How many mom's were first time mom's?

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I've read all of the amazing stories thus far on this little community and I have to say I think that all of us were first time mommies. But I could be way off...

In doing research on preeclampsia and HELLP, I've found that statistically speaking one of the risk factors in even having this happen is being a first time mommy. The following quotes are from my research:

"Five to 10% of women in their first time pregnancies develop pre-eclampsia."

"Preeclampsia occurs in 5-8 percent of all pregnancies, though it is most common in first-time pregnancies. "

There are obviously other reasons as to why you would get it. For example I read on preeclampsia.org that "Lupus or other autoimmune disorders such as rheumatoid arthritis, sarcoidosis or MS are huge risk factors for preeclampsia." And that is something I'm currently fighting.

But not only are us first time mom's more prone to developing this, there is such a high percentage that we would get it again. Around 50/50. After it being so scary....how do we get up the guts to try again?

Back to my original question...haha...how many of us were first time mom's?

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Jamie - posted on 06/10/2013

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I was a first time mom when I developed pre-eclampsia, with my second pregnancy I had HELLP syndrome. Seems to get worse for me every time but I hear of a lot of mothers who have no problems the second/third time around. What a mysterious syndrome

ELIZABETH - posted on 03/30/2012

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im a first time mom to my 1 yr old and i have 2 step kids age of 8, and 5 all boys

Lori - posted on 01/14/2012

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When I had it I was a first time mom and because of it im not having anymore children.

Emma - posted on 08/17/2011

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It was my first pregnancy, and I'm currently in my second pregnancy... No signs yet but still very wary!

Hope - posted on 08/09/2011

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It was my first and only pregnancy. I think that the percentage of getting pe again increases based upon your severity. For me, I was diagnosed with severe pe and had placental infarction; abruption with a lot of bloodloss etc. (My son was forcept delivery). Preeclampsia is in my immediate family history, and my age, (almost 33) would put me at an 80% chance of getting pe again if I became prego. My high risk obgyn said that if before age 35: I would be monitored closely; put on bp meds and have another nicu baby- delibrately born earlier than my son was. Considering the vital organs are affected by pe/hellp and pe is a leading cause of heart disease among women; pe can affect a mom's life yrs after baby is born; and ofcorse my severity and % of getting it the 2nd time.... I'm not trying to have another child.

Hope - posted on 08/09/2011

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It was my first and only pregnancy. I think that the percentage of getting pe again increases based upon your severity. For me, I was diagnosed with severe pe and had placental infarction; abruption with a lot of bloodloss etc. (My son was forcept delivery). Preeclampsia is in my immediate family history, and my age, (almost 33) would put me at an 80% chance of getting pe again if I became prego. My high risk obgyn said that if before age 35: I would be monitored closely; put on bp meds and have another nicu baby- delibrately born earlier than my son was. Considering the vital organs are affected by pe/hellp and pe is a leading cause of heart disease among women; pe can affect a mom's life yrs after baby is born; and ofcorse my severity and % of getting it the 2nd time.... I'm not trying to have another child.

Hope - posted on 04/04/2011

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It was my first time as a mom. Preeclampsia also is in my family history, as is high bloodpressure. My sister; aunt; and great-aunt had it also, some of my other family members have high bloodpressure. I'm sure you already have some of these websites to help with your research, but if you don't: preeclampsia foundation; hellpsyndrome society; heart healthy women.

Cynthia - posted on 11/27/2010

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Thanks Catherine! I would be lying if I said I haven't worried about getting it again. My little girl will be 4 months old on Dec 9th and she was born at 34 wks because my liver started to fail. It was scary but at least the second time around, I will be monitored more closely.

Catherine - posted on 11/26/2010

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Hi Cynthia. i had HELLP syndrome with my first and am currently pregnant with my third. My doctor told me when I was pregnant with my second that people who have had HELLP only have a slightly increased chance to a normal woman of getting it again.
They monitored me closely with my daughter doing regular blood tests and checking my blood pressure often, I did end up having similar symptoms but it was nowhere near as bad. They ended up inducing me before anything got serious. I had both of my children at 36 weeks, and my 2nd was the healthiest born. And so far no problems with this pregnancy (I was told it would be very unlikely I would have any of the same problems this time)
Sounds like your having them close like i did. My first was 9 1/2 months old when I fell pregnant for the second time.

