Will only potty if naked!

Michaela - posted on 07/12/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son will only use the potty if he has no underwear or pull up on. When we let him walk around naked from the waist down he uses the potty everytime and is very proud of himself. However, if we put underwear or a pull up on him he will not use the potty. Sometimes he tells us that he has to go pee-pee but starts crying if we then try to take off his pull up and have him sit on the potty. Has anyone else experienced this problem?

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First Time - posted on 05/27/2013

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I am having the same problem with my 3 year old son. He poops on the pot with no problem. But when it comes to him peeing on the pot it's totally different. For the last few weeks I let him walk around with no pull-ups or undies on, and he uses the pot. But when I put the pull-up on him he just pees in it and never go to the pot at all. I need help!!!!!!

Meilani - posted on 07/14/2009

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yes!!! my oldest Joseph goes through the same thing!! he is better about going to the potty without messing himself now but I could not keep his clothes on even in a public restroom which i just thought it was gross y-know im trying to keep him clean and everything but yes my joseph could not use the bathroom without taking all his clothes off he will be 4 this october and he still takes everything off except his shirt and in public restrooms just to get him to hurry up and go...I pull his pants off of one leg only! ...hes starting to get better about putting back on his under wear but...yea just wanted to let you know your not alone on this one lol

Jessica - posted on 10/16/2011

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I am training my son and having the same problem. We try big boy underpants and everything, but it's like he doesn't realize he has to go unless naked because he doesn't even mention to me that he has to pee when he is clothed - I just realize he is soaking wet. I think pull-ups are a waste of money so far since as other people have mentioned he just treats them like a diaper anyway. Oh well, hopefully it'll work out. I saw a post somewhere that sometimes boxers are more effective?? I haven't tried this yet though.

Wendy - posted on 04/20/2012

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Hello,

I have worked with a private agency for the past 9 years that uses ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis), it's specifically for special needs kiddos ... but, I am also a mommy of two boys, 3 and 6 year old and have used various techniques with them.



You can try finding a big reinforcer that will be used ONLY for this behavior. So ... what ever your son/daughter likes the most, whether it's a snack, candy, games, use it. None of what will be suggested here is 100% for all kiddos, but you can try it. I have done many of these techniques with kiddos I worked with.



Start by explaining to your son/daughter that everyone wears clothes when going potty, you can even try showing them how you (or, daddy, sibling) go potty. Next, give your kiddo a chance to choose a favorite shirt. Have him/her just hold it in his/her hands but still being naked on the potty. Give reinforcement for this behavior. Do this for a couple of days. Once he / she is ok with this have him/her put it on his / her back like "superman or superwoman." No longer reinforce holding the shirt in their hands once you start with having them put on their back. THis is a very slow process, but continue with this until the child has the shirt completely on. Never go back to reinforcing the previous behavior since they have been successful with that already. Hope that makes sense. Continue with underwear. Have them hold the underwear in their hands with the same process previously stated until they have the underwear around their ankle. Do the same with the pants with the same process previously stated until they have the pants/shorts around their ankle. Continue to reinforce, reinforce, reinforce every single time. Once they have it, delay the reinforcement to every two times they get it, then every 3 times they recieve reinforcer and so on.



Try doing this when they do not need to go potty. It will just be practice. Some kiddos will be ok to go straight to actually going in the potty during this process. But, if not ... once the kiddo is successful with having clothes on, then you can reinforce going potty with clothes on ONLY.



Hope that helps :) If you have questions. post them :)





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Caroline - posted on 04/13/2013

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i have the same problem with my 33month old boy. he has been going potty just fine by himself for the last few weeks, but only if he is not wearing any pull up or underwear. his grandparents think im a bad mom for letting him run around without pants on, but its the only way he will use the potty. ive tried taking him in there and helping him pull down his pants but he just screams at me and gets mad. im thinking its a control thing....like he gets to control his potty when he's not wearing anything, but when he has a pullup on, he is not in control of what happens to his body and suddenly doesn't know how to use the potty. diaper/pullup=potty??? no pullup=control???

Nicole - posted on 10/03/2012

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I am having the same problem with the little boy I nanny... He just turned 4. I was worried his potty troubles were connected with his cognitive delays. It is nice to see we are not alone. When naked from the waist down he uses the restroom completely independent. When he has underwear on he pees or poops and then tells me he has to go potty. I made him a social story book about using the potty based on a library book he loved. I have exhausted every technique I have ever used or read about--sticker chart, candy reinforcer, fruit loops in the potty, treasure box, a pretty intensive potty training routine over the course of an entire weekend in the bathroom (worked for his Autistic brother). I am going to try the boxers vs underwear. It is hard because although his school knows about his potty delays I know it makes it difficult on his teachers. We asked them to set a timer and have him go every 1.5 hours while at school (which would be 2x while at school) but honestly Im worried he will become reliant on someone telling him to go vs going when he has too.

