My little girl will not poo on the potty!

Clara - posted on 05/04/2011 ( 53 moms have responded )

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i have a little girl who will be 3 at the end of June. She started using the potty abut 3-4 months ago. She's been doing great with peeing. we don't even use pull-ups anymore (except overnight). But she will not poo! She will ask for a diaper to poo in it. We ask her if she'd like to sit on the potty and try there first, no luck. We tell her she can take it wherever she wants (she likes to hide and poo). No luck. Any ideas? I'm desperate!

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Katie - posted on 05/09/2011

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My girl was over 4 yrs and fully outgrown pull-ups before she would try the potty. I'm as certain as a mom can be that forcefulness too soon was the reason she resisted for so long. But I'm not the most patient of women, and when she'd been peeing consistently for about a month without even being willing to try pooping too, I tried the firmness. She asked for a diaper, and I said, "You know what, I want you to try on the potty first." She looked at me like I was crazy and understand this; I had up to that point done nothing to warrant that kind of reaction from her. I didn't understand how she could have a reason to resist on this point. But they ALL have the same reason, and it's as simple as this: Potty training age is also the age at which they realize they DO have control over their own bodies, and instantly resent your efforts to take that control away from them and make it yours. SO!

Let go of your desperation. Understand that she can feel your desire to control this issue for her, to control her bodily functions for her. Until she feels that you are willing to trust her to have the control of it herself, you aren't likely to get anywhere without more or less traumatizing her. Let her keep her pull-ups, but put them somewhere where she can get them for herself. Then maybe try this....

Start buying progressively smaller pull-ups. Give her the impression kind of gradually that she's outgrowing them. When she's got to struggle to get them on, and it starts to be uncomfortable to poop in them, explain that she's getting to be too big a girl for pull-ups, because pull-ups are really just like diapers, and diapers are for babies. Then one day, the pull-ups "have to go back to the store for babies that need them; if she keeps using them, their going to start making her sick and hurty, because they're making the poop go places it shouldn't go." Then let her work it out on her own. You know she knows what the potty is for. If the progression can go a way that puts the control in her hands without feeling a desperate pressure from you, it's bound to go better. It was finally the only thing that worked for me...I only wish it had occurred to me sooner to manipulate the sizing of the pull-ups to convince my girl that they were not an option, but that it wasn't just because I didn't want her to use them anymore for my own reasons.

I'm tellin' ya, kids are smarter and more sensitive than we give them credit for, and they do not appreciate it when we want to grow them up on our timeline. They have to have a reason to make this step that isn't just about us deciding they are ready whether they agree or not.

Ceri - posted on 05/09/2011

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We had this problem too. My son was good to go with pee but not poo. I bought the "everything potty book". One think that struck me was telling them that the poo wants to come out. That it needs to go back to its home and it needs to go in the potty. He is into active play for his toys and we "talk" for his toys so we "talked for his poo” let me out, I need to go to the potty... ect ect. We also made him sit and like others read books. You can’t poo if you’re all tensed up, so you need to relax her. Read read read. My butt went numb from how long I would sit there and read. Are you using a potty chair or seat? My son does not like his bottom wet. We are still using the chair at home. We started paying him a quarter when he pooed in the potty but that was not working. It wasn’t until we made a clean and dry chart. (Clean (no poo in pants) and dry all day gets a sticker) He wanted a particular toy at the store sooooo bad. I wasn’t going to buy it and then I decided I would but I told him he would have to earn it. We made 10 rows of 10 days. Each time he gets a full row he gets new toy. The first toy was his new spider man mask he had had had to have. We let him see it, and wouldn’t let him have it till he got to the end. Guess what? It WORKED! We are on almost 50 days now, and he has only missed a sticker twice. And sooo upset when he did. I highly recommend the everything potty book. It has many different techniques and LOTS of info.

