my 7 year old son won't poop on the toilet

Angela - posted on 01/18/2013 ( 15 moms have responded )

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my son will be 7 years old next month. he was fully potty trained at one point, but now is pooping in his pants again. i have taken things away like not letting him play on the computer or the play station, now it has moved on to not getting happy meals. he isn't having problem's pooping at all, he seems to not even want to try to go on the toilet! he goes in his pants atleast 4 time's a day or less but thats only on a good day. when he does go in his pants, it doesn't bother him at all, he doesn't tell me he has had an accident i find out on my own when i smell it. it's very frustraighting because i'm the only one dealing with this issue he is having. so if anyone has any advice PLEASE help me and write back, i'm pregnant with another child thats due in Juy and i want this issue to be some what better before i have my baby. i know plenty of people are going to think that thisis going on because i'm having another child, but this was happening way before i was pregnant. so please i'm in desperate need of advice thank you very much

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Betsy - posted on 11/15/2013

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I would talk to his pediatrician and a psychologist. Sometimes children will do things like this because of a big stressor that has occurred. Could be the pregnancy, but could be something else. I knew a little girl once around 6 who started having accidents after being sexually abused by a close family friend. Not to scare you, but sometimes things are more complicated than they seem. Be loving rather than using punishment and get some professional help.

Stephanie - posted on 03/01/2014

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We worked with Dr Daum . He talked to us each day to help us thru this. This is a complicated problem...we tried so many things until we found him. Really a helpful profressional.. used Senna, but the trick is in the dose and timing. And doing a clean-out. He can help. I can't imagine where we would be without him now. www.doctordaum.com

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Debbie - posted 3 days ago

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I have a son who will be 6 next month and he has been having constipation issues since he was a year old. Had him to a pediatric GI doctor when he was 2. She put him on lactulose which helped. She decided to wean him off it at one point and he seemed fine and did the potty training thing okay. Then he began to have issues again. He's on Miralax which helped for a bit and now not much at all. He will sit on the potty and not even try to go but yet will go in his pants. I am at my wits end. I've tried bribes and taking things away. May be taking him back to a GI doctor soon. He throws fits when I make him sit on the toilet. I try to make him drink more liquids which he won't do and eat veggie,/fruit. He likes apples but wish he would eat other stuff too. Just frustrated.

Jennifer - posted 6 days ago

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I too, am having the SAME issue as you! Only Im not pregnant. I am BEYOND frustrated!! My son also, will be 7 next month. poops in his pants 4 times or less a day, doesn't bother him whatsoever, but won't change unless I tell him to because I smell it. He's been to GI Doctors, therapists, psychologists, you name it. I've tried it. Taking xbox away, no parties with friends, nothing....he STILL won't go in the toilet!!! I did read on a Dr Sears website, that "if they do a mess in their pants, they clean it". So, I have been having him hose out his underwear, it's been 3 weeks of this, and still, nothing...so, maybe this is something they have to grow out of? I hope you are having some kind of a breakthru, please post back to me if you are and what it was....good luck momma...

Katie - posted on 09/10/2014

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It is because it was painful at one point of time and they think it's going to be like that every time a good clean out with miralax and encouragement will do him some good I went thru it with my oldest and going thru it again with my 6 year old it stinks I know but just try to stay calm.. this shall pass

Lisa - posted on 04/28/2014

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Thank you Stephanie, We are currently working with doctordaum and we are encouraged already with our son's progress. I encourage anyone whose child is having these difficulties to work with doctordaum.com

Nari - posted on 03/07/2014

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I would get him checked by a doctor. If the doctor says he is fine physically take him to a pediatric therapist. Something is going on.

Catherine - posted on 12/29/2013

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Oh my gosh, I feel so much better reading this. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. My son is seven and will not do poo in the toilet either. He has been like this since he started kinder. I have taken him to so many doctors about this in fact we have now been eighteen times and they just keep telling me that he is constipated, we give him at home enemas on occasion and he is now on his 6th twelve week medication of movical - it is so very frustrating, it doesn't do what it is supposed to do to clear him out. They tell us he is eating the wrong foods and needs to eat more vegetables but he refuses to eat things like that. He screams and fights with us if we try to make him sit on the toilet, eat veggies or drink his medicine. It is so horrible so if anyone out there has any advice I would love some. The doctors won't refer us to a specialist. I've had enough and tried every toilet training tip under the sun. I really don't know what to do next.....