Cynthia - posted on 11/26/2010

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Hi! I am a first time Mom and we are going to start trying for # 2 in a few months but I am a little scared that the HELLP syndrome is going to repeat itself. Does anyone know if it is common to develop it in the 2nd pregnancy if you had it in the first?

Catherine - posted on 10/31/2010

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I had HELLP syndrome with my first. I nearly didn't report the symptoms to my midwife cause I though I was being silly but am thankful that I did now.
I have since had a second child and am 27 weeks pregnant with my third. I am through the public system, but they were fantastic they kept a very close eye on me with my second and induced me before my symptoms got anywhere near as bad with my first.
I now know what symptoms to look for now and report any changes in my body.
Since I had HELLP with my first and began showing symptoms of it with my second, I would say more than likely I will have it again with this pregnancy, but I know I am in good hands.

Boni - posted on 10/21/2010

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i was a first time mum! i remember asking the nurse if this will happen again she said only if i changed partner.. strange! but since trying for my 2nd baby i re-asked my doctor and he said it can happen again.. i really hope not i wanna be at home healthy looking after my 1st baby

Rachel - posted on 09/10/2010

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I was a first time mom when I had it.. But it isn't just in first time moms.. Over weight woman are prone to get preeclampsia regardless if it is their first or fifth child. But not all first time moms go thru it.. I am pregnant again and I really hope I dont go thru it again.. So if you could give me the website that you went on to read up on it I would really appreciate it cause my doctor told me I might not go thru it again.. Thanks

Cheri - posted on 07/23/2010

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I was a firsty too. Started into pre-e at 24 weeks and then escolated to severe pre-e and extreme proteinuria and had to have emergency c-section at 27 weeks because my kidney's finally were failing and I was becoming mildly incoherent and confused because of the bloodpressures. My girl is now 8 1/2 months old though and doing great!

Misty - posted on 07/10/2010

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I was a first timer also! I had severe pre-eclampsia & HELLP syndrome. My daughter was born at 24 weeks weighing 1lb 2oz! Blessed to say that she'll be 2 in October & is the light of our lives!!

Katrina - posted on 06/13/2010

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I am a mom of 2 children now, but my first was when I was 19 years old and I developed HELLP syndrom at 29 weeks. I almost died and so did my son. I had kidney failure, liver failure, and was in a coma for 2 days due to this...I had to have kidney dialysis and a blood transfusion. My son wasn't breathing on his own for 2 months and had surgery before he was a month old. He was 1 lb 14 oz when he was born. I know this disorder is very rare and the doctors told us that my son probably wouldn't make it. The doctors told me I was lucky and that it is even more rare to occur in someone my age(19) and told me if I was to get pregnant again within the4 next 5 years that my body wouldn't be able to handle it and I would die. My son is fine other than being a bit small for his age...he will be 11 this year. and he has ADHD. I did have another baby, a girl 7 years later and did not develop the disorder for that pregnancy. Thank god!!!

Brandy - posted on 06/01/2010

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i am and i have an autoimmune disorder that the drs have been trying to diagnose since 2001, i didnt know that was a risk factor?!

Amy - posted on 05/07/2010

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1st time Mom w/ Fibromyalgia/Pcos, currently 38 1/2 weeks w/ baby boy due May 18th.



At 18 weeks I developed Pubicis Symphasis (bad pelvic pain-pelvic bones stretch more than they should), then Diagnosed w/ Gestational Diabetes at 26 weeks and monitored myself for 2 months before getting put on a small dose of insulin.



At 30 weeks I started showing increased protein and 32 weeks I was just under 500-Yikes!



At 33 weeks I was put on bedrest due to Pre-E, Hypertension, Diabetes. Dr. is monitoring me close as she wants me to go as far as I can without my blood pressure rising. She said Mom's who have Pre-E & Diabetes combos, they have to be careful with...because Mom's w/ Diabetes...the babies lungs are not as developed as a normal Mom's baby. My High risk Ob said said she delivered a baby at 37 weeks and the baby couldn't breath the same and had complications, which she has seen happen other times too..also she said the longer I go, the less chance of c-section because of the Pre-E (50% more chance)...unless the baby is too big,,,so far so good.



Hard to be caught in between...one you want to deliver sooner if it benefits and the other one you want to wait..

