Should I charge my grown kids rent?
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How can I get my 28 year old son to live on his own?
It's hard for parents to see their kids grow up and leave home. But what should you do your child isn't leaving at all?
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Don't make it so easy for him to stay home. Charge him rent. Don't do his laundry. Give him curfews. Make it uncomfortable for him to be there.
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Judy - commented on Feb 29, 2012
I agree. I started charging my youngest son $150.00 for room and board when he turned 18 years old. He still had a month of high school left, but had a job. I wanted him to have a taste of the real world. He also had to help with laundry and other chores. He didn't like having to pay rent, but I just said welcome to the real world.
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Stacy - commented on Feb 29, 2012
Even though i had curfews, was complaining, no women allowed and strict rules my son didn't mind, and his lease is almost up and wants 2 stay with me again and pay good rent! Unbelievable! He also did chores around here, but i will say he is a mama's boy, he is not moving back in, just right behind me-lol!
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My husband was 35 when he left home.............. push that boy out!!! Your future daughter-in-law will love you for it :)
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If he is capable of supporting himself, give him a deadline, maybe 2-3 months, to find his own place. Offer to help him find secondhand furniture if he wants or needs to. If he's not capable of supporting himself right now, then help him make a 6 month plan to get there. Charge him rent and then give it back to him for a security deposit, if necessary.
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Kathleen - commented on Feb 29, 2012
For a 28 year old I think giving him a security deposit is too much. Tough love is needed and a month to find an apt should be enough. Just my opinion.
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Does he have a job? Can he support himself? I definitely want my kids to be independent however, in this economy, we've kinda gone back to the days when kids lived with their parents longer. Both my boys have been out but are now back in my home. One works full time and does extra things on the side but he's also bulding his savings so that he can afford his own place as well as opening a business in five years. The other is working an "on call" job and I wish he could find something better but he's also attending school working towards his doctorate. I'm proud of both and don't feel either are taking advantage of us. But I'm sure every circumstance is different. I would suggest giving them a deadline. (I have done that with one of them after he moved a girlfriend w/ her daughter into my home) Explain that if he wants to be a grown up, then get out and support himself!
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Mary - commented on Feb 29, 2012
I also do want to mention that both boys buy their own food (especially since one is vegan) and I do not do laundry or clean for them. They have household chores just like their sister and are expected to help out. I do not charge rent because both are saving for their own goals. I don't have a problem with them being in the house; they help a lot (one usually puts more gas in my car than I do, always a plus)
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It is difficult now a days for young people to live on their own. Housing is so expensive that is in California. I don't know what your situation is exactly with your son, but my son who will turn 30 this year lived off and on with us until he was about 27 he then moved in with some friends and then had to move back home for about 1 and a half because his roommates went back to live with their parents. He has been now living on his own again with a roomate for the last 8 months. All you can do is I think be supportive and help them save money to move out . He will get tired of living at home. Try not to cuddle him but be supportive. The more love you give your children the more they will respect you. Times are hard. If he doesn't have a job - he definitely needs to get one and you need to encourage it. I always encouraged my children to venture out without asking them to move out - it sometimes takes longer for some to fly away. Be patient.
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I moved back home at 27 with my 2 children after splitting up with their father. My intentions were to stay a few months until I got my tax return, but my dad offered the option to stay longer to get myself in a better position, so almost 5 years later, I got all my debt paid off, bought a newer reliable vehicle, and saved $20,000 for a down payment on a house. My dad's motto of he will always help me if I'm helping myself has been passed on to my kids, it doesn't mean forever...
Do you want him to leave? Does he not want to leave or not in the position to leave? Does he work? Does he take care of his own responsibilities? And most importantly, does he respect your home? I don't think there is necessarily a specified time they should move out...I think as parents, we just want them to be in the best position they can; however it is very important that we also treat them as adults and not enable them "never growing up" either.
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Gayle - commented on Feb 18, 2013
What a great dad! but you have to give yourself credit too as you were the one who saved your money, he was the one who allowed you to save it!
