My son WILL NOT poop in the potty, trainer or big potty, HELP!!!

Jessica - posted on 10/22/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Cam will use the potty to pee, but still abuses his pull-ups by hiding to go poop - what do I do to get him to go on the toilet?? He understands the concept, but refuses, he says he needs to stand up to poop. I'm geting frustrated!! We've even painted his training potty, and I've tried bribing him with "pirate money". Any suggestions???

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Chelsey - posted on 10/28/2009

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Potty training is very stressful especially if it is your first child and if it is a boy. My son wasn't ready till he was about 2.5 and then he got it. kinda. I tried sooner then that but I was just pushing it and realized I needed to back off till he acted more like he was ready. examples of showing interest in the potty and knowing what it was for and so on. I started by taking him with me or his dad every time we went to the bath room no matter if it was #1 or #2 so he would get used to it. Then one day I took his diaper off and explained to him that that was the last diaper and he has to start going pee in the potty. And every half an hour for 3 days straight i made him go potty and he would go. peeing that is. For the night time I never had a problem with "wetting" the bed but i also had a "plan" going into it. I wouldnt let him have anything to eat or drink an hour before he went to bed & I would make him go pee right before I laid him down, & I have noticed that if I slip and forget he does end up wetting the bed with it being my fault its only happened twice but its been my fault both times. As far as pooping, my son will be 3 next month and about a week ago is when he finally starting going poop on the potty. I tried absolutly everything anywhere from getting his favorite piece of candy on ly when he pooped on the potty to sitting him in time-out to making him sit in it for a long period of time to anything you could think of, and then one day it dawned on me that I was gonna come up with a new plan that ive never tried or never heard of and that was taking all his toys away from him, My son is in love with his hotwheels and they go everywhere with us. So one day I took everything out of his room the only thing left was his bed and his dresser. I had to sit down and explain to him that he only got his toys back if he started pooping on the potty and the deak was he could only get one toy back at a time and he was alowed to pick it out, but only one! And slowly one by one and about 2 weeks later he finally was pooping on the potty and had all his toys back and he did it without any accidents! so now I am stuck on trying to teach him how to pull up his own pants but atleast I can officially say he is 100% potty trained and he is almost 3...

Carli - posted on 10/22/2009

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stop buying pullups. Don't give him a choice. At 5 years old he will see his peers going on the toilet and will hopefully join them.

Carli - posted on 10/22/2009

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My daughter, who will be 3 in December, has been pee pee trained since March however she just started pooping on the potty 3 weeks ago. I was frustrated just like you are. We tried everything, she would go a couple of times then nothing would work. All of a sudden one day she just decided to start pooping on the potty and she hasn't had an accident since. She gets a small prize each time she goes which really exictes her. The pee pee training is easy but the poopy training just seems to happen. I'd say just let nature take it's course.

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Nicole - posted on 01/10/2013

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Ok I am a single mom of a 5 year old and the home day care he goes to which is what I can only afford with one income doesn't assist in potty training. He will pee in the potty in underwear but going poop he holds it in and the home day care that only allows him to wear pull ups and doesn't work with him I know my son is behind but as a single mom on one income and very little income and no state assistance all I can afford

Sarah Elizabeth - posted on 01/08/2013

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My little dude and I do sign language abc's while he goes #2. You know your child better than anyone, and when the farts start, its a decent indicator that something else is on the way. (AT LEAST IN MY CASE) Have you tried flushing the bm down the toilet with him and saying something like ,"Doesnt it feel better when that isnt in your diaper?" He probably associates standing with expression of all bodily material, so just get him comfortable with sitting for a bit without expectations...then see

Katie - posted on 01/05/2013

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We are using real money as of now. Give him something to look forward to such as: the toy store, chucky cheese, the waterpark (if you are near one that is what we are using). Just a thought. Someone suggested it to us and is working well as of now.

User - posted on 01/02/2013

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My son turned 3 Dec 1st. He has been peeing for weeks now but won't poop. I know when he is doing doing it so I rush him to the potty. By that time it is already coming out. I am changing hs underwear 5 or more times a day. Ugh! Now he will sit on the little potty for a long time and nothing. He goes up and poops. Ugh again! Help?

Suzanne - posted on 11/06/2012

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There are a ton of things you can try...here is just one of them. Sometimes you have to experiment a bit to find the 'magic' thing that will motivate your child. :)



Good luck!



Http://www.thepottybootcamp.com/Blog/Is-Your-Toddler-Refusing-to-Poop-on-the-Toilet-Here-s-a-Method-to-Try-When-Nothing-Else-Has-Worked.html

User - posted on 08/05/2011

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My daughter turned 2 in February and she will pee on the potty but will not do the number 2 on the pot...at home. At school she does both with no problem but for some reason she will not do it at home. Any suggestions?

