potty training troubles

Trudy - posted on 06/26/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Hello--My son Alex turned 4 back in March and I have done lots of fighting, bribing, charts, etc. with him trying to get him to completely use the potty--I have to leave him totally naked from waist down for him to use the potty otherwise he just goes in his pullup..So I am looking for advise on how to get past this so he can go to preschool.. Thanks for any advise!



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Candyce - posted on 06/30/2011

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get rid of the pull ups! if he knows he can use them he will there will be accidents but if has to use the potty vs being wet or dirty i think he'll use the potty. thats what we did with our daughter actually we put underwear on her with a kotex pad so if she went in her underwear there was a wet/ dirty mess she didnt like but the pad caught most of the mess

Sacha - posted on 06/27/2011

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get rid of the pull ups and put him in undies. He will learn that he doesn't like being wet and will go to the potty more.

Angela - posted on 07/03/2011

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i had a friend who would put fruit loops in the toilet and tell her little guy to shot for the fruit loops with his pee..she said it worked for her and a couple of friends.

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Brenda - posted on 08/03/2011

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I will have to admit when I took the pullups away, it made a world of difference. He is three and a half and could care less about being dry and clean. When we first did underwear, he would get wet and say I am wet. Then he started putting his soiled clothes in the washer and that is when I knew it was time to do just underwear and no pullups. It did confuse him going back and forth. When putting underwear on him he would say see the circle don't pee don't make the circle go away and that is when I knew it was confusing him going back and forth. He doesn't have any pee accidents in his underwear. Now, I still do diapers at bedtime. He cries and fusses with doing number two in the pot. Says it hurts. I am working on getting more fiber in his diet so hopefully that will come soon. At first, I had him go pee every hour now we do every two hours and he stays dry. Good luck.

Crickit - posted on 08/03/2011

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We just finished potty training with my youngest daughter. I agree with all the other posts about getting rid of the pull-ups. They are just as absorbent as diapers, so many times the children don't even realize they're wet. Fun unders are also a great idea. The other thing we did was move the potty chair into the dining room -- right next to the family room. That way the child has a few short steps to the potty and is still close to toys, family, and fun. I truly believe the most important thing is LOTS of positive re-enforcement. Most kids love to please. Good luck!

Brittnie - posted on 07/13/2011

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I think switching to an undie is a great idea for him. but for the moms who still need to have some protection you need something with absorbency. And you cant just find these at your local target. BumUnders work great!

Becky - posted on 07/12/2011

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I am having problems as well with getting my 3 1/2 year old potty trained. We will set on the potty, we will get up and then just minutes later she pees in her undies on the floor. I talked to different people and the birth to three team of tharipist and they all told me different things, put colored water in the potty (didn't work), put the potty in a different room (nope), etc... One lady I talked to told me not to let her go naked because they can outwait you and then that causes bladder problems... I just don't know what else to try... Right now we are using a chart and bribing, I even got stickers and candies in the bathroom..

Allison - posted on 07/11/2011

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Get rid of the pullup...Buy the fun underwear and let him pick them out, make a big deal of it then buy some plain boring underwear, in our house these were the sad underwear... Start with letting him wear the fun ones but if he has an accident he has to wear said underwear for 2 hrs and keep them dry to earn back the fun ones... Just a suggestion, this is what finally worked with my son. (if my son pooped in the fun ones they went in the trash and I made him watch me throw them out - that only happened 4 times)

Jillian - posted on 07/11/2011

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i dont know ur child, but does he have any developmental delays? 4 is an age he shud def get the potty training down pat. I agree with the other parents, puttin him in trainers sends mixed signals, u have to stick with one or the other. So do the underwear and constantly ask him if he has to go & teach him to listen to his body. I had a DVD by Elmo called "potty time" i started playin it when my son turned 2 and he turned 3 in March and has been fully potty trained by 2 and 1/2 yrs of age. At 1st it was a challenge and he wudnt alwys go, I had to teach him, how important it was to stop what ur doing, even if ur having tons of fun, u need to stop and listen to ur body and when u get that funny feeling that u gota go, tell mommy so we can go to the big boy potty. My son was also in day care at the time so they always took the kids to the toliet every 20mins and sometimes he wudnt go and sometimes he wud. But As soon as I decided NO MORE PULL UPS his progress immediatly changed. Alot of it depends on ur childs understanding and my son understands ALOT for his age. Take him to the store and let him pick out his own potty chair and underwear and see if that helps motivate him. I have a freind her son is a month younger than mines he is 3 turned 3 in may and in our daycare they cannot move him into the pre-skool class until he is fully potty trained. He cud care less if he sits in poop or pee & the mother is confusng him by puttin on pullups. I knew as long as my son had a pull up on he wud go in it. And thats what most parents have to do, just take them away and never go back not even if ur goin on a long car ride, keep him in undies. When my firend has her son over at my house since nothing seems to work for him, I discipline him when he goes in his pants and let him know that is NOT acceptable at his age. I just get a firm low voice so he can understand its as bad as any other bad behavior for his age. I know it may sound harsh but I belive alot of these kids can do it but lack the motivation, and in some cases u have to find other alternatives, such as the low stern voice.

Amy - posted on 07/11/2011

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Ours was an expensive fix, but it worked! My little boy REALLY wanted a 4-wheeler (at age 3), so we told him he had to go for a set amount of time (a few weeks if I remember) without going potty in his pants and it worked. Good luck!

Brenda - posted on 07/04/2011

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Hello, I've been told to take him shopping to pick out underwear and put him in iunderwear and sweats. This will allow them to feel the wet and they don't like it. Now, I had one mom that it worked in one day. Me, not so lucky. At first he would say he's wet and now he takes it off and puts them in the washer. ugghh. Mine is three and a half and I have tried all the other things to. Let me know if you try the underwear and if it works? Good luck.

Jamie - posted on 07/03/2011

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Angela... That is a tried and true method! Cheerio's, Fruit Loop's, anything that they can aim for like a game! lmao! I most definitely will be trying that on my boy! lol I hear boy's are easier to train.. is this true?

Amy - posted on 07/01/2011

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Yea I was thinking about putting panty liners inside of my sons underwear to at least keep poop off the fabric as much as possible

Tammy - posted on 06/29/2011

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I too am having trouble with my 3 year old daughter. She cries every time I put her on the pot and never goes in it. Then she goes in her diaper (#1 or #2), tells me about it and won't let me change her. :(

Sacha - posted on 06/29/2011

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well...most of the time they arn't a big fan of being wet or soiled. I guess not everything can be fool proof... sorry to hear it didn't work for you Amy!

Amy - posted on 06/28/2011

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Not neccesarily Sacha, I tried that technique and my little boy thought it was awesome peeing in his underwear.

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