Does Your Family/Friends Think You're Nuts??

Rhonda - posted on 12/28/2009

I wished I understood why it is so east for family to be so unkind when voicing their opinion! Your choice is exactly that and whether or not they approve is not an issue! Your reproductive health and what you feel led to do or not do is between you and God! May God bless you and I'll be praying for you!!!

Lizzy - posted on 07/23/2009

Just to add to the rest of this discussion, the Morning after pill is the exact hormone found in low dose birth control, but a much higher dosage.

The birth control pill works in 3 ways, it prevents ovulation, prevents fertilization, and thins the lining of the uterus to prevent implantation of a fertilized egg. Each woman's body responds differently to the pill, so it may prevent her from ovulating or it may not. When I was on the pill in the beginning of our marriage, I would get cramps in the middle of my cycle. Looking back, I am almost certain that I was ovulating in the middle of the month, however I never did get pregnant (have a fertilized egg implant).

here is a video that explores this topic...
www.youtube.com/watch?v=aoIN7LcMANM

The issue is for women like me, there is no way to know for sure when or if you ovulate on the pill, a lot of women don't even feel cramping or anything when they ovulate. If the first two ways the pill work fail, then you can ovulate, have your egg fertilized, pass the egg that was not able to implant because of the thinned lining caused by the hormones of the pill and never know it, thinking you just had a regular old period. For those of us who believe that life starts a conception, which is a week or two before implantation in the uterus, this is a HUGE PROBLEM.

Just saying that the pill causes abortions is a little simplistic, although it may be true, I wouldn't be surprised. There is a separate issue that is not termed "abortion" in the medical community. It is causing a fertilized egg (baby to me) to die by creating a hostile environment in the womb (by thinning the lining as a result of the hormones in the pill) so that it cannot implant (which is what I think a lot of people call an early abortion, which I personally agree with),. People just don't really talk about it, I mean I didn't believe it when I first heard this stuff. Try reading the package inserts. You may have to look in the info for doctors as it is not always included in the "info for patients" part. Here is a video that explains a little more.

By the way, separate thought, my husband and I are allowing God to bless us with children as he sees fit without birth control. Nursing as often as baby wants and not supplementing with formula or water holds off the return of a period for anywhere from six months to 2years plus, therefore spacing children farther apart than one might think. No promises, but I think these are typical numbers. I tend to be on the low end, though.

Love in Christ,
Lizzy

Natasha - posted on 07/05/2009

Quoting Christa:

Again, don't you think God gave us free will and the knowledge to control our family size? I think you can control your family size and still be following God's plan.

I agree with you here Christa! If i were not to use birth control i would be falling pregnant within a few months of having a baby i'm sure!! And if i never did anything to stop it i would end up having more children then i could handle. Although children are a great blessing from God he also wants us to be resposible and if we feel we can't care for so many children then we shouldn't have them! They deserve to be cared for with calm and happy parents who are able to cope! Why wear yourself down when you don't need to? If you can handle it then great! Go for it but don't judge those who find it more difficult!

Natasha - posted on 07/05/2009

Quoting Christa:

Again, don't you think God gave us free will and the knowledge to control our family size? I think you can control your family size and still be following God's plan.

I agree with you here Christa! If i were not to use birth control i would be falling pregnant within a few months of having a baby i'm sure!! And if i never did anything to stop it i would end up having more children then i could handle. Although children are a great blessing from God he also wants us to be resposible and if we feel we can't care for so many children then we shouldn't have them! They deserve to be cared for with calm and happy parents who are able to cope! Why wear yourself down when you don't need to? If you can handle it then great! Go for it but don't judge those who find it more difficult!

Tam - posted on 07/04/2009

Have you read the book about the Duggar Family?

That's one reason they now have 18 kids. When they started, about two or three kids into it, they lost a baby and the doctor explained it was because she got pregnant when she was taking birth control and though she stopped as soon as she realized she was pregnant it did affect the baby (according to the book, the doc's word was "aborted") and so they decided right then and there to leave it up to God.

It cracks me up that people are so interested in those things as if they have an opinion, but tell them you don't believe in abortion and WHOA! It's a choice and none of our business. So, why is choosing to have kids not a choice and none of their business? Logic fails some people sometimes.