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that's easy...ya give them a curfew, do not allow any females to saty at the house, charge rent, and keep to your rules! Kids would rather pay strangers and do what they want than to pay parents and have no freedom! Alos nagging works wonders!
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I didn't and don't want my my kids to leave. I truly enjoy them; however, for their own growth it is important. My son moved out because he didn't like the rules. My daughter too will soon be leaving the nest. Probably for the same reason and her room is tiny and she needs more privacy.
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Kelly - commented on Aug 25, 2011
Bottom line - it is our duty as parents to ensure our children can survive without us. We aren't going to be here forever to protect them. I quit washing their clothes when they were teens. I made them do the things I knew would make them successful in life. They hated me at times for it, but I look at them now and say Wow! I did pretty good considering. My son paid rent but resented rules still being applied, so finally moved out. Same with my daughter. I can see she can't wait to get away from us. I love them and will miss them, but it is for their best interests.
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You know I read all the replies and they are absolutely correct in what they are saying. But I can say that my oldest brother who is now 60 lived with our mother until her death 2 years ago this May. He would often say mom will be the only woman I leave behind if something happens to me. Now before you say wow and other negative statements, the rest of us thought this to be bad but in the long run it turned out to be good, my mom developed dementia which quickly turned to alzheimers and if It had not been for him already being there it would have impacted the rest of us because we would have had to take time off to be with her some of us traveling far. I know we could have put her in a nursing home but why when she has children whom she raised up to be adults that could take care of her. I know this is a difficult decision to make, but make it with your heart and not your head or anyone elses opinion. if he decides to stay, let him know now women, no late night visits from the homies :-), lights out at a certain time, and no late nght phone calls unless he is on his cell and then make sure he is not disturbing anyone by being on that. The economy is not up to par yet and if he is employed the money he gives to you can be a big help.
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Amanda - commented on May 22, 2012
I agree with you. Although I'm sure I'll end up exactly like your brother. Unfortunately because of my CP I can't drive or work and I get lost easily. So as much as I want to leave I think it's probably best I stay with my mom and plus then I'll be able to help her when she gets older and it will hopefully help my sisters out too.
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About 15 years ago I knew a couple who couldn't get their grown children to move out so they sold their house and they moved to another state! They bought a one bedroom condo - no room for the kiddies!!!
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Starr - commented on Mar 1, 2012
I down sized to a 2 bedroom duplex just for that reason!!! Unfortunately he is back and sleeping on my couch!!! lol
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Charge him rent for his room, don't do his laundry and make sure he knows you are doing this because you love him. Teach him how to clean, cook, shop, and take care of his home. The greatest gift you can give him is teaching him to live interdependently of you. Your future daughter in law will be your best ally. Good luck!
From mother of a 26 year old that is living independently with his girlfriend
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Well, this is what my mom did for me. I was just like your son, and I didn't want to leave her house either. I had a good job, I had a small son, and I had a car. I was living in her house, and paying her rent, on time, every month. Every year on January 1, I raised the rent, because that's how I thought the real world worked. After a while, it got to be too much for us to live together, so she suggested I move out. I didn't want to move out. She suggested that I move to my dad's house; I told her I'd live in my car first. I came home from work one day, and everything was fine; I went out for about an hour, I came back, and some of my furniture was gone! Oh no, I thought, I've been robbed! But, how is that possible, when my mom was still home, and her stuff was still here? I stormed upstairs, and demanded to know where my stuff was. She said very calmly, "It's at your dad's house."
Needless to say, I was not happy. I got my son and some of his things, and we moved into my dad's house. I didn't talk to my mother for a while after that. Fast forward a couple of months: I had some laundry that needed doing, and I knew my mom was out of town, so I decided to go over to her house and get it done. I went over there, and she had changed the locks on the door! I couldn't believe it! How could she have done this to me? I was very upset, and went around to a neighbor's house to ask if they had a key. They did, but they didn't let me in! You can imagine how angry I was. Anyway, I got the laundry done elsewhere, and when she got back, I let her know I was very angry with her over it. You know what she did? She let me know that I was a grown adult, and that I should be able to take care of myself and my son by now, and to get over it! Now, I had to ask permission to come over to her house, I couldn't just walk in anymore.
