Handling friction between step parents and birth parents
Everyone hopes for the best situation when divorced parents remarry - that the new step parents and existing parents of children will all be able to get along and agree on some basic parenting guidelines. But what happens when it seems like some of the communication is getting skewed midway - maybe even through the kids? How do you ensure that everyone - step parents, children, and birth parents - are all on the same page, and happily working toward the same outcomes together?
I used to be a divorce mediator, and once both biological parents do away with most of the resentment, hurt and anger and focus on the common goal of raising and supporting their children, then respect comes into play. I think the step parent should not intervene unless the two parents are acting uncivilized and being disrespectful toward one another. Remember the goal is the raise children without transferring anger and pain.