Brandi - posted on 05/08/2011

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My daughter was scared to poop on the toilet because of the water splashing on her butt. When I turned it into something silly. see how big a splash her poop could make...that seemed to be all it took for her. I hope you figure out a way to help her along. But maybe you could start with talking to her about why she doesnt want to. It may take a dozen times or so before you get the real reason out of her but that will let you know how better to address it.

Erika - posted on 05/08/2011

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My daughter is now 4 and she did not start pooping in the potty until about a month after she turned 3. It is very normal to only pee in the potty & not poop. Also waiting for a diaper to poop is very common too. Fortunately for me my daughter was willing to wear pull ups! We did not go to straight underwear until she started pooping on the potty consistently. I honestly think pooping on the potty is developmental and they want to control where they go to the bathroom. The more you ask her, the more she wants to keep doing it in the diaper! Eventually, they don't like the feeling of pooping in their pants and decide they want to start going on the potty. Just be patient and she will start going on the potty after she turns 3. Everyone I talked to said they all do it after 3 and low & behold they were right!

Heather - posted on 05/04/2011

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I am having the same problem with my daughter. She does not ask for a pull-up and will try on the potty but is tending to hold it in until she has a night pantie or pull-up.

My son used to ask for a diaper or pull-up and then go hide. I asked my sister's advice, she has older children than me, and she told me to tell him he could "hide" in the bathroom on the toilet. Believe it or not, I tried it. I told him he could hide in the bathroom, on the toilet, and I waited outside the door and he did it! He pooped on the potty from that day on! I hope it works for you! :) All the best! :) Heather

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Cindy - posted on 07/13/2014

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I also would let here run around naked and pee and poop on floor, she loved me and stopped.

Cindy - posted on 07/13/2014

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I made my girl wear her diaper until she stopped pooping in it. she did get some poop on floor but I cleaned it up quickly.

Tabitha - posted on 06/23/2011

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I have a little girl who is now six and she was almost the same way, she would poo in her diaper and then take it off and this went on for about a month. When she set on the potty I would make a face like I was trying to push a poop out, she though that was funny and then she would try, but when she did it she really pushed and I would take her to the potty 45 min after she ate a meal. I hope this helps, I am starting potty training with my son now and he is harder then my little girl was, because it does not both him to set in his poo, and he wants to play in it. Good luck

Susan - posted on 06/03/2011

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Good Morning to all my mom friends I have some great news my 3 yr old son finally surprised me yesterday he went poo in the potty all by himself and i was very pleased with him and i rewarded him with a great big clap of the hands and a piece of candy. :-)

Poppy - posted on 06/02/2011

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hi clara,wow thats nice!! with what month did she use a potty,and how did you start? my litte boy is 2yr 5months and would like to start potty training him.

Lyndze - posted on 05/31/2011

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i have 2 sons that did/do that. I was concerned about the first one and asked my dr. She told me that it is the only thing we can not make them do and they can hold that over our heads and hang onto it as long as possible. We can make them get in their bed, or we can make them eat what we want but we their body is something they control. She said when they are ready they will just go. Dont make it seem like such a big deal. That method worked great with my 3 year old who is not 5 but my now 3 year old isnt having it. He is like "DIAPER PLEASE" good luck :)

Susan - posted on 05/31/2011

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Hi Clara, My little boy is the same way he just turned 3 in april and he has been doing great on the peeing part of the potty but when he goes to poo he sits on the potty with his underwear still up and grunts then comes out of the bathroom and gives his leg a little shake and guess what ooops and it is funny in a way but bad on his part too LOL