Amy - posted on 07/01/2009

I am just starting to be comfortable in my own skin and it is amazing! i just think i don't want to always wonder what might have been and who might have been. i also strongly believe that God would be better at determining who and how many children he should bless us with and i strongly believe that if God wants us to be done he will close the womb just as He did back in the day. :) we get lots of crazy comments and/or irresponsible...you know the usual and i used to take them to heart until i realized i don't really have to answer to them for my choices. i also thing that just knowing that my mom wanted to get her tubes tied before i was born and actually begged the doc to do so but for some reason he didnt. im blessed to even be alive and i am not going to wrestle with making that choice in my own life not knowing what i might be missing out on because of it. :) and my husband I are very happy with our decision and anyone who has complaints can just take it up with the Lord :)

Becky - posted on 06/04/2009

when i was about 10 i was put on birht control to help keep my period normal.i became sexually active at a young age.i got pregnant twice while on birth control and the pill didnt make me miscarry.this is just an example that the pill may not cause abortions.everyone is welcome to their oppinion and my story may be just luck but i dont believe that the pill causes abortions.

Tamara - posted on 06/03/2009

I think it's a call each couple needs to make. My husband and I have used birth control in the past, but will not be in the future. But there are many reasons for this decision. We've talked about it, researched different forms, prayed about it. Personal we don't find anything wrong with making sure you have the resources to take care of a provide for the children you have. We have a hard time getting pregnant, so we don't do anything to prevent it for now, when we feel we are done having kids we will be getting a permanent solution.
To me this is one of those things were you have you thoughts and believes on it, and feel free to share that with others, but you don't try to change peoples minds on it.
I hope I didn't upset or offend anyone.

Tawny - posted on 06/03/2009

I so hope that I have not offended anyone Im just a little cranky and am having a hard time going to sleep. ;)

Tawny - posted on 06/03/2009

If you want alot of kids and you can afford it that is great, and if you don't and want to take birth control pills or any other forms that is also fine. Yes God does play a part in this decision of life. This is a miracle to be able to have children. There are people who want children and then there are those who don't. My sister was on birth control because she was having problems with her ovaries. I never was on the pill but that was my decision. So is that wrong that someone who is on the pill because of a medical reason. I have never heard that the pill will abort a baby. what about the shots that people get that stops the egg from producing, so how can we sit here and say that if they are having sex and are getting the shot that stops ovulation how is it that they have had an abortion. I dont know.. I think that I would rather know that someone was on the pill or using some sort of birth control than hearing about the people who have abortions. So I wonder than do some of you believe in the Quiverfull movement.

Traci - posted on 06/02/2009

This conversation reminds me of the Duggars on TLC...I would soooo have that many kids if my hubby and finances would go for that! I looooooove kids ;) lol

Sarah - posted on 05/29/2009

Sharon, I would have to agree with the statement that God will never give you what you cannot handle. I believe its just a matter of your relationship with your spouse and God. He will "will" it if he see's fit. God will not give you a child just to give you a child. He uses everything for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. I dont see how we can limit God into saying "its His will to have more children" or " no, its not His will, but our own free will". I think everyone is getting caught up in their own opinions on whose will it is, but the reality is that each child is a gift from God, given to you to take care of and raise to be righteous. Yes, we will all pay for our choices, whether good or bad, and that is our choice given to us by God. I have to admit, I get lost in these details as well. If you are following what you believe to be Gods will, then yes He will direct your path including in the area of conceiving children. But if you are here to say that every decision to either take BC, or use a condom, or chose NFP, or to have sex is a decision to either prove or disprove Gods will for your life is absurd. Thats not what God looks at in determining the plan he has for your life. He looks at your heart.
I think that even if your family members dont agree or understand where you stand on this issue of BC, then speak the truth in love. In the end it is the decision between you, your spouse, and God to have children as you see fit. They should support your decision irregardless of what they believe... you can always tell them they can have whatever control they want over THEIR bodies and child-bearing decisions. :P

Sharon - posted on 05/27/2009

This has been really interesting reading i absolutely love a "civil" debate. I am not a scientist and didn't do any research this is just m opinion but i do believe the pill can cause abortions plus mess with your body. I grew up in a very anti religious house (i was saved at 14 baptist when my parents learnt abput this the locked me in my room and starting beating me and strangely me screaming God is Evil until i agreed which i never did, thankfully i was taken out of that home) but have alwas believed that. I am willing to accept children as they come we defiantely cannot afford to have lots of babies and after baby number two started using condoms and with them we are now pregnant with baby 4. My eldest isn't even 4 yet. So i believe God will decide how man kids He will let you have. Plus it does sa that He will Never give you anthing you couldn't handle right

Sharon - posted on 05/27/2009

How can you know that it didn't?