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i have just joined this community and reading this conversation gave me such an immense sense of relief like" i am not alone in this ordeal" My 3 1/2 yrs girl is pee pee trained but needs her diapers for poo poo..if i refuse to give she hunts for her baby brothers and wears them .i have tried coaxing,bribing,praising,scaring but am out of options now..let the time take its course .we will see....wail :(

Cindy - posted on 10/26/2009

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I know how you feel when trying to potty train my son he too would only pee in the potty,but not poop...We later found out that he tried one time and the water splashed up on his bottom and he didnt like that feeling. He later came around and gave it another try and thank god it worked (he will be 4 in nov) and about 2 months ago we got him 100% potty trained. Good Luck!!!

Diana - posted on 10/25/2009

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I just went through a few rough months of potty training with my 3 1/2 yr old son. He got the hang of peeing on the potty really fast, but he was scared to poop for some reason. This past week we have had a breakthrough (knock wood), and he is on a roll now, pooping several times per day on the potty. I can't tell you what a weight has been lifted, not having to worry about cleaning up messy accidents (we were trying to train with underwear during the day). One strategy that helped us was to just get him to sit on the potty when we knew he had to go. He has a hand-me-down Leapster from my nephew, and I bought a couple new games for it. When he showed all the signs that he had to go, I asked him if he wanted to sit and play the new games on the potty. We only let him play them on the potty. The first time this worked for us, he sat for like 15 minutes and played. Then he suddenly realized he had to go. He started to stand up to get off the potty to go, but we were able to talk him into sitting back down, and voila! We've also been offering rewards for pooping on the potty (sweets or small toys like Matchbox cars). He did regress a few times after that initial success, but now he is doing really well. It has been such a trying time. I can empathize with all you moms going through the same thing. Hang in there! Oh, and I should mention that my son is pooping on his small potty (the Baby Bjorn potty that sits on the floor--the one with the removable bowl; I highly recommend this potty), not the big toilet yet. But it's a huge step forward. Good luck to everyone!

Kate - posted on 10/24/2009

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Patience is the key. My daughter was the same, used to wait until I out her bedtime nappy on and then run off to her room and poo. Eventually she stopped, a lot of "big girl" talk and basically the fact that she no longer wore a nappy to bed. She never did do "it" on the potty though, only the toilet!!

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My oldest did the same thing. Try the potty seat that fits on the toliet and give him a piece of his favorite candy if he uses the potty. It worked for us and I hope it helps you.

Lizz - posted on 10/23/2009

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Patience...My Madison was the same way...She would jump up and down and cry for a diaper, thus I knew she needed to poop. Instead of forcing her to go on potty, I let her have a diaper to poop and would always tell her that eventually she need to go potty where the "big girls" go. I would take her potty with me and tell her "Mommy goes on the big girl potty" I didn't force her because I didn't want her to hold it in like some kids will do, and start a constipation pattern...Daycare helped alot, too, because Maddie wanted to go play in the big kids room, but they told her she had to go potty on her own if she wanted to play in there...Hang in there :)

Lakeshia - posted on 10/22/2009

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It feels so good to know that I'm not alone! I just joined this site and was feeling really frustrated with the whole thing. My son will pee pee in the potty but will not go boo boo in the potty. I'm so tired of buying pullups. My son is 5 yrs old. I've given him books, toys, and even bribed him with a treat everytime he goes boo boo in the potty. Nothing has worked! What do I do?

Vanessa - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have the same problem...the same exact one....He is hiding and pooping in his pullups or underwear still....he pees in the potty already so we are gradually getting that down but like he wont do poop in the potty....its getting me fustrated also...i just dont know whatt to do either!!

April - posted on 10/22/2009

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This might sound odd... but try giving him a book to read while he sits on the potty. My son used to do the exact same thing. He would pee in the potty, but still had accidents when it came to pooping. He would hide in a corner and poop.
I tried giving him a book to "read" and left the room to give him privacy. Now he poops like a dream in the potty. Sometimes they just need something to keep them entertained and distracted while they relax enough to do it.

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set him on the toilet backwards. I have a 2-yr-old and we are starting to introduce him to the potty. We put him on the big toilet facing backwards and his legs are kind of straight. Kind of stupid, but it might work. Or you could make a game out of it. Make it fun so he wants to sit and poop on the potty.

LaShana - posted on 10/22/2009

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Im in the process of potty training my son as well. I went out and bought him a padded duck tiolet seat that fits into the adult toilet. Now when he does use the pot, he uses the regular tiolet, but his personal tiolet seat has to be in place!!!! Maybe you have to change your son idea of where he needs to be to boo boo! Maybe if he picks out a seat he like then he will use it?

Jade - posted on 10/22/2009

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I know its frustrating but maybe he really does feel the need to stand up to go right now? Try giving him some extra liquids or prune juice to make it a little easier so he can do it sitting?

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