Niki - posted on 05/25/2011

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I am trying to potty train my 2 year old lil girl now and she was interested at first with the lil potty. I would have her sit on it in front of the tv and give her toys & or books to keep her mind busy, and she did pee a couple times and even pooed once. We mad a big deal out of it giving her praise and she was so happy. But then she didnt want to use that potty no more she wanted the big potty and she would sit on it for a few seconds then get up and tell me she was done when she didnt go. I bought her a dora seat for the toliet which was ok but didnt make a real "difference" in her wanting to use it more or less. So I have kinda given it a break havent asked her to sit on potty or really said to much about potty at all.But now when I have to potty shes right there with me sayen "u potty mom, big potty". So Im gonna re-introduce the idea with her sitting on the potty and hope that shes ready this time. Just like everyone else has said they will go when they feel comfortable doing so and not a minute sooner! Lol So try not to pressure her introduce it and if she doesnt want nothing to do with it then wait a couple weeks and introduce it again. She'll come around when shes ready. Good Luck

Julie - posted on 05/23/2011

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Well, I don't know if I have any suggestions or help to offer, but know that you are not alone. My daughter was potty trained around 3 1/2. (We had been trying for about a year I think.) She went completely the other way. She would go to preschool & hold it ALL day.....it would be like 2 or 3 in afternoon and I would think "has she gone to the bathroom all day?" (I might add that I had 18month old twins at this time too). We tried and tried and TRIED to get her to go on the potty. I tried to take the pull-ups away, but again, she would hold it ALL day, until she got her night pull-up & then be miserable and constipated for 2 or 3 days. I really did not like all the negative comments I got, especially from my mother. But I felt like I had to do what was right for MY daughter. If I tried to force her to sit on the potty (little or big potty) she would get hysterical....and wouldn't go, no matter how long she sat there. I asked I think every pediatrician in the office we go to and they all said the same thing. "It's a control thing. She'll do it when she's ready. If she is hiding to go, then she is not ready. It's a psychological thing. If you push the issue you will set her back 6 months" I tried incentives, things she REALLY wanted.....but that didn't even work. My mother would say negative things to her and I REALLY didn't like that. She offered incentives too.......I basically just gave up & she would go get the pull-up & go, then I'd clean her up & she would put her panties back on. I had to pick my battles. She just recently started going on the potty (after her brothers started doing it I might add). I just praised the heck out of her (when she wanted it - most of the time she doesn't want praise.....she seemed embarrassed or something.) She did say "Be sure to tell Grandma that I'm going on the potty now!" (Grandma said she'd take her horseback riding a year earlier than she did her older cousin.) Now it's not an issue at. Oops, forgot.....she's now almost 6 1/2. I might add......for most of the school year she wouldn't even go #1 at school. We would have to jet home as soon as I picked her up and she would b-line it for the bathroom. She finally started going at school too after I talked to her teacher. She went for quite awhile where she didn't want anyone to know that she was going in a pull-up, but still wasn't willing to go on the potty yet. Anyway, my two cents is that it's on their schedule....not ours. I didn't want to risk the relationship with my daughter or make it a power thing, or a negative thing. And I didn't do it the way my Mom or my sister did it, but I tried the best way I knew how, taking into consideration my doctor's advise, advise from other Moms & articles I had read. You have to decide what's best for your familly. Good luck!

Tamika - posted on 05/20/2011

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Don't feel bad you are not alone on this issue either. I am going through the same problem with my 3 year old son. I didn't have this problem with my older son, so this is new for me too. He would rather hold it until he gets his nighttime pull up on or when he can't hold it no longer we are scooping him up and rushing him into the bathroom to do it on the toilet! It is hard and I feel you about being desperate, but hopefully they will get the hang of it. Hang in there and good luck on finding a solution! :0)

Samantha - posted on 05/17/2011

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Take her to pick out a pair of underware that she wants to wear and if she poos in them make her take them off and throw them away in front of her that worked for my nephew

Carla - posted on 05/16/2011

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I had to laugh when I read this, I am going through the same thing. When it goes silent in the house..there is a poo poo brewing somewhere. I have found if I catch her in the act I will make her sit on the potty for a few min and then if she wont go I just take her panties off and go on about my business and encourage poopage at some point! She would cry and say "I want my panties so I can poo poo"

I try not to make a big deal out of the poo poo cause it seems to trigger the "I can get attention" problem.