Christa - posted on 05/21/2009

I found it on a ovulation site. We are currently trying so I found it on a website that helps you figure out your most fertile days. There is so much 'research" out there, it's hard to determine what is absolute fact. I've really started looking into this subject since this discussion started and there are so many conflicting details. Which leads me to believe that know one really knows. People just publish the facts that support their part of the argument. I'm a scientist so I know how easily data can be manipulated to support an argument. My biggest doubt is how can the possible know what is going on with the egg that early. If I went in to the doctors office right after having sex to see if my egg had been fertilized they couldn't tell me, so how do they know how many get fertilzed while someone is on birth control?

Sarah - posted on 05/20/2009

Its not my opinion ladies, its what the independent research groups are saying. And as far as how the pill works it is a multi level approach. The pill is supposed to prevent ovulation, however most women will still ovulate between 55-75% of the time. The second stage of prevention in the pill is to prevent implantaion. This is not considered a miscarriage to most of the world. However, since I believe that life begins at conception, not implantation, this to me counts as a miscarriage. The third level of prevention is to cause a full miscarriage should implantation actually occur. The pill is considered to have a 99% effective rate. The problem with this number is that this means that a pregnancy does not occur, OR does not survive past the 21 day pill cycle.



Christa, I am very interested in the chances that you give a couple. I spoke with my father who is an OB and a fertility expert, and he says that that number is incorrect, but would be interested in hearing where it came from.

Christa - posted on 05/19/2009

I agree with you Stasia, that rate doesn't make any sense. They say that a normal healthy, fertile couple has a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle. It makes no sense that a women on birth control would have a higher pregnancy rate.

Stasia - posted on 05/19/2009

Sarah, I thought you weren't supposed to ovulate when you were on birth control? If you had five early miscarriages a year that would be a failure rate of almost 50%. I must say that I was on birth control for about six years, and when I was NOT taking birth control I did get pregnant and have an early miscarriage (very early). My point here is that I am absolutely sure I was not having five miscarriages a year, I know what they feel like, and I can guarantee that not all women are experiencing this.

Sarah - posted on 05/17/2009

First Hello to the group. Second I absolutely believe that the pill causes abortions. I wrote my thesis on birth control. It was a fifty page summary of nine months of research covering medical journals both in American and abroad, and the conclusion that I had to come to was that the pill deffinately causes a women to abort her babies. Most foreign journals actually site that women have an average of 5 early miscarriages a year when taking the pill.



My husband and I believe in using Natural Family Planning in our home. As it is I am 25 have a 26 month old, a 10 month old, and I am about 6 weeks pregnant. My husband is the oldest of nine. My sister-in-law is one of eleven. My brothers fiance is from a family of eight. Large families are part of our culture. Thankfully I am part of a church that is very supportive of big families, and at least my in-laws are happy for us.



For now I am young and we are letting children come as God wants them too. In a few years from now, I know that we will begin using NFP with alot of prayer. I do not want to continue having children into my forties. It is my wish to be a full time grandmother, and support to my children when they being their families. I won't be able to be a help to my older children if I am still raising little ones. This however is a very personal desire that I have. I believe that children are a blessing from God at all times, but I also don't believe in producing children just for the sake of having more kids. People need to be honest with themselves and before God about what their span of control is. It is wrong for people to produce children that they are not capable of raising. And this is not about money. Almost every one of us could live on less. If your only reason for not having children is because it would cut into your shoe budget then thats a serious personality issue, but living on welfare and continuing to have children that you can't feed is also wrong.

Gina - posted on 05/16/2009

I agree with Christa on this one. Many people in my religion are mixed with this too, I feel that the size of your family is between you and god. You know what your body can handle, and your mind! My sister doesn't believe in birth control, luckily she is not a fertile mertile, so she has some spaces in them. Me on the other hand, I would have a ton if I didn't do something. Birth control makes me so sick, so we used natural family planning, and it worked really well. Now that we're done having kids, and it helped that the Dr. said not to have anymore I talked my husband into getting fixed. I know that is not 100% effective, and I feel like if one ever slipped through, then that baby was really meant to be here.

