potty training an almost 3yr old girl who is speech delayed

Jenny - posted on 10/27/2012

Good idea

Kristy - posted on 10/27/2012

Jenny- there are people who you might be able to talk to about ways to manager anger; my sister-in-law had ongoing issues with this and found it helpful. I wouldn't speak for other moms, but trust me we wall have those days, but they pass and just try to take breaks, breath and most importantly recognize the good times, actually enjoy them.



It was like a switch for us, once she was talking she was a different person.

Jenny - posted on 10/27/2012

That's what the speech therapists said too but like tonight has been so bad and I just don't know to handle it.

Kristy - posted on 10/27/2012

I posted about 2 years ago while going through this with my oldest; just for you mommies out there I thought I would provide an update. We did not push the potty training, we just offered it and one day, she went and that was the end of it. There was next to no training involved, we just had to wait until she was ready.



Jenny, you might have some additional obstacles going on there, but one thing I can say is that 3 1/2 was a tough year for us because our daughter WANTED to tell us more than she knew how to actually speak, it was adding to her frustration. Once the words improved so did her frustration and anger. Terrible 2's, nope for us it was 3 and I think it was all because she needed a stronger vocabulary to match her awareness of her needs.

Jenny - posted on 10/27/2012

Hi! We are trying to potty train my 3 1/2 yr old son who was just diagnosed with a speech disorder and it has been a nightmare, not only the potty training but baths and his temper and I'm now a single mom and it's been nightmare for me as well. I'm trying to stay calm and just get him to talk to me but he goes into screaming fits and hits and bits me and I will defiantly look into the 3 day potty training but does and have any suggestions for the rest of my issues? Any would be greatly appreciated! :) thanks!

Jenny - posted on 10/27/2012

Hi! We are trying to potty train my 3 1/2 yr old son who was just diagnosed with a speech disorder and it has been a nightmare, not only the potty training but baths and his temper and I'm now a single mom and it's been nightmare for me as well. I'm trying to stay calm and just get him to talk to me but he goes into screaming fits and hits and bits me and I will defiantly look into the 3 day potty training but does and have any suggestions for the rest of my issues? Any would be greatly appreciated! :) thanks!

Sara - posted on 03/02/2010

Hi well I"m potty trainning my daughter who will be three this month, what really got her started was just wearing panties and no pants/ pull up on that way she really knew when she was wet and didn't like it at all, and I also put the potty in our living room until she was reaching their and then moved it a little and so on still not all the way to the bath room yet but geting there but no accidents really I think it's because the potty is close enough for her to hold until she get's there.
Just some suggestions they worked for me hope that they work for you too.

Su - posted on 03/01/2010

3 day potty training is the best! it totally works, my boy was about 2 and a half and it took 5 days, but he was fully trained and hasn't looked back, no bed wetting and hardly ever any accidents. i totally reccomend it. www.3daypottytraining.com

Jennifer - posted on 02/26/2010

Kristy...yes, My son is actually currently seeing a speech pathologist and has been since he was two. I'm glad to see that there are moms out there that know what they are talking about!!! =)

Kristy - posted on 02/26/2010

Hi Rebekah, that is the book I was looking at, maybe the e version would be better. Thanks for the feedback!

Rebekah - posted on 02/26/2010

I don't have a child with a speach delay, but the method that I used was an ebook - the3 day potty training method - amazing! my first time potty rraining was a nightmare so I tried this - ok to make a long story short the woman who wrote it said that she has a kid with speech appraxia and that they were able to do this method.... hope that is helpful. She gives support to people who buy the ebook too. Not very expensive and ompletely worth it!

Kristy - posted on 02/26/2010

It's great to see other people are in the same boat with speech. According to my mother, my sister and I were also late talkers, trust me we got over that :-) It makes me wonder how much of us thinking they are delayed is just external pressures of a modern era...I know this is off topic but have any of you looked into speech therapy?

Jennifer - posted on 02/26/2010

I have a son who is 5 now and is still delayed in his speech. Potty training with his was a nightmare, and we still have some issues with bowel movements. My best suggestion is to use lots of non-verbal cues for your daughters. Of course, keep talking to them non-stop so that they eventually pick up on the vocabulary! With him and my 3-year old daughter, we went straight to underwear. Pull-ups feel too much like a diaper to children. If you need to use them overnight for a while, I don't see anything wrong with it. We did until they learned to hold it. And when your daughter does go potty, make a HUGE deal about it. Lots of clapping and yays!! Good luck to you all!!!

Devon - posted on 02/25/2010

Wow I am so glad I am not the only one stuggling right now with these obstacles. Allison what a great idea with the timer and keeping track. I think I might try that. I did finally get Abby to use the potty yesterday. She basically sat there on and off for 2 hours and drank a ton of juice but finally went. The only thing was that towards the end when I realized she really needed to go she cried for about 15 mins bc I think she was scared. I am hopeing that didnt traumatize her too much. I am just going to keep at it and try not to press the issue too much but have hopes she will catch on soon. Thanks ladies for the advice. Allsion how old is your daughter?

Allison - posted on 02/25/2010

Wow, it's nice to see that Evalyn is not the only one who's struggling with her language and behavioral delay, I am also in the process of potty training her. I even went to buy her one that will sing once she pees it in. I wrapped it up and made a huge deal when she opened it, I even showed her myself how to use it, pulled my pants down, and squated over it to show her what it was for. Kind of embarrassing to admitt, but I will do whatever I can for her to succeed. I'm using the 30 minute timer right now, and every time it dings, I say in a sing song voice "POTTY TIME" and she knows it's time to sit on the pot for 5-10 mins. I've been doing this for a week, nothing yet, and I am also keeping track of the times her diapers are wet, so that I can catch her at those times.

Good luck moms.

Kristy - posted on 02/24/2010

Hi, My 2.5 yr daughter is in a similar boat. She clearly understands what we are talking about and communicates well but just not verbally. It would be much easier to talk to her if she could ask questions... My feelings lean to going diaper less (cold turkey), maybe something similar to the 3 day potty training system, but any ideas would be greatly appreciated.