Well! I thought, I just won't talk to you for a while, see how you like that! You know what happened? I missed her terribly! It took me a few years to realize that I had just been the biggest brat ever born, and that she was right. Her kicking me out of the nest was THE best thing she could have ever done for me, and I am eternally grateful to her for it. I let her know that before she died in 2002, and I know that she was shocked that I had grown up enough to realize that.
I said all that to say this: Give your son a time limit to move out of your house. If he does not move out in that time, move him out. I'm not saying that you should change the locks on the doors, but if you have to go to there, do it. It IS your house, after all. Remind your son that you love him, and you're doing this because you love him. He has to grow up, and this will hurt for a while, but he'll get over it, and will thank you later for it. :)
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Are you charging him rent? If not, you should be. My parents charged me rent once I was on my own feet with a degree and job. Unbeknowns to me they put it away in a separate account and it help fund my wedding.
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just kick him out asap, its time he grew up love, he just knows he's got a great house maid ..
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Kick him out
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I agree that it's important for kids to move out on their own and make their own way in the world so they can discover who they are. However, is your son able to function on his own? Does he have good survival skills? Is he employed? Is he paying for his own room and board?
As a former restaurateur, I met a number of young people who were unable to care for themselves for a variety of reasons, from ADHD to psychological disorders to just "poor parenting" - basically, kids who grew up between daycares, school, the street and TV because their parents had to work so hard just to make ends meet.
My older kids were highly motivated and both of them moved out when they were eighteen ( as did I from my parents' home). My third moved out, but had such a rough time (his sister died while he was living on his own), that we suggested he move back in with us until he could get his feet under him again. However, we live in a rural area where there is no suitable employment (it has taken me 12 years to get a decent job, and I commute 1.5 hours each way daily!) We had to "launch" him by having him move out and back to the city. It was rough for him. He still thinks we "threw him out" even though he is now graduating from University with a double major and has worked for years in a gaming shop (right up his alley!) He has also discovered that he is a writer and a great editor as well. And we always knew he is a "computer whiz..."
Recently, we lost my oldest son to cancer, so this has greatly affected the whole family. Over the years, my dream became for our family to all buy property together and run our respective businesses. We've lost two, but I'm still hopeful! I sincerely believe that "family industries" and intentional communities are the way of the future. And I love the idea of families working together, if they want to, for the common good. This may be a way for our kids to leave home and stay home at the same time!
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Yes I is time he move on..... Just give him a date that you expect him to be gone. If he doesn't move put his things outside the door. change the locks on the door. I know that sounds cruel but do what you have to do. it"s past time.
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Wish I had an answer for this. My 21 year old son is at home and I don't see him going anytime soon. I guess if it wasn't so easy for them to stay, they wouldn't.
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Brooke - commented on Aug 30, 2011
I am amazed at how many young adults still live at home well into their 20's. I think parents are doing them a disservice by allowing them to stay. You have to give him a timeline to get his stuff together and stick to it. By allowing him to mooch off you you are not allowing him to growup and be a productive member of society.
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Amy - commented on Feb 28, 2012
Even when my daughter was in college we still charged her rent, only $100 and her portion of the cell phone bill and car insurance, she was required make one meal every week, help with laundry, clean a bathroom, clean her bedroom (which she had to share with her sister), and help with snow removal and yard work, just like everyone else in the family. We are not doing our kids any favors if they are not required to work, contribute to the family, cleanliness and general well being of the home, including yard work. We need to quit coddling our kids, our kids have lived up to our expectations, when we expect big things of them, they deliver, when we expect small pitiful things from them, they deliver.
