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13 year old Melt Down, Feels like we have gone back to him being 5??

Amanda - posted on 04/30/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My 13 year old seems unable to handle the very smallest of responsibilities, tasks as small as remembering to give us permission slip requests turn into a big battle of him holding them until last min and then having a meltdown if we are not able to rearrange our schedules on such short notice for him to go...We have sat him down a million times and tried to talk him through this problem however it seems to just go in one ear and out the other...He freaks out and has a total meltdown when asked to do the very smallest of chores Ie: Take out the trash...He has had chores since he was old enough to do them 7 or so and not until the last 6 months has it become an issue...? Someone help, I dont know what to do about this new phase! I am at wits end.

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Jennifer - posted on 05/06/2009

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i think your son is having other issues...whether he is having his hormones play havoc with him, or something bugging him at school, something made him change his behaviour. he may not even be aware of what it is. if he is a talker, you can try and sit him down when he is in a good mood and work it out of him. my almost 13 yr old is like that 24/7 and has always been, some of it due to his adhd. some tricks, make a list for him of things he needs to do..give it to him in the morning and let him know by the end of the day he needs to have done it all. while he will be doing what you want, he gets to choose the when and how type of stuff. sometimes they need to feel they are getting to make some decisions as they get older and that might help. that could even be his issue, he feels he is being told what to do and he feels he is old enough to know what to do type of idea. also, when my son goes into one of his rages, (and i am on my game) i let him know that is not how i expect him to react to me, i let him know i will not do whatever it is he wanted and i just simply walk away.i have stopped doing certain things in the middle just because of his actions. when he is ready, he comes back nicely. good luck. hope some of this helps.

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