Stasia - posted on 05/14/2009

dont talk to anyone about it. I am pro life, but I am not against controlling how big your family is. I can not take care of five kids nor do I want to, and I do not believe there is a god who will give me a set number of children because he wills it. The bottom line is, if you keep having unprotected sex then YES you WILL have more children, I dont believe that it's god's will, its biology.

Anyone who doesn't support my beliefs and that I know they wont, I just fib a little. There is no sense getting in an argument with your grandmother about whether or not you should be taking birth control. She wont change her mind and wouldnt it be nicer to visit and enjoy each other than fight?

Sarah - posted on 04/27/2009

If the subject comes up I just tell people that if I get pregnant I get pregnant because I believe that it is God's will. Not everyone wants to hear that, but that's what I believe. My MIL thinks that having 2 right now is enough, so I just don't talk about it with her. Yes, I would love to have another baby if God will's it, if not, I'm fine with my 2 boys.

Elizabeth (the Instigator) - posted on 04/22/2009

Natural Family Planning is birth control in the same way that choosing not to eat donuts everyday is dieting. LOL! Seriously though, the choice is to exercise your self-will, not indulge with no consequence.

Christa - posted on 04/22/2009

Ok I respect that, but I consider natural family planning birth control. That's why your last statement confussed me. :-) I have also enjoyed learning more about the other point of view. I am glad that I'm done with the pill myself, I never liked messing with my hormones.

Angie - posted on 04/22/2009

That's exactly why there is natural family planning. It's a way to control your family size without taking the chance of killing one of your children. Just because we have free will doesn't mean that all of our plans are right. BTW, I am really enjoying this conversation, thank you!

Christa - posted on 04/22/2009

Again, don't you think God gave us free will and the knowledge to control our family size? I think you can control your family size and still be following God's plan.

Angie - posted on 04/22/2009

Quoting Christa:

Quoting Angie:

Quoting Christa:

I guess I'm the lone wolf on this subject, but I have no problem with birth control. I don't believe that birth control aborts babies, it prevents the initial fertilization, usually by preventing ovulation. Therefore there is never a baby created. I know there are some questionable forms of birth control that work differently so I'm not talking of those, but condoms, most pills, depo these all prevent the fertilization. I was on birth control for 8 years and now that we are ready for children we are letting God have control. As a pro-lifer I think birth control needs to be encouraged because no matter how much we would like for everyone to abstain until marriage, that's not going to happen. If someone is not ready for a baby I would much rather have them take birth control then to abort the pregnancy when it happens. Just my thoughts. :-)

Actually, the pill and depo do not always prevent fertilization.  Often they do but if fertilization happens, they make the uterus hostile to the baby so the baby is simply aborted.   Here is a quote from a Web MD article:

"HC (the pill, the patch, and the vaginal ring) all contain a small amount of synthetic estrogen and progestin hormones. These hormones work to inhibit the body's natural cyclical hormones to prevent pregnancy. Pregnancy is prevented by a combination of factors. The HC usually stops the body from releasing an egg from the ovary. HC also changes the cervical mucus to make it difficult for the sperm to find an egg. HC can also prevent pregnancy by making the lining of the womb inhospitable for implantation."

I didn't realize that hormal birth control was an abortifacient either until someone told me.  Doctors do not give their patients this info and it's very sad.......

I did do some research and there is no definitive data to support that "the pill" causes abortions.  Here is an article I found discussing both sides of the argument.  

For me it doesn't really matter because I never plan on going back on the pill, but the bottom line is I would choose for women to be on the pill then to not and get pregnant and then knowingly have an abortion. 

 

I do appreciate this discussion as I have not heard the other side of this argument before.  Thanks!!

 

Thanks for sending this article.  It actually supports my argument.  I'm not willing to take a chance that I could kill my own child by using any type of birth control - including the barrier method or tubal ligation.  All types of birth control come between me and God's will...............

Christa - posted on 04/22/2009

Again just trying to learn. . Who was forbidding Christians from using birth control and what happened in 1931 to change that?

Elizabeth (the Instigator) - posted on 04/22/2009

The problem with artificial contraception is just that, it is artificial. For Christians prior to 1931, it was forbidden. In fact, many marriage counselor are beginning to make the connection between contraception in marriage and marital problem/divorce. If the sacrament of marriage calls for the complete giving of oneself to another, then artificial contraception undermines this covenant by withholding that part of us which is life giving from our spouse. We essentially are saying "I will accept some of you and give some of me but not completely."
It is not a coincidence that the pill as we know it became popular in the sixties and the divorce rate began it's steady incline.