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Alexis - commented on Feb 28, 2012
be strong and dig your heals in, give him a date he has to be out by, charge him the same rent he would be expected to pay when he has his own home, make him look after himself.. there comes a time when a child is no longer a child they are an adult, a full grown adult, capable of making decissions of their own. i gave my son a 8 wk notice to move out, he did nothing to help himself, so when the day came he said" i dont have anywhere to go, i will probably sleep on a park bench" so i offered him unberella,,,, he found somewhere.... otherwise with my other son i moved house and left him behind, not in a horrible way, he was 19, i moved interstate and he didnt want to come with me.. be strong, he needs to fly the coop and be a man... not a mummas boy.. hope it works out for you
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Tough-Love!!.....It's time that he made his own way in the world,tell him you love him and that your door is open anytime that he may need something.
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Lisa - commented on Mar 1, 2012
You are so right Cindy, I had to get to a put of pain; from how I had crippled my children. They have to make thier own mistakes inwhich makes the person they are created to become. I feel for her, but it's her time and he's invaded into her time.
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$900 rent, $300 utilities, $400 food, $200 laundry service, $100 cable tv or netflix per MONTH ought to do it. Then add in the HOUSE rules- no smoking in house, dishes, yard work, snow shoveling and plowing (if you are in an area where you need this) should seal the deal.
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Renae - commented on Mar 1, 2012
My oldest 29 owns a home of her own, middle child 26 in the service and owns his own home, youngest 22 currently renting with an option to purchase. AND they always know that mom is here for them, currently watching my son's dog for a year while he is stationed in Africa, but they also know that this is my house, my house rules and they have to support themselves. Not to say that mom can't be there if they run into trouble, but thankfully only has happened once.
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Does he have a job? Does he pay his portion of all the expenses? He should be paying his part if he is working.
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Tell him that if he is going to live at home he will have to start paying rent, say $600 a month, he will also have to start buying his own food (have a cupboard that he can put it in and a shelf in the fridge), he can also pay half of the utilities. He will of course have to wash his own clothes, and pick up after him self; if you do it he will have to pay you for these services.
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You need to make sure he has a decent job to support himself. If he does and he is blowing his money, then you need to start charging him rent and setting rules. After a while he will get tired of paying and of the rules and will want to live on his own. If you don't feel comfortable about charging him rent, then do it anyway and put the money in an account to help him out. Don't tell him though. When there's enough money, then tell him you will help him get a place and use that money. He may still show up at home for meals or to get his clothes cleaned, but this too will get less and less. At least that is sort of what I did with my son. Now he is married, has kids and works to support his family. I am so proud of all he has done.
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you don't tell enough of the story for me to really give you an answer that will really help you. But i will tell you my situation and what i did and you can take it from there.
I had this problem when my middle child ,a boy ,was 26 and going to college and working making good money . He was told he could stay with me until he was done college because i didn't want him to worry about anything else , school is very important to me.He didn't help AT ALL WITH ANYTHING .
My other two had moved out on their own .
So i told him i was moving into a one bedroom and he needed to find his own place . I know it sounds rough and mean but i had NO other choice . He had is bumps in the road but he now has college degree under his belt and lives in Edmonton and we e-mail everyday and talk twice a week . Sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind .
I hope this helps you in some way and many readers .
Love and respect Gina
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Make him pay rent, do his own laundry, buy his own food, pay his own bills, but first of all make him go out and get a job..
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You have been given a lot of great advice. Does he pay rent and utilities. If not, I would give him a bill on how much he owes (include back rent). Then I would give him notice... A months notice to find a place and move out.
As empty-nesters - or you should be an empty-nester enjoying the next phase of your life you deserve to be done with the child raising.
If he doesn't move out or you notice he is just ignoring your notice I would contact the authorities and tell him this grown man refuses to move out and that you had given him notice. Make sure you have a copy of the notice.
I don't know if finding him an apt and moving all his things into it would work - but that is another idea - although that is a lot of work for you unless you can find help. Make sure it is far from you - across town.
