Potty training a 33month old boy with NO interest in the potty!! HELP!!

Gima - posted on 02/21/2013

I started train my 2 yr and 5months old daughter just this months and not soo hard for train her but of course at first she not like to do and it needs to you be patient to get her pee on potty.Everytime she did pee and poo poo in potty i always say ''congratulation'' you did it!!! it may sounds a litttle bit crazy but when you see the child reaction and how happy she is for having pee she have a happy fave,smiling and say...ohh mama wit smile:) but there are times that she pee on her underwear and i always tell her not to pee on her panty..
We need patient for them to train:)
and maybe act like a child sometimes in order for them to go on potty and so they will not scared also.

Lisa - posted on 10/28/2012

My personal preference was to let them decide. I came to that preference after going through battle after battle with my oldest (now 18) and then heading for the child led method for child 2 and 3. It was a true test as neither of them were anxious to get started but rather than post the whole story here, you can check it on my blog http://myrollercoasterkid.com/toilet-tra...



Bottom line I'd stick with the diapers - maybe do a 'count down to potty day' calendar - set a date for the big day and get excited about it, offer to let him practice, plan a party for the big day and see if you can get him excited about it. No matter what, 99% of all kids go to school without diapers so take a breath and try to keep the pressure off. It will happen.

Dominique - posted on 12/06/2011

I started putting my son on the potty @ 18mths after bathes and in the morning. I bought a portable potty seat and put him on the toliet and kept lysel wipes to wipe seats. After being persistant and giving him high praise he is now potty trained and wears underwear @ 2yrs old. He loves to stand and pee and uses the bathroom as an excuse to have his privacy and play in the water @ the sink. Therefore, I have to listen closely b'cuz he kicks me out and will try to play in the sink. SMH Oh Yeah stickers help kids love stickers

Krista - posted on 11/27/2011

well my daughter who just turned two is about 99% potty trained, the only problem she has is holding it, but she hates when she doesnt make it to the potty! i got to potty trained by doing a reward system, for example i got a calender and different kinds of little stickers and when she peepees she gets on, when she poopies she gets 2 and if she does both she get three. she lovesss her stickers! you could also go out to the store and get a few little nick-nacks for example, bubbles, crayons, finger paint, m&ms, those kinds of things,tell him that he if he goes on the potty he will get to pick a prize, that will get him motivated to want to learn, cuz what 3 year old doesnt want chocolate, or bubbles?! after the first time he goes let him choose what he wants, then tell him if he goes a certain amount of times during the day he will get another one....kinda like bribing your child...lol but it works! my daughter just started about a month ago with the calender and stickers and now she wakes me up in the middle of the night saying she has to go potty now and everything!!!! hope it works out well for you, good luck!!! =] oh and once he is started going on the potty do not give up for anything, once you start potty training you have to keep on it or they will stop going and the next time you try to potty train it will take 10x longer!!!!

Nicole - posted on 11/20/2011

My son was 3 when i started the toilet training. I tried putting on the potty, I even tried to put one of the toddler seats that fits under the bigger toilet seat. He would sit there for what seemed hours(but wasn't) I then thought I would try allowing him to stand on a stool and pee standing up. He got it straight away. He seemed more comfortable standing as opposed to sitting, you could letting him stand instead of sitting. I would make a big fuss about how much of a big boy he was and that i bought him BIG boy jocks with dinosaurs on them (he is obsessed with them). I would ask him all the time of he needed to go pee or i would just take him in there. He eventually would just get up and go on his own. But sure we went days where we went through 6 or 7 pairs of jocks but that is all part of it. We all would make a big fuss and high five him and dance around when he would go. He thought it was fun!!! Good luck xxx

AMY - posted on 10/12/2011

My son is 3 1/2 years old and will not use the potty. He refuses anytime I take him to the potty. He throws tantrums and kicks and screams. I have tried rewards and tried just putting underware on him for 3 days and all he did was mess in my floor and had no desire to use the potty. After 3 days could not take it anymore back in the training pants. His preschool is helping alot with this for the first time he sat on the potty for the teacher did not go but at least sat on it. At home I have been sitting him on the potty every hour or so even if does not want to. Not very cooperative wih me about it but maybe consisitency will help.

Stephanie - posted on 09/20/2011

I had to try many different things with my son. He was actually trained for the most part and regressed right back to going on himself. I noticed at night, he never had an accident so once we got home for the day, I changed him into big boy underwear and kept timing him to go to the potty on the hour every hour whether he had to go or not. I also allowed him to go outside and pee behind a tree. They find that fascinating and it helps them to control when they urinate. The hardest part for me was the stinky time. I noticed once he hit the bath tub, he was ready to go, so I would put him in a warm bath, for a minute or two, dry him off and while still undressed, put him on the toilet. It helped his bowel control a lot. I also had to keep the attitude in him that going to the potty is his responsiblity as a big boy and does not always reap a reward. I told him I was proud, and we did a little dance, but no treats for it, just mommy's praise. If he was playing and stinked on himself, he had to go to timeout and could not play for the rest of that time-frame as his punishment because that is just laziness and they get too consumed with play that they would rather go on themselves than go to the bathroom. Hope this helps.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/02/2011

You should know you cannot potty train a child that doesn't want to potty train. The most important lesson I learned was that it isn't up to YOU it's up to HIM when he is going to comply with your new rule. Pushing just makes them resist harder. Like I said...I went through it with my oldest...my little one was easy.