Cassandra - posted on 03/25/2010

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I was a first time mom when my on was born at 31 weeks due to HELLPS. The scary thing was I had no signs or symptoms. My BP was low I only gained like 8lb no swelling. The only sign I had was the pain under my ribs that I woke up with that morning. That is why I went to the doc because I wanted to avoid getting sick, it felt similar to a kidney infection. She sent me to the hospital to get a different kind of sono of my kidney and when they took blood it came up in my blood work. everything was still normal and the pain had gone away at that point. But they said I had to have a csection right away. I was rushed into the OR. In the 2 hr I was in the hospital I went from just having a pain, that had gona away to my BP being so high they thhought I was going to stroke. There is nothing scarier than someone telling you your options are this or die.
I am 22 week with my second right now. My doc and the High Risk doc all told me that that is what can happen with HELLPS that some people have signs for weeks and others get it all in a day. SCARY!!

Mary Lynn - posted on 03/23/2010

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I was am a first time Mom, My baby boy is now 11 months old! and I fired my doc after that experience. I went to work the day that he was born and I should have been on bedrest.

Shannon - posted on 03/12/2010

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I was a first time mom with twins. Due to my heart failure and the eclamptic seizures, I can't have anymore.

Donna - posted on 03/06/2010

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I was a first time mom and was told by the doctor, if i had anymore, they would be born even earlier. :( I am very blessed, I'm not trying to be greedy. :) Not to mention I had my daughter Mackenzie at 26 weeks. Scary!!!!

Charley - posted on 02/21/2010

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I was a first time Mum! I suffered from Eclamptic fits during labour, I was told that this affects 1 in 10,000 women and is more common if you are a young first time Mum or an older first time Mum. I had several meetings with consultants, midwives and doctors and 1 thing they all said is that there is no known cause for pre-eclampsia, but some younger Mums and older Mums have more stress to their bodies. I was also told that it could have been someting to do with my partners sperm! Who knows.

Rachel - posted on 02/20/2010

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I was a first time mom when I had preeclampsia with my oldest daughter. I also had toxemia.

Katherine - posted on 02/13/2010

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Im a first time mom. I had preeclampsia, with him I had my son 9 weeks early and let me tell ya he was a handful and still is.

Kaylie - posted on 02/08/2010

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im a first time mum.......i had an operation when i was 4 on my kidneys ive still got them both but the doctors told my mum that theres a risk if i got pregnant all the way through i was fine and as soon as i hit 9months a ballooned out! i couldnt even fit in flip flops seems as im only 5ft i struggled!

Danielle - posted on 02/06/2010

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Camryn was a my first at 27 weeks due to HELLP. Hoping I can have another without the HELLP...my OBGYN says I have a 30% chance of having it again. We're still debating...100 days in the NICU would be hard with a little one at home this time!

Amy - posted on 01/27/2010

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I was a first time mommy and had HELLP and Pre-eclampsia along with all the other symptoms...hypertension..etc.

Kylie - posted on 11/02/2009

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I was a first time mum. I was 36 when I had my son as 27 weeks. My consultant said she would bet her house that I would get it a second time (nice house too) and her plan would be to get me to 30 weeks.



I have decided not to have more children. My husband and I have only just got through it, and we have our beautiful boy. That's all I ever wanted, was a happy healthy baby.



We hope to foster and perhaps adopt.

Katie - posted on 10/03/2009

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I had severe pre-e w/ gestational hypertension for my first son. He was born via emergency C-section with growth restriction at 37 weeks, 5 lbs. 6oz. High Blood pressure accompanied, which went away about 2'ish weeks afterwards. 5 percentile baby at birth.



4 months later I had a positive pregnancy test...



2nd pregnancy, gestational hypertension, and my protein count hit 280 near the end, but then dropped back down. I had that son at 36 weeks via C-section, weighing 6 lbs. 15oz. He was in the 90th percentile in utero. 10% at birth. He was delivered early because he wasn't moving - I noticed it, mentioned it, and they confirmed it at my 36 wk ultrasound. So they pulled him.



Both are doing fine - very smart kids. We do plan on having more.

Chelle - posted on 09/29/2009

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I was a first time mom too.....................total sucky experience from trying to get pregnant til he was born.............................even now we are still struggling

Cecelia - posted on 09/29/2009

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I am a first time mom. My pregnancy was perfect until Thanksgiving when I woke up at 2 am with worst headache ever. I had no morning sickness, no swelling, no extreme weight gain, no high blood pressure. After 2 hours of trying to relieve the headache I called the doctor and was told to go to l&d. Got there at 5 am. I remember getting something for the headache and an epidural then my husband told me they were going to do a c-section at 8. The ob on call for my doc's practice was one of the main partners and she called in the other main partner to assist. Later my bp dropped and they almost lost me. I also had bleed into my liver due to the spike in bp that caused my headache and the other parts of HELLP because I had all three problems. I spent 7 days in l&d (so uncomfortable) so they could keep a close eye on me. I really don't remember much about my stay because I was so out of it. I do remember one of the obs telling me that HELLP is something they learn about but never expect to see. And that was from a member of a practice that deals with high risk prenancies. Of course, Looking back, I see that I had symptoms that I just put up to being from working on my feet for most of the day.

