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After 11 years pregnant again!!!

Jamie - posted on 09/14/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I just thought I would write to get some of this off my chest. I have a 11 year old daughter and a 10 year old step-son and now me and my husband of 7 years are having a baby. I am so worried about how this will change everything. I had given up many years ago the idea of having his child and was content and happy with my situation. Then I found out I was pregnant. What if I don't feel the same about this child as I did about my first. I don't want you to think I am a bad person but I was not to pleased to find out I was pregnant. I don't want my life to change and we barely have the room in my house for us much less another baby. My step-son I am afraid is going to take it very hard once the baby gets here as he will be jealous that the baby gets more time with Daddy. My daughter is extremely excited and can not wait. I have 5 weeks until delivery date and I am terrified. I had a hard time delivering my first child and have had complications with my female parts since. I have even had 3 miscarriages. I am worried that since I am not as excited about this one that I will feel different with this one and also that I won't connect as much. I also on top of all of this am bi-polar and was on medication for the first two and half months because I was not aware I was pregnant. I am worried this might affect the baby. Any comments are appreciated. I think I just need some words of wisdom and support from others that may have went through some of this already.

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Alisha - posted on 05/22/2012

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I believe everything happens for a reason, just trust that something good is to come from all of this. I have observed that older siblings such as your are great with the new baby, and he will always have someone to look out for him.

Diane - posted on 05/16/2012

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No need to worry! I have a 16 year old and a 14 year old and my husband and I are expecting again. It will be a little different at first but Im sure you will jump right back into the wing of things just as you did with your daughter. And your step-son will be just fine knowing that he is the oldest and he has someone to protect and someone to look up to him will make him feel real special in the end!

I believve it will all work out perfectly. May God bless your family.

Sharon - posted on 08/25/2011

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So...here it is almost 1 year after you posted this.....how are things going? I hope that it worked out much better than you thought it would...I have to say, my jaw dropped reading your post...not because I think you are horrible for posting it...but because that is the same boat I am in almost!
I have an almost 12 year old son currently from a previous relationship...My husband and I have been married now for 6 years and we are expecting our first child together....I am almost 8 months, due in October. I was not happy at first....I have since come to terms with this and I am very excited...but I did not have it good with my first son...I had horrible post partum depression and I am terrified of having it again. I am hoping that being older and wiser will help...we'll see.
So, how did it end up for you? I am the one needing the words of wisdom now!

Victoria - posted on 10/04/2010

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Congratulations! That is such exciting news! And not to worry, you aren't thinking anything that any other woman in your shoes would feel. You will probably find that you will be a natural with your new little one, and this time around, you have your daughter and step-son to help out. I wish you nothing but the best - let us know how it goes!

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