But there is hope!!



What you can do to prepare him for potty training. Start talking about how everyone uses the potty...mommy daddy ..sister and that you don't wear diapers...yada yada. Talk about all the exciting things that big boys do without diapers on and how they get treats when they use the potty. Potty training isn't just a physical preparation it is a mental one..they go hand in hand.



Take him to the bathroom with you when you use the potty and have a potty available for him IF he chooses to sit on it. He may start by sitting on it with a book fully clothed. It's a step.



Keep in mind that the average age of a fully trained child these days is 4 1/2 ..thats #2 and 1. ..Don't stress..when was the last time you saw a 10 yr old in pull ups.

Angela - posted on 04/02/2011

I have potty trained three boys. No matter how hard I pushed and played the games they wouldn't budge and we both were frusterated. With my second I think I pushed too hard and he had accidents and wet the bed for years (could have been me pushing or just his body control). With my last I asked if he needed to go and put underpants on when he asked but didn't push. On his 3rd birthday he was not potty trained but within one week he was in underpants and no accidents. I think giving them the option and encouragement is the best. They will get it when they are ready.

ME - posted on 04/02/2011

Boy do i hear you...My son turned 3 February 8th. He was getting close to potty trained around Christmas time, then got a bad case of Rota Virus and a Double ear infection. He was so sick that it was impossible to keep going with the potty training...Anyway, now two months later it's worse than square one. We are trying a new strategy right now (it worked with getting rid of pacis and bottles, so we figured we'd give it a shot). We took him to the store, he got to pick a new toy (20$ or less), and it's sitting on top of the fridge. If he uses the potty all day (except nap and bedtime) with no accidents for three days, the toy is his. He has more than one accident after that, and we will put back on top of the fridge...can't say that it's working so far, but I will let you know if it does. He did actually have one day of pooping in the potty, but hasn't done it since...

Courtney - posted on 03/31/2011

I'am in the same boat. My daugter was so easy but my 3yr. old son shows no interest, all he does is play with the removeable seat and flush the big boy pot over and over. I've tried pull up, underware, talking about it every day and making a big deal when everyone in the house uses the big potty. But his response is I want my diaper and I'll go in the potty tomorrow. My whole family including in-laws think its my fault and that this situtation is terrible. I need all the support I can get. I'am down to the wire.

Courtney - posted on 03/31/2011

I'am in the same boat. My daugter was so easy but my 3yr. old son shows no interest, all he does is play with the removeable seat and flush the big boy pot over and over. I've tried pull up, underware, talking about it every day and making a big deal when everyone in the house uses the big potty. But his response is I want my diaper and I'll go in the potty tomorrow. My whole family including in-laws think its my fault and that this situtation is terrible. I need all the support I can get. I'am down to the wire.

Lindsay - posted on 03/26/2009

My son will be 3 in Aprl and I am having the same problems he will go on the potty and knows what he has to do but he will never tell me when he has to go but he loves the treat he gets when he does go on the potty . but when you try to put him on his potty he will kick and scream but two seconds later he has already finished. so frustrating!!!

Angel - posted on 03/24/2009

Well, I tried the underwear thing this morning and he just kicked and cried.  He kept saying,"No mama, I dont want underwear!" He literally cried the whole time I had them on him. I finally took them off and put his diaper on and he was fine.  AAHHHH!! :)  I dont want to traumatize him with going to the potty, but I also dont want a four year old a year from now in diapers either.  He doesnt tell me when he has to go or anything and shows no interest.  It must be the maturity thing.  I seriously dont baby him at all.  I've never done that with either of my kids.  So I guess I should wait until HE'S ready huh? Other moms have said to me that one day, it just clicked with their sons and then they wanted to go.  So I dont know.

Christine - posted on 03/24/2009

I'd have to agree with the experts on this one. I think the thing with boys is that they mature slower that girls and that their usually busy bodies. I would approach him a little differently than your daughter, the stright to underwear does work for some though-we had our daughter in pull ups & as soon as I started talking about underwear she wanted to wear them. You can try that. If he's showing no interest just start casually talking about going to the bathroom all day, every day-when your going to go, your daughter just used the potty, etc. Eventually he'll get curious and want to see what all the fuss is about in the bathroom. This casual approach worked so well for us, she no longer felt pressure and eventually started going on her own-pee and poo. Good luck mama!!!