why does my daughter only pee in the potty and not poop?

Crystal - posted on 06/29/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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she will go pee all day long but not poop in the potty. Does any one have any ideas how to get her to do that?

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Alayna - posted on 07/11/2010

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I know the feeling... My son is 4 and he will pee in the potty, but havn't got the concept of pooping. If anyone has any suggestions, that will be great. We have tried everything and nothing seems to work!

Leoniedanny1 - posted on 05/28/2012

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that amazing. like my daughter is too big for the potty she use the the toilet.. but yea she alway say il do later and then she run in her room and oop. like very naughty girl.. oh man it drama .. why cant they do it in the toilet not in there pant..
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At this stage with my kids and others that I have kept, we talk about poop. When I'm changing them I tell them the poo poo goes in the potty not in their pants. I show them poop in the toilet and talk about it. I try to watch them for when they need to poop and encourage the potty. I make sure they have enough veggies and fruits in them so that they can poop easily when they sit on the potty. When they do have enough fruits and veggies in them to poop easily I get them to sit on the potty and we talk about pooping. I discribe how to push down and we do it together, it becomes a joke and gets really funny. The more fun you make it, the better of a thing to do it is for them in their minds. I encourage baring down even when I think they are just peeing to get them used to the idea. And we call farts on potties, poo poo since they did bare down. I reward that the same as a bowel movement in the potty. I put a spare potty in their rooms, since most kids want privacy when pooping, or need less distractions around so that they can go. I try to put them beside toys so that it's not a boring place to be. I don't follow them when I think they are going to go, I just take their pants off if they aren't old enought to do it on their own. I check on them briefly in the begining to make sure they sit on a potty to go. Sometimes they started on the floor but will finish on the potty. We talk about that saying that it's saposed to go in the potty not on the floor or in their pants. I make sure to peek in the room in a way that I'm not imposing on them but just checking. Once they get the hang of doing it in the potty instead of else where I don't check on them until I think their done. Some kids don't want to be wiped afterwards and that's part of the problem with their pooping. To fix this problem I talk them into it the best I can. I let them help with getting me wipes or letting them hold a wet wipe in their hand inside my hand while I wipe them. I sometimes use toilet paper instead since some kids will either be interested in it and that causes them to be distracted from refusing, or sometimes they have a negative association with wipes hurting them from various situations that happen during the diaper days. I try to get the child to go with me to flush the poop so that they can get excited about that. I let them tear up peices a square of toilet paper if they like, so they are a part of this potty process of flushing. They love to watch it soak up water and it's an oppertunity to teach them that we don't reach into the toilet. We say "bye bye poo poo" when flushing and when throwing away poop from under wear or diapers ect. They love telling the poop bye, it makes them feel relief that it's over and they did it. Even if it wasn't in the potty, it ends a bowel movement in a positive way. The more positive associations you get with poop, the better your training will go.

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Hana - posted on 01/16/2014

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My doughter won't poo or pee in the tollet they sit bye the tub and pee and poo

Marylou - posted on 12/23/2013

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My daughter joli (13) did that when she was 10 so I just made her use a baby potty until she got over doing that also I had her wear dipars and all her friends noticed

Leoniedanny1 - posted on 05/28/2012

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i got a four year old and i really need help like she will do wee in the toilet but not poop why.. she keep saying to i'm sacred i'm like what you sacred of i said her mum and dad do poop in to loo why cant you.... so took one of her favorite toys of her till she learn not to do it in the toilet so hope it will work she want them back i said no not till you do the poop in the loo.. so i hope i did the right things ..?

Elizabeth - posted on 07/14/2010

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My daugher is 2 and just finishing up potty training... what worked for her was barney marathon. We don't typically let her watch it more than once a day, but we parked her potty in front and just let the barney roll! :) UGH The only rule was she needed to be sitting on her potty to watch. When she started to need to poop, she was acting a bit nervous, so I just sat with her and talked to her about it, reassuring her and helping her relax. When she finally did it, she was thrilled to see her poop and we made a HUGE deal about it. She had a few accidants, but we just continued the same process and now she runs right over to the potty and goes.

