My daughter won't go poo in the potty (suggestions please)

Kimberly - posted on 11/16/2010

My daughter will be 5 at the end of this month of November 2010. She very recently started to poop on the potty more consistently. It was soooo frustrating that she would go some times on the potty and then most of the time want to do in pull-up.

I have tried everything, as I think her poops were very sticky/pasty. This probably made it more difficult for her to go.

I told her she could poop in a pull-up IF she sits on the potty. I think they find it hard to sit on potty to do this, as they are used to standing up and pooping. Also, I REALLY believe putting some Aloe Vera Juice in with her juice has REALLY REALLY helped her to go without pain and struggle. This was recommended by Dr. Oz on one of his shows for people who suffer from constipation.

Try some of these things. Don't worry, as my daughter took again very close to when she was 5. They all are different.

Giving 1-2 Benefiber chewables a day helps.

Denise - posted on 10/14/2010

my daughter literly holds it in and hides. I asked her how she feels, and she says she is scared. Everytime I see her holding it i take her to the potty but sometimes it works and there are times when it doen't. Were starting to try books . But aleast she pee's on the potty. So were half way there.

Melissa - posted on 10/12/2010

I have the same problem with my 3 year old girl, though she is now using the big toilet, with her special seat, i will just wait til she is ready

Sarah - posted on 10/09/2010

my son is 3 and 3 months exactly the same requests nappy on for poos and we have tried everything too. yes is very frustrating but am assured he will get it he has another 10 months before school no rush yet. dont put any pressure on i darnet on my son as he has had problems with holding in his poo in the past due to once passing a hard stool so very scared this could happen again.

Vellanie - posted on 10/08/2010

I have the same issue with my 2 1/2 year old. I guess they need sometime to grow into this new phase of thier life. Relax - thats what I am trying to do.

Kelly - posted on 10/07/2010

After potty training the last 4, my youngest, has this same problem. I will definatley try some of you sugestions and try to keep you all re posted if they work. Thanks!

Christina - posted on 10/07/2010

ditto. my 3 1/2 yr old son won't go either. he asks for a diaper every time he has to go poop.

Jen - posted on 10/05/2010

Try this!! If your daughter is a clean freak (like my sons) let her clean the potty have hand sanitzter in the bathroom in her reach show her how to put some on and wipe in off with the paper then go POO.
It worked for me
Also with my first son I would repeat 1,2,3, go poo-poo and it kept him foucused I still use this when we have to potty in public bathrooms and tell them its just us. It really helps.

Virginia - posted on 10/05/2010

If u r using a normal adult toilet try putting some toilet paper in th bowl first as maybe the splash gives them a fright. Maybe u could go poos with them eg wow mummy done a poo can you do one to and even show them if you think it will help, sounds gross but whatever works right

Kimberly - posted on 10/05/2010

I let my daughter go to the potty with me and as gross as it sounds i would let her watch as i pooped in the potty and i got so excited when it happened and then i would reward myself with a capri sun, the drink she usually gets for going in her potty. Also, what helped was letting her sit on mommy's big girl potty and it impowered her i guess to go. I had a big problem with her going poop too, she though she was making a mess but eventually she got over it, once she saw mommy was doing a very good thing!

Selina - posted on 10/05/2010

Maybe it is the feeling of not feeling the poop against her skin. Think of it as this, when she wears a diaper, she can feel herself pooping because the poop is in her diaper which is up against her skin. But when she sits on the potty, she doesn't feel anything touching her bottom, just the outer part of the potty, or whatever kind you have. She could be scared that she can't feel anything (which she will just get over). My daughter took it pretty good, thank god for that. But I have noticed that she likes to "pretend" to flush the toliet & close the lid. We have a potty that resembles a big toliet. Also another she likes to do is wave by to the poop. Yeah I know, sounds gross & funny at the same time, but hey, it works! Don't give up, she'll eventually go.

Lauraine - posted on 10/05/2010

My daughter is 3 and still won't poo on the potty, i have now decided to just not pressure her. She literally only wears a pull up to poo then it's straight back off. She is out of them at night and has never had an accident, so it's quite frustrating! But i realise it's alot more common than i thought and they will get there!!

Allison - posted on 10/01/2010

my daughter is still like that sometimes and she is almost 5

Rachel - posted on 10/01/2010

thanks xx

Joanna - posted on 09/30/2010

Some kids take longer keep on doing what your doing

Alexis - posted on 09/30/2010

Yes, It take time.
They will first have to be some what comfortable with potting in general.
Since our child was very habit oriented, We found the best way was to get hi to potty was to have him sit on the potty at the same time each evening with a book until he had pooped. Then he was free to resume playing. We just recently moved the potty top to fit on the big potty for potty time. Keep in mind we have been working on potty training for most of the past year.
Good luck.

Rachel - posted on 09/27/2010

hi im rachel im new on here i have a 3yr old son and he wont go to poo on potty or toilet either sometimes he doesnt go 4 over 2wks, he sceams and sceams, ive spoken to health visitors etc and the she told me to try califig which helps a little, or nurse gave me some lactulose suryp to give as and when he needed it!

Susan - posted on 09/27/2010

we went threw the same thing with our son, but he finally got it. we tried stickers, and m&m's (i hated rewarding with food but we were desperate). it took him about six months before he finally pooped in the potty. we just watched him alot and all the cues he was pooping in his diaper, then would pick him up and run to the bathroom. then his friends were moved up in daycare and he couldn't go because had not pooped in the toliet yet. well that was the big motivator. and then we told him how he would stickers again and then he could get a big "Buzz" toy, that helped even more. After about a month now, he has been 99% potty trained, he still has accidents sometimes but they are not usually his fault, its ours if we don't get him to the toliet sometimes. But she will get it, I promise, I know it seems like they won't but when they do, it is the best thing ever. Good luck!!!

Christine - posted on 09/26/2010

This is normal an ddhe will in her own time. If you think pee just comes out, but with poo she may have a harder time and or a certain position that works for her.

Katie - posted on 09/25/2010

My son is 3 1/2 and he still won't poop on the potty either. We have tried EVERYTHING to convince him to go... they're just not done potty training yet. They'll pick it up eventually :)