Christa - posted on 04/22/2009

Quoting Angie:

Quoting Christa:

I guess I'm the lone wolf on this subject, but I have no problem with birth control. I don't believe that birth control aborts babies, it prevents the initial fertilization, usually by preventing ovulation. Therefore there is never a baby created. I know there are some questionable forms of birth control that work differently so I'm not talking of those, but condoms, most pills, depo these all prevent the fertilization. I was on birth control for 8 years and now that we are ready for children we are letting God have control. As a pro-lifer I think birth control needs to be encouraged because no matter how much we would like for everyone to abstain until marriage, that's not going to happen. If someone is not ready for a baby I would much rather have them take birth control then to abort the pregnancy when it happens. Just my thoughts. :-)

Actually, the pill and depo do not always prevent fertilization.  Often they do but if fertilization happens, they make the uterus hostile to the baby so the baby is simply aborted.   Here is a quote from a Web MD article:

"HC (the pill, the patch, and the vaginal ring) all contain a small amount of synthetic estrogen and progestin hormones. These hormones work to inhibit the body's natural cyclical hormones to prevent pregnancy. Pregnancy is prevented by a combination of factors. The HC usually stops the body from releasing an egg from the ovary. HC also changes the cervical mucus to make it difficult for the sperm to find an egg. HC can also prevent pregnancy by making the lining of the womb inhospitable for implantation."

I didn't realize that hormal birth control was an abortifacient either until someone told me.  Doctors do not give their patients this info and it's very sad.......

I did do some research and there is no definitive data to support that "the pill" causes abortions.  Here is an article I found discussing both sides of the argument.  

For me it doesn't really matter because I never plan on going back on the pill, but the bottom line is I would choose for women to be on the pill then to not and get pregnant and then knowingly have an abortion. 

I do appreciate this discussion as I have not heard the other side of this argument before.  Thanks!!

Christa - posted on 04/21/2009

Don't you think God also gave us the resources and the free will to control our family size? I hear many of you saying whatever God has planned that will be how many children you have. Some people are just more fertile then others and if they let nature happen they would end up with 18 kids (in fact there's a family in the news like this). Don't you think you need to take into consideration your finances and your ability to take care of them etc? What about those who continue to have children, but can’t provide for them so they are living off the government (I’m not implying that is the case with anyone here). Don’t you think maybe they should have interfered with their natural child bearing process? I want 4 kids, but after that my husband is getting snipped. I know we would never be able to afford that many more children and we wouldn't be able to give them the quality of live that we want. Not to mention I'd probably lose my mind. :-) Anyway, I'm not trying to argue just get some more perspective. I'm a devout Christian as are many of my friends and family, but I've never met someone who shares these beliefs on childbirth. I'm really just trying to learn.

Rebecca - posted on 04/21/2009

I posted this on another thread, but it's more appropriate here. When I got pregnant with my 5th child and found out she was breech and I would have a C-section (my first), my mother was elated because NOW I could get my tubes tied. When I told her that I wasn't getting them done, she told me to think about it and that I might change my mind when I got in there - after all, I would already be opened up and she was sure I didn't want to get pregnant again. I asked her which of my previous 4 children I should have not had - where I should have stopped before now - and she didn't have an answer. She talked about money and space and time for each child. My mother was a nun (obviously before she got married) so I was really shocked that we were having this conversation. I told her I would think about it mostly just to appease her. I'm only 34 and yes, I do feel that 5 is enough - but I thought 2 was enough, and 3 and 4....God had different ideas. My husband and I have fully embraced HIS will for the size of our family. When the day of the C-section came, my mother brought up the tubal procedure again. I knew I wasn't going to have one so I told her, "I tell ya what - if I get pregnant again, you don't have to love that baby, ok? You can just ignore it and pretend it was never born since you don't want another one anyway." She told me that wasn't fair, but has never brought it up again. I am secretly hoping to get pregnant again someday (not today!! The baby is only 7-1/2 months!) just to see how she reacts. :-) Sometimes you just have to have fun with God's will and not take even those closest to us too seriously. The only ones that truly matter in the equasion are you, your husband and The Lord.