Andrea - posted on 05/16/2011

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Tell her if she goes poo on the toliet you will reward her like buying cake to celebrate her big day or take her somewhere special etc

Belinda - posted on 05/12/2011

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We had the same problem with Ally. She would hold it all day until we put a diaper on a night and then five minutes later yelled she pooped, she was 2 at the time (she is now 6). So we started sending her to bed with panties on and taking them off after she went to sleep and putting a diaper on. After two days of that she HAD TO GO and we told her just to stay on the potty. After she went she was crying but both her dad and I danced around like idiots cheering for her about going poop in the potty and after about 5 minutes she slowly stopped crying and started to clap and laugh. It was smooth sailing from there, until she hit Pre K and we had to get after her for not wiping her butt after she went at school. She was also very much use to the big potty with her potty seat on it by this time too. We honestly didn't WANT to encourage her to go in the training potty, gross and stinky to clean up, might as well be changing a diaper!

FARZANA - posted on 05/11/2011

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i had the same problem with my son. he is 3.5. its only a month that he poos in the toilet. just give her time. i used a reward for him. he wanted a remote new control car,so i told him he will get it when he goes to poo in the toilet. it took a month b4 he agreed to go. once they go once or twice it wont happen in the nappy again.

Nikki - posted on 05/11/2011

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hey clara i had that problem with my son about 5 mths ago and i let him see how his sister poo on the toilet bowl and now he poos on his own and we have treats after he poos .hope this helps

Shawna - posted on 05/11/2011

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I had the same concerns you have but at that age you cannot force our children with stuff like that. My son is 28 months and he wasn't doing anything he had been peeing on the pot then all of a sudden he just stopped. One day he peeed and pooped on the little potty. But it is all at his time and when he will choose to do it.I am sure your daughter is the same and will be fine.

Lauren - posted on 05/11/2011

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My daughter will be 3 in October, and we've finally given up pull-ups during the day, and just using them at night. She also likes to run and hide to do her poos. If I see her eyes start to get red (because she's pushing) then I will run her to the potty, and she will go in there, otherwise if I dont see her she will just finish it in her underwear. I've tried reading her a book while she's on the potty, and that helps, or letting her look at the pictures. It keeps her mind off wanting to run around or hide while doing her "business."

Arica - posted on 05/11/2011

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My daughter is 3, and she poo's on the potty all the time. I use to just sit there with her until she did, but now she goes in there and do her thing.

Brenda - posted on 05/10/2011

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My son didn't start pooing in the potty until he went to preschool he was around kids his own age that pood in the potty and it was okay from then on

Michelle - posted on 05/10/2011

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Hi Clara.... I had the same problem with my son a year ago. He just wont do it in the potty! I figured he doesnt want the small one, you know the baby ones because he can still see his poop.... he was so disgusted with it! So one day I waited till he wanted to go and I made him use the grown up potty... took awhile before we convinced him its much better but took a little over an hour before he tried it... i guess he cant hold it much longer.... he did it... and we said our goodbyes to his poop and from then on he never used the diaper... but my problem was I have to hold his legs because he refused to sit by himself cause he already fell on the toilet... it takes a lot of time and patience. Good Luck.... :D

Kimberly - posted on 05/10/2011

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I wish I had words of wisdom for you, our nearly four year old son won't either.

Katie - posted on 05/10/2011

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Ah, if only rewards had worked for my daughter...for so many that system just doesn't, though. Not one of my parent friends have had success with it. But then again, my definition of success is maybe too high a standard. I only count a tactic as "working" if it gets immediate and consistently improving results. With my daughter, I couldn't even get her to see the connection or why she should make one. I put her favorite chocolates in a dish on a high shelf in the bathroom, and when she saw them I told her, "They are for pooping on the potty. You get one for every try, and THREE for the first time you put poop IN the potty." Kid you not, ladies, she was just over 2&1/2 and looked at me like I was crazy. Everything about her expression said, "Um, mom? What's candy got to do with my bathroom habits?" Seriously! I withheld ALL treats for a solid week, and she BEGGED for those chocolates....and NEVER even tried to cooperate with the action I wanted her to do to earn them. So, that was a not-working tactic for me.