Lisa - posted on 04/19/2012

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My toddler is 2.9 months, and is 100% potty trained when he's naked and at home. As soon as I put underwear on him, he pees and poops in them (he must be associating the underwear with his diaper).

When I go visiting friends, he absolutely refuses to use his potty (I've brought it with me), and will not undress unless he's home (which is odd cause we've always been very open about nudity).

How do I stop this behaviour? He has a sticker chart, which we were using when he was first potty trained, but he just doesn't care to get rewards (food or stickers). I can't stress enough, that he uses the potty every single time at home... but only if he's naked.

Suggestions? Thanks!

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I am having the same problem with my son. He is almost 3.5. We just moved from AZ to CA so I waiting to get serious about potty training until most of the transition was complete. Once I did the only way to get him to go on the potty at all was naked. Once I figured that out he only had a few accidents a day. I tried doing underwear but he either didn't realize it wasn't a pull up or couldn't get it off fast enough. So I was going through 3-4 pairs of underwear a day in accidents. Now I just either let him go naked or let him run around with no underwear but he has his lose fitting shorts or pj pants on. He does pretty good getting to the bathroom in those but still dribbles on them a bit if he isn't quick enough. This is my last hurdle. He won't tell me he has to go potty at all, even when I ask him to tell me. If he can't just do it by himself he doesn't do it at all. Which is very frustrating in public so I still keep him in pull ups on longer outtings. I did find some X-small boxers on clearance at Target, but no one else seems to carry that size it all starts at size 6 and up and he just isn't there yet. Hoping he will treat boxers like pj pants and that they will be easier for him to get off so he can start learning to go potty clothed.

Heidi - posted on 10/16/2011

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Maybe he's trying to show you he's independent enough to walk around naked without a pullup lol.

Meilani - posted on 07/15/2009

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Quoting Erin:



Quoting meilani :

yes!!! my oldest Joseph goes through the same thing!! he is better about going to the potty without messing himself now but I could not keep his clothes on even in a public restroom which i just thought it was gross y-know im trying to keep him clean and everything but yes my joseph could not use the bathroom without taking all his clothes off he will be 4 this october and he still takes everything off except his shirt and in public restrooms just to get him to hurry up and go...I pull his pants off of one leg only! ...hes starting to get better about putting back on his under wear but...yea just wanted to let you know your not alone on this one lol






lol - I have the same problem...I trained him by letting go naked and now he thinks that is how you pee.  I even do the same thing of only taking off one leg when out in public or in a hurry.  I think it is a common thing, although my Connor still sits to pee, and does kinda need to be naked from the waist down or else he makes a mess and pees everywhere so there is a point to this. 





that is so funny....small world huh?...my youngest is starting to train and im going through the same thing with him as well lol

Becky - posted on 07/14/2009

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My son is the same. He is almost 3 and will only use the toilet if he's naked. I think it's b/c I've told him that he is not allowed to pee on the floor or furniture only the potty. He's much more aware of the mess if he's naked. I've never used a "treat" method, if I bribe him for that, where does it end? Sometimes he wants to be a "big boy" and sometimes he refers to himself as a "baby". He refuses pull ups so he's still in diapers. My only fear about this is he's currently in the largest size of diaper (sz 6) after that, what do I do? I guess that will be my "target date", the day he no longer fits into a diaper.

Erin - posted on 07/14/2009

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Quoting meilani :

yes!!! my oldest Joseph goes through the same thing!! he is better about going to the potty without messing himself now but I could not keep his clothes on even in a public restroom which i just thought it was gross y-know im trying to keep him clean and everything but yes my joseph could not use the bathroom without taking all his clothes off he will be 4 this october and he still takes everything off except his shirt and in public restrooms just to get him to hurry up and go...I pull his pants off of one leg only! ...hes starting to get better about putting back on his under wear but...yea just wanted to let you know your not alone on this one lol



lol - I have the same problem...I trained him by letting go naked and now he thinks that is how you pee.  I even do the same thing of only taking off one leg when out in public or in a hurry.  I think it is a common thing, although my Connor still sits to pee, and does kinda need to be naked from the waist down or else he makes a mess and pees everywhere so there is a point to this. 

Nicole - posted on 07/12/2009

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I remember when the boys were going thru this, they seemed too be more willing when they were walking around naked...I never really used the pull-ups except 2times and found that they used it as a diaper instead, but what did help was putting them into regular big boy underpants, like superheros print one, knowing they had on big boy underpants made them want too be big boys and from then on it got easier...of course with all three potty training worked different but we also make a sticker chart so that everytime they did use the potty they got too add a sticker and when they got sticker at the end of each day for the whole week they got a reward for being a big boy...

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