How many mom's were first time mom's?

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I've read all of the amazing stories thus far on this little community and I have to say I think that all of us were first time mommies. But I could be way off...

In doing research on preeclampsia and HELLP, I've found that statistically speaking one of the risk factors in even having this happen is being a first time mommy. The following quotes are from my research:

"Five to 10% of women in their first time pregnancies develop pre-eclampsia."

"Preeclampsia occurs in 5-8 percent of all pregnancies, though it is most common in first-time pregnancies. "

There are obviously other reasons as to why you would get it. For example I read on preeclampsia.org that "Lupus or other autoimmune disorders such as rheumatoid arthritis, sarcoidosis or MS are huge risk factors for preeclampsia." And that is something I'm currently fighting.

But not only are us first time mom's more prone to developing this, there is such a high percentage that we would get it again. Around 50/50. After it being so scary....how do we get up the guts to try again?

Back to my original question...haha...how many of us were first time mom's?

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Charlotte - posted on 05/06/2009

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First time mom here with HELLP. Twins girls born 34 weeks plus 4 days. Had no swelling or high blood pressure, just REALLY bad chest pains. (I'll post my story elsewhere...)

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I was a first time mommy as well. Also with a boy which I've read that some believe is more common.

Erin - posted on 02/11/2009

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I am a first time mom also. I didnt have any previous issues. I did have gestational diabetties too. Dr told us if we have another we have a 30-40% chance of HELLPS again. Wynn was born @ 29weeks and weighed 2 lbs 7oz. She is now a healthy 8+1/2mo. old.

Natalie - posted on 02/01/2009

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From my experience & understanding pre-eclampsia is mainly due to the fact that as your pregnancy progresses and the baby becomes larger your own body starts to see the part of the genes in your baby, from your partner, as foreign & therefore starts to take over. You develop pre-eclampsia & the body tries to reject the baby. From what I have been taught most to all cases of pre-eclampsia are not necessarily first time Mums but the first time you have a baby with that Daddy. For example I had it with my daughter & if my husband & father of my daughter, were to have another, I wouldn't get it again. My body now, due to carrying my daughter, has part of my husband's genes. If however I had another child with another partner I could develop pre-eclampsia again as you've got the whole problem of the woman's body deciding that the growing part of the baby that is Daddy's DNA being a foreign body & trying to expel it. That's how it was explained to me by the Midwives, Nurses & Doctors anyway - does that help?

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I am a first time Mom that had Sevre Pre-Eclampsia. I had my son 7 weeks ago at 31.6 weeks. I had a very serious case of Pre-E Before being pregnant i was 105lbs and during my pregnancy i was up to 140lbs at the last Dr's apt a week before i had my son. I had no signs of Pre-E at the dr's 5 days before going to the hospital. My BP was normal, and i had no protien in my urine. I went to the hospital with back pain on friday morning and was airlifted to a hospital with a NICU and a more advance L&D dept.  My Dr's were amazed at how fast my symptoms came about and from being weighed at my Dr's on monday morning and being 140lbs i was 175lbs by saturday. My Son was born on Sunday and within about 2 days i was looking much better. now i am 7 weeks postpartum and i am back down to 120lbs. It was crazy how fast everything moved and progressed, not at all what i wanted my first childbirth exp. to be like. It was a crazy time, and all i want now is to have my baby boy at home with me!

Sallie - posted on 01/30/2009

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Also a first time mom for HELLP. I was never officially diagnosed with pre-eclampsia.

Sherry - posted on 01/30/2009

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Hi I am a first time mum. my son Rhys had to he delivered at 27 weeks weighing 1lb 12oz. This was due to HELLP syndrome which was diagnosed by my midwife when the doctor in the hospital wanted to send me home! He was in neonatal for just over three months. As i was so ill i was rushed into intensive care and didnt get to see my baby for the first four days. When i finally saw him nothing could prepare me for how small he was, ive never seen anything like it. Ive never been so scared in my life. Im only 22 at the moment but I must say I am sure Rhys will be a only child for a long time, even my partner agrees with me! It will take a long time for those scary memories to fade!