And this is where I try to tell all moms to give yourselves a break and don't try to force tactics that don't work. I gave myself fits of fury and despair, believing that I was supposed to pick a tactic and stick with it UNTIL it worked....um, no. If it's going to work, it's going to work right away. If it works at first, but then fails to work after the first few times, then it's ceased to work, and you might as well chuck it. Sticker charts are a prime example of this. I've watched firsthand as parents start using a chart, the kid earns a few stickers, maybe even gets the bonus for pooping, sometimes even earns enough stickers to get that prize....and then the motivation drops right off and the child goes back to lazy ways, yet the chart stays up and the parents just keep expecting it to work 'eventually,' and in the meantime are back to washing extra laundry and cleaning up wet and solid accidents all over the place....when what it really amounts to is that the child simply still isn't ready to commit to being a big kid in that way.

Edel - posted on 05/10/2011

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I used a reward chart....1 sticker for pee-pee and 2 stickers for poo-poos.....she soon realised that if she done the poo in the potty she would get e reward quicker....worked for us...good luck...x

Brenda - posted on 05/10/2011

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I had the same problem with my oldest (she will be 4 in a couple of weeks), we also have 2 year old twins. She has been trained with the wees since 2.5 but number 2's no way, she would do them in her pants all the time and if she didn't it was in her nappy at night (she was only in them at night). In the end I had to think at her level, and she was doing this because her younger sisters do it in there pants and nappies (I am potty training them) and so one day back in March after yet another pooed nappy I decided that was it and decided to never put a nappy on her at night again and lo and behold it worked!! She has never pooed in bed again and started using the toilet for poos as well, yes we still get 'lazy' days when she will do it in her pants but those days are fewer and fewer, she tells me when she needs to go, goes and does it and then gets a treat - the treat is a must while still training.

Marlene - posted on 05/10/2011

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In my expierenci with my 5 years old girl is to LEAVE them alone, give her space and time..eventually SHE WILL belive me, she will do it on her potty all by hersefl, every children is different :)

Stephanie - posted on 05/10/2011

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My son would beg for a diaper months after he was pee pee potty trained too. I started using hershey kisses as a reward ONLY for poo in the potty. I put them in a bucket somewhere high where he could see them and after begging to get them with no luck he finally started pooing in the potty for them! Worth a shot.

Amanda - posted on 05/10/2011

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I had the same problem with my now 7 year old. She was potty trained at 2.5 and would ask for a pull up to poop in. The doctor told me to give her the pull up but only let her use it in the bathroom so that she connected pooping with the toilet. When she was comfortable doing that the doctor told me to sit her on the toilet/potty with the pull up on and let her poop so that she could get used to pooping sitting down! She told me that is half the trouble is that the learn to poop standing up and get used to it!!! Good luck I hope these ideas help your little one! They did the trick for us!!

Brittney - posted on 05/10/2011

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I had the same issue with my daughter,who just turned 4. She just recently started pooping in the potty. The only way I got her to go is incourage her to be a big girl. Shes so excited to go to pre k so I used that. I continued to tell her big girls that go to school poop in the potty. She took it upon herself to say,'I cant go to school if I poop in my panties?' I know it sounds simple but it works but, she has to be ready.

Maggie - posted on 05/10/2011

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This might sound strange but have your husband do it. The same thing happened to us, at about the same age. So one weekend I was off potty training duty and I let my husband so it his way, and lo and behold she has pooped on the toilet ever since! Sometimes, we just need a fresh perspective!!