Christa - posted on 04/20/2009

I will do the research, because I don't believe that at all. I have read all information that was given to me before and I never once saw anything like that. Like I've said I know the morning after pill prevents the implantation as do IUD's. I will look into it further.

Angie - posted on 04/20/2009

Christa, I always thought that too. Ask your at the pharmacy and read all the information carefully. I know you don't believe what I'm saying but it's true. I did a lot of research and the info I quoted is from a 3rd party not The Pill companies. ALL forms of bc except barrier methods cause abortions. We chose not to use those because the bibles says not.

Christa - posted on 04/18/2009

The materials I've read for the products I've taken have never said that. They say the ovulation and the mucus thing but not the inplantation thing. I know the morning after pill does that. You just have to read and make sure which product you take because they all work a little different.

Angie - posted on 04/17/2009

Quoting Christa:

I guess I'm the lone wolf on this subject, but I have no problem with birth control. I don't believe that birth control aborts babies, it prevents the initial fertilization, usually by preventing ovulation. Therefore there is never a baby created. I know there are some questionable forms of birth control that work differently so I'm not talking of those, but condoms, most pills, depo these all prevent the fertilization. I was on birth control for 8 years and now that we are ready for children we are letting God have control. As a pro-lifer I think birth control needs to be encouraged because no matter how much we would like for everyone to abstain until marriage, that's not going to happen. If someone is not ready for a baby I would much rather have them take birth control then to abort the pregnancy when it happens. Just my thoughts. :-)

Actually, the pill and depo do not always prevent fertilization.  Often they do but if fertilization happens, they make the uterus hostile to the baby so the baby is simply aborted.   Here is a quote from a Web MD article:

"HC (the pill, the patch, and the vaginal ring) all contain a small amount of synthetic estrogen and progestin hormones. These hormones work to inhibit the body's natural cyclical hormones to prevent pregnancy. Pregnancy is prevented by a combination of factors. The HC usually stops the body from releasing an egg from the ovary. HC also changes the cervical mucus to make it difficult for the sperm to find an egg. HC can also prevent pregnancy by making the lining of the womb inhospitable for implantation."

I didn't realize that hormal birth control was an abortifacient either until someone told me.  Doctors do not give their patients this info and it's very sad.......

Christa - posted on 04/17/2009

I guess I'm the lone wolf on this subject, but I have no problem with birth control. I don't believe that birth control aborts babies, it prevents the initial fertilization, usually by preventing ovulation. Therefore there is never a baby created. I know there are some questionable forms of birth control that work differently so I'm not talking of those, but condoms, most pills, depo these all prevent the fertilization. I was on birth control for 8 years and now that we are ready for children we are letting God have control. As a pro-lifer I think birth control needs to be encouraged because no matter how much we would like for everyone to abstain until marriage, that's not going to happen. If someone is not ready for a baby I would much rather have them take birth control then to abort the pregnancy when it happens. Just my thoughts. :-)

Elizabeth (the Instigator) - posted on 04/17/2009

I have an interesting situation in my family. My father and sisters are devout Catholics and all prolife activists, but are frustrated every time I tell them I am pregnant again (I have had 6 children in 8 years). I am 34 and have quite a few childbearing years left, but they can never answer me when I ask them what exactly they expect.

My in-laws have absolutely no moral convictions and believe I am the root of all evil (if they actually believed in evil). SO we just grin and bear it, with a few debates, and try to surround ourselves with like minded people as often as we can.

Angie - posted on 04/15/2009

It's pretty easy to speak with pro-lifers about birth control since we know that all types of birth control can and do cause us to abort our children. I think that we must evangalize and that speaking openly about this subject is important. I got strange looks and comments about this before my hysterectomy but it's important to speak about because many women don't realize that by using birth control, they might be aborting their own children. God says that we will be rewarded when we are persecuted so I just remembered that in tough times! Just do what God is calling you to do and continue to try to bring your family and friends closer to God!

Gina - posted on 04/13/2009

My sister doesn't use birth control, she believes children will come to her when they are ready. I respect her opinion, but that doesn't work for me. I get pregnant a lot easier than her so I have to do something. I just think if someone really cares about you, they'll respect your opinion.

Carolee - posted on 04/07/2009

'Hello carolyn ! my name is carolee . i have this theory don't talk to anyone about anything you don't want an opinion about . only talk to people you trust about personal issues :} Quickly change the subject . hope to ttul