WHAT IN THE WORLD AM I GONNA DO!

Patricia - posted on 10/08/2010

I am doing much better. Things are back to normal. we are doing great.

Joanna - posted on 10/08/2010

Patricia,

I know it may feel like you're the only one who acts out the way you do. But I'm here telling you you're not! this pregnancy as well as with my first... well, the only reason why we knew i was pregnant was because I'd gone mentally crazy! and luckily my husband stuck it out. we've gone to counseling and tried techniques of communication and relaxation etc and yet every morning I wake up with a chip on my shoulder angry that I had to get out of bed and face the day.

After I had my first I had post partum depression (not like I wanted to hurt my kid, but just that i didn't think i could be a mom and that i wasn't doing anything right and i'd cry all the time) but throughout this pregnancy I know it's going to hit me again and I'll be on anti-depressants because if one is hard, 2 is harder. You need more patience and less arguing between adults about chores or who's getting up to do what in the middle of the night.

What I'm trying to say is, you and I both, and probably several other women, need to just sit back and relax and try to not worry about 'where all the furniture's going to go' and 'how many dishes are piled in the sink'. Make a list of everything that needs to get done and when it happens, GREAT, cross it off, it's DONE! You don't need all the baby furniture yet, I'm sure you're going to let the new baby sleep in your "room" anyways for the first 3/4 months! RELAX and enjoy the bond you and your daughter are sharing right now because no one but YOU can provide for her. remember, She feels your stress too. Just breathe and take one day at a time.

Maybe take a warm bath with some sented candles and have a YOU evening. You and your husband and family will be okay in the end.

Hope you can bring some serinity to your last few weeks of pregnancy. Enjoy it and don't stress. just roll with the punches and think in your mind that you're not going to let things bother you anymore, it's better for the baby (and everyone else).

Good luck!

♥-Joanna

Patricia - posted on 10/07/2010

I am doing better this morning. Justin was late to work because we were laying in bed talking and making up. I layed there and cried in his arms, and told him how sorry I was. Told him I was so lucky to have such a wonderful man who loves me and our kids. He supports us and is there for us. That is hard to find now days. I am so blessed and happy to have him.

I told him I am sorry for the way I act, and for the way I treat him. I don't know what's wrong with me. I don't know why I do the things I do or say the things I say. I asked him to help me change how I am because I can't do it alone. I hate the way I am, he deserves better. My biggest fear is that I am going to loose him. What man would stay around with all my drama. There is something mentally wrong with me I told him. I need to be tested or something. I am sure other 26 year old moms and wives do not act the way I do. I get so stressed out over stupid stuff! From this day on I plan to work hard to change my ways. I want to change me. I want to be a better mom, and wife, and person. I need to get things in my life in order. (from most important to least important) I have a lot of work to do!

Jane - posted on 10/06/2010

the good news is that he sounds like a normal 19 month old. set him up on the kitchen table w/some finger paints (Crayola makes a great one that comes w/special paper that can only show up on that paper, and is very simple to clean off his hands.) or some food coloring and water w/some paper. he's bored. the more little things you can give him to occupy his mind, the happier he will be.

"deserving" to go - he's too little to deserve or not BUT it would be a great time to let him and daddy go and you can start to clean out the closet. you'll feel much better and get a start of some of the things that are stressing you out. if your parents are around, hand him off and work on organizing what you can. a little bit at a time, don't take it all on in one sitting. and the baby will be fine for the 1st four months in a bassinett by your bed. the room - crib is basically all you need. you can always change the baby on the bed or sofa, etc.

it will be very hectic for the first month when the baby is here. don't worry too much about it, one day at around month three, you'll realize that you are handling things quite well. just put Brandon to work as the big brother - he can pick the clothes for the baby, bring you the diapers and bottle, read to the two of you while the baby nurses/drinks the bottle, be the "tootsie-tickler" for the baby, etc. and stress to him how much more love babies bring when they are born, enough extra love for everyone! if you don't give him a role, you'll go bonkers - kids adapt very well but they need some direction.

halloween-dress him up, hand him off, to dad or grandparents, send them out the door and either put your feet up or organize some things.

it's not impossible, although you'll feel at times it is, but is a bit crazy.

we had our 2nd when our 1st was 18 months. they need a lot of direction at this age and throwing a new baby into the mix makes things more challenging. he will be fine. don't expect too much of yourself. forget the laundry, cleaning, cooking and things like that for a few months. order takeout or eat at your mom's house, etc. hubby can learn to fold a few clothes for a few months.



you should join this community on here: Moms of toddlers pregnant or TTC again!

Laura - posted on 10/06/2010

I agree with Cherulene...you do need to make some you time before the baby arrives or you will plainly be pulling your hair out left and right. I take about an hour before I go to bed to just lay there and read...my hubby takes our son into the livingroom with him (he's 20mths old and a night owl!)

Just take a DEEEEEEP breath and do the best you can with what you have! I often find myself wondering how I am going to do it with two!

Cherylene - posted on 10/06/2010

Shame girl! Sounded like you had a HECTIC day! You should just try and relax otherwise your baby might even arrive earlier! I also have a 19 month old girl who keeps me very busy and fit.

You should honestly take a day off for yourself and do whatever you want to do... watch movies if you like, walk around in the mall - just chill, and make some YOU time before the new baby arrives!

Good luck to you!