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First of all, i think it's kinda impossible to potty train a 10 month old!! My son is 3 and he has just started using the toliet (only to pee) about a month ago. They will do it when they are ready. Pushing them to do it is only going to drive both of you crazy!!

TaKara - posted on 06/12/2011

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My mom bought my little girl panties for her 1st birthday and started potty training her the next week (she babysits my little girl). At first I was a little upset because I wanted to the one to make that decision and because it was really hard. At 14 months old, I quit buying diapers and put my little one in panties while at home and at Grandma's (pulls-up for public and sleeping). Now at 20 months old she wears panties all the time except at night (just in case!). So while I was upset at first now I am very grateful to my mom for getting the process starting. I know my little is way more comfortable in panties than diapers.

Kayla - posted on 06/09/2011

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I say potty training is different for everyone and if your friend is comfortable potty training her baby than thats great... She is doing just what she needs to and you do whats best for you.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/08/2011

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everything i've read said if you start training before they are ready/interested you just spend more time training. training a 2 month old is ridiculous- they do not even have control or the words or concepts for it. she is just wasting her time. i would just keep that in the back of your head when she talks about it & smile & say "thats nice" ;)

Patricia - posted on 05/31/2011

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i think 10 months is way to young your child you decide when it is best to start after all you know them best

Amanda - posted on 05/27/2011

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yes, I am irked lol.. by people who tell other people what they should do with their kids. unless asked. I bought a potty when my son was about a year old I think. he went poop on it the same day and day after. he knows what it is. I just never forced it on him, just showed him what it is. and what you do. he never had control over his urin until just about a month ago he would wake up from his naps dry. and then a couple weeks ago started sleeping ALL night dry. and when he woke up he peed. so. we r doing the no diaper thing. and just tonight he's getting the hang of it. he can hold it for quite a while. he started to pee. and I told him potty! and he held it and ran in there and was very proud of himself. he is 20 months. but I am not pushing it on him. he likes the encouragement. and he will poo all the time on the potty. we just had the issue with pee. I also have a 7 month old girl. and I plan on letting her do her own thing also. O another thing. he takes his diaper off when he is wet. that's another sign. all babies are different. some are eager to learn and others are just stubborn : ) just go with the flow. good luck

Char - posted on 05/20/2011

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I completely agree Tara. I waited to potty train Brie and she seems fine learning it now.

K - posted on 05/17/2011

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At that young an age it's called Elimination Communication and it's a lot of work. I guess it does make your kids train earlier... but is it really worth it? and is it even possible when you have 2 or more to chase after?

I've personally never tried it nor had anyone suggest I do. But its out there in the world of more "natural" and "attachment" parenting (of which I would label myself). It's apparently a lot more common in other countries.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elimination...

Kathy - posted on 05/15/2011

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10 months does seem young, at her 18 month dr appointment my daughters dr said it would be good to soon get the potty, let her get familliar with it, but that starting training before 2 is kinda pointless. My MIL has tried to tell me since 11 months old when she decided that she was going to take her own diaper off that that meant she was ready. I don't think so... I think at almost 20 months she's pretty close but I still don't think quite yet

Lindsy - posted on 05/15/2011

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I totally agree , just ridiculous. If you want to do it that would be your own business, but I think most people understand that a baby using the toilet reliably is just not a realistic expectation.

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I am just irked by anyone who tells me I should potty train my baby. I will potty train her when she is ready... I just had the inlaws over and they had a lot to say on that subject.... I just let roll in one ear and out the other. 10 months seems a bit early my little one wasn't near ready... Makes me wonder if she is able to "train" so early if the baby is really trained or she just knows his/her potty schedule? Sometimes I wonder about that.

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