Melinda - posted on 07/12/2010

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My daughter too woun't poo on the potty. She is in panties during the day. She runs and hides when she needs to poo. I know she needs to go so I take her to the bathroom and she doesn't do anything. After she is off she'll go in her panties. I ask her where does the poo go. She says in the potty. So she knows what is supposed to happen. We have tried the stickers and even offered her teats to do it in the potty.

Elise - posted on 07/12/2010

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i have a little bit of issues with my 1.5 yr old and going poop when i can get her to go she gets real stiff and straightens out...its so weird its like the has to be completely straight in order to go poop.

Sarah - posted on 07/11/2010

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What Janise McG said is exactly what's going on with us, My little girl she's 2 1/2 says she's scared of the potty. It' been really hard but lately by and by she's been sitting on the potty, but not doing anything until; yesterday she peed and we were all so happy I gave her candy and tommorow I'm thinking about going to get her on of thos dolls that pee, some people say they help.

Alicia - posted on 07/10/2010

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We put our lil girl in panties instead of pull ups and that seemed to work really well especially when we got her special character panties. We also gave her treats 2 for pee and 5 for poop she caught on really quick!

Crystal - posted on 07/08/2010

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This is a hard one! Literally in my home! My daughter, 34 mos old is 100% bladder trained during the day, and wants to wear her big girl pants to bed at night now too! However, with her, bowel movements are a medical thing. She has been constipated since birth. I was told by my doctor (a new one who we signed on with when she as just about 2) who finally prescribed something for her, that it will take just as long for this condition to clear up, as it did to develop...so, by the age of 4, she may finally have normal bowel movements. That said, she gets so upset when she has a b/m in her big girl pants (as they have dorothy the dinosaur on them and Dorothy doesn't like to get wet or dirty!) but, she wont' use the potty b/c it is "scary" She started potty training at 18 mos and was doing fantastic! However, she had one bowel movement on the potty and wouldn't potty train again, despite showing all signs of being ready. I had to "force" the issue. About a week ago, I just started keeping her in "big girl pants" When she fouled them, I simply asked her where she is supposed to pee or poop and she said "In the potty" I changed her and moved on. This happened for a day, then, day two, she started to use the potty. By the 4th day, 100% bladder trained! Now, if I could just make that happen with bowels.....I know it is still early, as she just really started a week ago, but, I just don't know how to get past the scary thing. It IS scary for her! It hurts when she poops and it obviously hurt the one time she did it on the potty....what to do, what to do!

Janise - posted on 07/07/2010

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Once they pass the first time scary barrier it will definitely help. Then they realize there's nothing to be scared about. Poop always takes longer than peeing. Especially when they've only known standing up to poo. So sitting down is a big change as well.

Now we would catch our daughter grunting, and with the potty near, we would plop her on it just as the poo is coming out. Even if some of it's too late, empty her underwear contents into the potty fast and be super excited she pooped in the potty.

Sometimes a book/toy works or do a game while she's there. "Blowing you away" is fun. As it has them bear down and help pee/poo but you would react as she blows you away and it might help push out the poo. Songs too might help. Maybe showing her videos of other toddlers going poopoo. And use encouragement and offer her candy/popsicles/park for going poop. Even sticker charts help. Keep up the rewards for each poop.
Good luck

Nikki - posted on 06/30/2010

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the only way i got my little girl to poop on the potty was to take the one thing she loved the most which was playdoe away and she didnt get it until she went and pooped on the potty after about 10 times she realized she wasnt playing playdoe unless she pooped on the potty so thats how i got her to do poop!!! my youngest little girl she is sooooo hard headed im still working with her to even pee on the potty

Samantha - posted on 06/29/2010

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I am having the same issue I just cannot get her to poo poo no matter what I try she won't do it. She will poo poo in her big girl panties and go pee on the potty.

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