Shawna - posted on 12/24/2013

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Have you talked to your child really he is 7 something happened for him to revert back please talk to him maybe he needs your help and that's his only way to show you something happened

Momofboyz0608 - posted on 12/09/2013

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I am having the same issue with my 7 year old. If I give him extra fiber it makes it worse; so either he holds it in for weeks or goes in his pants. I wish I had advice but I really don't. I know taking things away isn't going to help though. You are not alone in this.

Khrissy - posted on 01/31/2013

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My 3 year old daughter is having these same issues. She will be 4 end of April. We started trying to potty train early 2012 and about March or so she started holding her poop, she would literaly cross her legs and not move until the urge left. She then started to have to also get on her knees so not to poop. She was fully interested in potty training before and then all of sudden, she was waking up with wet diapers again and has no interest at all in the potty, unless of course we are out in town or something and then all of sudden she wants to go to the potty, wether she pees or not. She does not mind sitting in it either, i have to tell her her hiney is going to get red for her to even willingly let me change it. I have been taking her to a GI for followups to make sure everything okay. Have had her on Miralax since July or so, and last appointment in begining this month was told have to give to her everyday no matter if completly watery for 1 year. This means giving her full cap full (adult dose per the bottle) for at least three days. The first week giving it to her she could not hold and then she learned to hold it to. I would pick her up from daycare and ask if she had pooped and the teacher would say no, then get home and blow out. I could not believe she was even holding that, man the will power she has. No interst in being like her friends who are now all potty trained at daycare, she just decided she now does not want to go to daycare. I even take her to a counselor, who stated it is behavorial. She found something to control and will not change it. She has not even enjoyed getting attention for this whole thing. I agree with Tasha, he is looking for attention for some reason. Whether it be bad or good. This is something I have decided my little Hayleigh is doing and I am looking at stopping the couseling due to all she sees in this is the doctor has really cool toys. Have you tried to take him to a counselor. I do have to tell you it made me feel better when she told me it was nothing i was doing wrong, it was a control issue my daugher has and I have to work on reversing it without her noticing, which is definetly not something i have been able to do. Now I do have an 8 year old daughter whom i never had any of these issues. Thank you for posting this. I hope to read more about this type of issue. In hopes to learn a little more from others dealing with the same thing. I do wonder if she is possibly ADHD and if this could be part of the issue. Again thanks.

Stephanie - posted on 01/31/2013

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Hello All,
Many children are very resistant to pooping. Sometimes it starts with just a hard stool that hurt or sometimes it is about control. Whatever the reason, it is a tough problem to fix. I urge you to consider looking at doctordaum.com he is a specialist in this area. He works with children who are "stool withholding" or have encopresis or "just won't go!" He uses laxatives along with behavioral strategies. He will walk you through it over the phone and talk to you everyday. He has worked with thousands of children with potty problems. Take a look. doctordaum.com
good luck...let me know.
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Tasha - posted on 01/26/2013

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I wouldn't punish him for pooping his pants. It sounds like he's acting out for some reason, or trying to get your attention. Have you asked him if anything is bothering him? My son pooped his pants until he was 4 he has a type of Autism called Sensory Processing Disorder, in other words people don't feel like others would.

Sarah - posted on 01/25/2013

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I am having the same problem with my 3 year old, she will not poop in the potty. She was fully potty trained for two weeks and then decided to start pooping in her underwear. I have tried everything and nothing works.

Janie - posted on 01/19/2013

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we are going through the same thing! My son is almost 5 and still pees and poops in his pants. He is usually resistant to using the potty at all. He does it at home at daycare, at friends houses, anywhere. and like your son he just doesnt seem to care. He is still in pull-ups and I still change him.

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