Janelle - posted on 01/29/2009

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I was a first time Mommy when I developed pre-eclampsia. my son was born at 30 weeks plus 6 days. luckily there were no major problems and he came home after 6 weeks in the hospital. Needless to say I was nervous with my second child but I had excellent care and was watched VERY closely and ended up carrying my daughter until 37 weeks! my 2nd pregnancy was wonderful, a couple of times near the end my blood pressure spiked at home so I went to the hospital and they got it under control and I went home. Contemplating a third baby now, and wondering if I should just count my blessings!

Lisa Marie - posted on 01/29/2009

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I am also a first time mom. It is my understanding from the research that I have done regarding HELLP syndrome that it most commonly results in emergency C-sections due to lack of early diagnosis which is due to the fact that the symptoms HELLP are often regarded as first-time mommy paranoia. I feel that is what happened in my case b/c I did infact complain of excessive swelling, pain on my right side just below my ribs, headaches & nosebleeds, but the response was always that it was to be expected with pregnancy, but they are tell-tale signs of HELLP. In my research I have read that it actually can occur for the first time in second or later pregnancies, but it does seem to most commonly occur in first time mommies.

Kristi - posted on 01/27/2009

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Hi Tara,



Yep, MS! Scariest time (prior to my experience of having Wes) was getting diagnosed with MS. My symptoms started less than a year before I was diagnosed. The first symptom was L'Hermitte's - which means that when you move your head, you get wonderful zaps and tingles all over your body. They lasted about 3 weeks. That was about June 2003. Next was another great thing - it felt like my brain and my mouth weren't attached. So, I would be trying to say something like "how are you?" and it would come out "kdn djie jejj". That lasted about 3 weeks as well. That was great since I was in my last year of my first degree. I was diagnosed a few months after the last attack. I ended up having 5 MRI's (yep, 5) and was able to see the little white spots on my brain from the attacks of MS.



Now after 5 years, I have only had one other attack. It was in November 2007, 5 months before I got pregnant with Wes. I was off my meds (obviously because you can't be on meds and get pregnant, these meds kill babies). This attack was crappy too - the right half of my body, and I mean the entire right side (even my tongue) was frozen. That was incredibly annoying. I have regained most of the feeling in that side of my body, but my hand is still only about 95% of normal, and will never go back to how it used to be. That's a little annoying since my job involves using the computer a lot, and I have had to learn to type without really being able to feel the keys!



Ask me any questions, whenever you want (and anyone else too, if you are interested) I have no problems sharing my story, and my life!

Kristi - posted on 01/27/2009

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I bet, Abi. Especially after reading your story. I do not want our son to be an only child. The thought of this happening again is so incredibly scary, but we are going to do it. The doc is ready for us when we are ready. He is an amazing man and has done a lot of research and dealt with a lot of people with HELLP. I feel as safe as one can in his hands.

Abi - posted on 01/27/2009

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My first two pregnancies went great...no problems at all.  This was my third preganancy, and even with low risk factors of having HELLP again, I'm not willing to risk it.

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You have MS!? I'm sorry! But they think I have MS too! Or something very simillar. They are calling it MS for now...haha! You look so good! :o) What are your symptoms?

Kristi - posted on 01/27/2009

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I am a first time mom. I have MS and was diagnosed 5 years ago this March (wow, time flies). I think that HELLP Syndrome occurs in 0.2 to 0.6 % of pregnancies, so is very rare. They don't know if anything contributes to HELLP Syndrome, I am sure there is something, they just haven't found it yet. I have also read that with HELLP particularly (I don't know much about Pre-eclampsia) the lower your platelet count, the higher your chance of developing HELLP with subsequent pregnancies, but usually it isn't as bad (thank goodness). It definitely scares me to have another baby, because even though it happened this time at 35 weeks, what if it happens at 25 weeks, or earlier?  That is my biggest fear. I know I should be scared for my own health to, but as a typical mother and wife, I am more concerned for my son, my husband, and the child that will be ...

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