Jo - posted on 05/10/2011

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Our daughter went through the same thing when she potty trained. Until they are ready to poo on the potty, they just wont do it. My daughter was constipated for a few weeks and then her body would just start pooping at night and during naptime. Best bet is to try and bribe her. Use candy treats or stickers, give her one for every time she tries to poop on the potty, and two every time she succeeds. Might work.

Katie - posted on 05/10/2011

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Regarding the tactic of having them clean their own underwear if they poo in it... I have never really heard of that truly working. I hear about parents trying it, but not ultimately whether it "worked." And for me, it only works if it means that after once or maybe twice of having to wash out their own underwear, they don't poo in their underwear anymore. To me, after that, if there's a third incident where they poo in their underwear, then having them do their own washing isn't working. And my first hand experience confirms this; I worked with two children, (kids of friends) that went through this. One was a three year old boy, and the other was 7 and still having serious issues. With the 3 year old, the fact was, he'd already been pooing in his underwear daily for months before I came along and started making suggestion of things to try, and that effort was a fail because he thought it was fun and funny. He was making "poop soup" in the toilet and laughing about it. In the case of the older boy, well, he obviously had a whole host of other emotional issues contributing that can't be run down here. Suffice to say that washing his own underwear didn't deter him either.

The feeling I have about this tactic is that you run a high risk of letting the child get into a thought process that includes the idea that it's ok to poop in their underwear. And this is why I'm glad I never tried to withhold pullups until there was really no other choice; pooping in her underwear wasn't even considered for a second, she just went to to toilet when she couldn't hold back anymore, and then realized that it really was ok and she whatever her fear was really wasn't founded.

My best recommendation boils down to this; each of us with this challenge just has to figure out the most natural and convincing way to get the child believing it's his/her IDEA, and not about pleasing you. Even kids for whom their parents' approval matters strongly, this is an issue where that doesn't seem to matter.

Cynthia - posted on 05/10/2011

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Well I'm certainly glad to read this but feel bad for you at the same time! My son will be three in November and went poo twice on the potty didn't have bad experience at all with it......we celebrated and he hasn't went since:( That was like three weeks ago! Ped advised to add small amounts of miralax to drink to regulate him but its not that he's unregular just doesn't want to go on potty......Kolt also asks for a diapher HELP

Julie - posted on 05/10/2011

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My 3 year old girl didn't want to do her N#2 because it was hard work for her... i mean too big and hard. I'm giving her more fiber and now she's ok going anywhere(but NOT on automatic toilet) They scare the hell out of her. i think she think the toilet 's going to pull her down in the hole or something.

Randa - posted on 05/10/2011

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It started like that with my little daughter, she started to pee in the toilet and for the poo, only when I am putting pull ups she used to do in it...
then I started giving her rewards (favourite snacks, juices, cookies, sometimes stickers only when she poo in the toilet) ...when she found out that she can't get any cookies without pooing...then she decided to start poo in the toilet....And even I bought her a new toilet seat, that she has chosen....and new panties....so try this, believe me it will work....and now no more pullups at all...and she doing great ...and she will be 3 in september....
so good luck....and make sure u don't force her...run it smoothly... remember when u force a child to do something, he will do the opposite.....so try rewards ...anything she likes....and only give to her when she poo in toilet...
Good luck :)))

Kelly - posted on 05/09/2011

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Thanks for all the great tips ladies! My third (3 next month) is having this problem, but neither of my first two did. In fact, potty training was no big deal until this time around. Certainly the discovery of being in control of herself has been much stronger than the other two, probably because she's had to adapt and fit in around everyone else as the littlest. I'll definitely be trying out some of these ideas.

Heather - posted on 05/09/2011

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I agree with Hayley's post. My kids didn't like the potty but they loved a toilet seat (it was padded too!) They liked being big boys and we almost instantly had no problems.