Emma - posted on 09/21/2009

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hi tara, i had severe pre-eclamsia with my first pregancy, i had a little girl born 9 weeks early weighin 3 lbs, she had to stay in scbu for a while but is perfectly healthy now! ive also had 2 little boys since and must say none of the same problems occured, so am not sure if its the fact they were boys or just that they were subsequent pregancies?!

i must say though, i was terrified of it happening again and was constantly looking for the symptoms recurring. also i had a c-section with my daughter, but managed not to with my boys, it can be done! if i can do it im sure anybody can!!

Lauren - posted on 08/30/2009

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hey,
i was a first time mum when i got pre eclampsia. i was 31 weeks when the first signs starting showing. I had early contractions at 30 weeks and it all went from there. buit thank goodness i had an excellent doctor who didnt take any risks at all..he is fantastic!
i'm personally not too worried about it happeneing again because i was told that 15% of first preg develop pre eclampsia but it has been stressed to me by both my doc and my sons pead that i will need to be "watched like a hawk" so the next one i might just have to take it a little bit eaiser.

Amy - posted on 08/21/2009

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I was a first time mom too. I developed hypertension at 27 weeks, pre-eclampsia and HELLP at 31 weeks. Actually, I developed HELLP at 32 weeks exactly...

Elaine - posted on 07/08/2009

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I was a first time Mommy! My first daughter Emily was born at 24 weeks due to PE and HELLP. She survived 2 hours after deliver. During my recovery the doctor's tested for underlying disorders I have APA and MTHFR. APA antibodies can be turn off or on in each pregnancy. With Emily they were turned on causing a clot to the placenta causing Emily growth to be stunted. She stop growing at 21 weeks. This resulted in a clot, PE, and HELLP. With my current pregnany I am on Lovenox to thin my blood, Folgard, B12, over the counter folic acid, and a baby aspirin and I am 33 weeks. I learned about these disorders when I joined the preeclampsia.org forums.

Elaine - posted on 07/08/2009

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I was a first time Mommy! My first daughter Emily was born at 24 weeks due to PE and HELLP. She survived 2 hours after deliver. During my recovery the doctor's tested for underlying disorders I have APA and MTHFR. APA antibodies can be turn off or on in each pregnancy. With Emily they were turned on causing a clot to the placenta causing Emily growth to be stunted. She stop growing at 21 weeks. This resulted in a clot, PE, and HELLP. With my current pregnany I am on Lovenox to thin my blood, Folgard, B12, over the counter folic acid, and a baby aspirin and I am 33 weeks. I learned about these disorders when I joined the preeclampsia.org forums.

Carie - posted on 06/29/2009

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I had Pre-Eclampsia and HELLP with my first child. A 29 weeker. Then with my second one I also had pre-eclampsia and HELLP and she was born at 26 weeks.

Angie - posted on 06/04/2009

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Hi! I was a first time mom when I ended up with Pre-eclampsia. I had absolutely no problems with my pregnancy, until my 37 week check-up. There BP was 160/100, lots of swelling and massive amounts of protein in urine. I was induced the next morning. This time around, my BP is already slightly up, so I am beyond scared!

Amy - posted on 05/17/2009

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I'm a first time mum here. :)

I can certainly relate to you, Lisa Marie. I was being cared for by a group of midwives, some of whom just assumed I was exaggerating my complaints since I was a first time mum.

Several times towards the end of the pregnancy I complained of various things like excessive nosebleeds, headaches, chest pain, dizziness, light spots in my vision and weight gain (I went from a size 10-12(australian) before pregnancy to a size 16/18 and was told it was all normal and not to worry since my bp wasn't *excessively* high.

Luckily I had a great midwife for my last visit who took one look at me, heard my complaints (that I had told so many others), took my bp, checked for protein and sent me straight to hospital where they put me on mag sulfate - Abby was delivered that same day.

I will always be thankful for that midwife taking me seriously and not assuming that I was just an anxious first time mum - if she hadn't, the likelihood is that Abby and I would not be here today.

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