Annemarie - posted on 05/09/2011

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Hi Clara
This is completely developmentally appropriate. It;s a part of her and seeing it drop into water and then get flushed is a traumatic event for some kiddos! I wouldn't worry., LEt her poop in a diaper, or if she poops in her pants, you can let her be the one to clean it up (this is effective, but can be messy!!) tellingher that if it goes into the potty she doesn;t have to clean it up. We had one of our 6 who just couldn;tbear the thought of pooping on the potty. We allowed h er to just do it in her own time. We showed no emotion, good or bed. We made no eye contact when we helpedher change. When she peed on the potty we made a big deal of it, lots of eye comntat, expressions and smiles! Once she pooped on the potty we made a huge deal of it and she began to use the potty more and more consistently. Hope this helps!

Alison - posted on 05/09/2011

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Be patient. This is not unusual for a 3 year old. My nephew just started using the toilet for number 2 when he turned 4. I would say wait it out and it will probably go away on it's own.

With my 3 year old, I did not pressure her to use the toilet for number 2, but I promised her candy if she did. When she actually started to do it for real, I made a big deal out of it. I took a picture of her with her poop (thanks to Kate G. for the great idea) and called all the grandmas (and her daddy, since he was out of town).

Katie - posted on 05/09/2011

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ooooh, just to clarify, my girl was dry and pull-up free overnights from 2&1/2 years on. Pee in the potty=no problem. It was only pooping she was resistant about, and it's a very common issue.

Dannyelle - posted on 05/09/2011

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Milk of Magnesia and a little forcefulness. It sounds like she has developed a fear about pooping on the potty which may cause constipation and painful bowel movements which turns into a cycle. At least that is what happened to my daughter. One suggestion that I found useful was using a baby doll and having it poo on potty and using brown play dough. Anything to lessen the fear but you need to talk to her to find out what is making her not want to poop on the potty.

Tiffany - posted on 05/09/2011

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I would give my daughter a book to read or look at while she sat on the potty usually worked cause it kept her sitting. She also likes to be alone so i just leave her in the bathroom and keep checking on her.

Erica - posted on 05/08/2011

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I think the trick is to try and get her to relax on the potty. I used to read my daughter a book. That way her mind is on something other than the task at hand. I will say she always wanted me to read her a book, but she eventually outgrew needing them. She did not become fully potty trained until she was almost 3 1/2.
This is something that your daughter is able to control. No one else can tell her when to use the bathroom. You could also try potty chart. Every time she poops she gets a sticker. When she fills up the chart she gets a reward. I hope this helps. Good luck and remember that she will go when she is ready.

Alysha - posted on 05/08/2011

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Have you tried treats? My son has been very stubborn with potty training. I have also noticed that he is fairly consistent on the time of day that he poops. And he will go and "hide" to do this. So with all of this knowledge and a treat when he does poop the last 2 days have been very consistent. Also, we make a big deal about it. We clap and get really excited. Make it like a party. Good luck!

Sabrina - posted on 05/08/2011

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My daughter has the same problem. Whenever she needs to pop she would start screaming for a diaper or hold it in until she got a diaper for naptime or even bed time. I have to sit her on the potty sometimes even for 15 or 20 mintues and bring her some toys and some snacks to get her to forget that I am trying to get her to poop and she will eventually poop. If she is still holding it in I will give her some apple juice while on the potty and she will poop within 5 or 10 minutes. It will happen some kids just need to learn that poop goes in the potty too.

Teresa - posted on 05/08/2011

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We had this same problem for the longest time. He would wait for the over night pull up or have an accident. What finally worked was finding something he could do in the bathroom that required him to sit still. The problem was, going to the bathroom took way too long and he was missing something. A training potty in front of the t.v. was not okay with him. Plus, the more he held it, the more uncomfortable the final task was. I have to give full credit to Angry Birds and m & m's. Angry Birds got him to sit, the candy was an appropriate motivator.

Best of luck!

Hayley - posted on 05/04/2011

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Same with my little girl. She said she didn't like pooing in a potty because it was too small. I bought her a special toilet seat and a step and she always used the toilet after that

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