AND change the locks! Good Luck and BE TOUGH!
TOUGH LOVE IS REQUIRED!
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I have a 27 yr old and had 2 come home after a divorce, he wanted 2 do nothing 4 awhile but went back 2 school and now works with the union but i just kept telling him i couldn't afford 2 support a grown man and he needed 2 do something, he has a great work record with the army, bounty hunter, and had a lot of jobs in the past plus has a lot of schooling under his belt but again with the economy he could not get a job! Finally he got a break and has his own place, i think it was luck and confidence combined, he was with me about a year. Good luck dear, been there, done that!
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Tell him he has 1 month to move out. And stick to it. I did this with my eldest son when he was not quite 19 - and not getting a job, following household rules, or showing respect to us as his parents.
He lived rough for a few months - slept on friends' settees and even lived in a tent in a field for about 6 weeks. But, in the end he got his act together and grew up, took on responsibility, and 4.5 years later is a young man I can be quite proud of.
Of course, on the other hand, my husband lived with his parents until we got married when he was 37.
So, if you feel he needs to move out then tell him but if you are able to make that transition together from a parent-child relationship to two adults, then there's nothing wrong with him continuing to live with you until such time as he is ready to start his own family.
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When my children began to get summer jobs, work after school; I made it clear there was some responsibilities they had to commit to as well. They had to start buying their own personal needs, getting their nails done, hair and I would support them in areas they were lacking. At the point they started becoming growner than me, it was time for them to have their own house holds. We had a house meeting and talked about what thy wanted, how they were going to get there and what could I do to help them; "Help Them", not do it for them. I started collecting apartment adds, writing down numbers as I drove by and we set a date to when they would be relocating into their own places. They had to contribute to rent, a bill, house supplies ect.... I'm not sure what your issue is about your son moving, maybe that's a question you should sit and ask yourself. He's 28 not 8, I was frighten for my children; especially my daughter that had my youngest grandchild. Yet, she had to find her own way. They are doing well, learning the toilet tissue don't just jump on the roll, soap doesn't just appear and bills don't pay themselves. Hunney, let him go, let him find his own way, you are crippling him and I feel sorry for the wonam that ends up with him......lmbo
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You set a limit on how much longer you want them there. Tell them you have 6 months or a year to get their affairs in order and move out. Also make living at home uncomfortable if need be >=).
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If you are supporting him n paying for him like it sound like you are then I would do a dollar for a dollar type thing to help him get out. You are already spend
G your cash n the reward will be that you won't have to anymore! So say I'm not goi
G to charge you rent or make you pay for food as long ad you get a job n save a % u both agree on n maybe you can match a part n he/she can be
Out in a few months. That way they have enough for security deposit n 1st n last month rent! Now if they Have had a good job all along n just spend it on junk maybe it's time to get a grandparent or a
Mutual person involved that can teach them how to get out of debt pay bills n stop spending on junk they want( that generation is spoiled n think wants are needs) my hubby is 6 years younger than me (34) n I would say his family is one that try's to keep up with the Jones n even if they can't afford it they got it for him so if he wants something it's still hard for him to understand that our kids come first then bills food so on then maybe us lol. He gets so mad anyway so I understand! He was living at home at 28 but it was because he had to move back to pay their house payment because they couldn't afford it, but it still bothered me because the last thing a mom of 4 boys wanted was another kid.
My 22yr n his wife have been married 2 yrs n he has worked a total of 6 months of that! She has worked the whole time! They came to me for a loan n normally I can't even do it, but I was able to.anyway she proceeded to tell me they will pay me back ASAP I told them if he gets a job I won't ask for it back! So I cross my fingers! The baby is due in nov. DiL isn't going to beable to work. Good luck!
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definitely give him a deadline I charged all my 4 sons board. They were great with that but then decided to move I have them at 30, 28 25 & 22 the last two went into the Air Force so have to do for themselves but a time should be recognised by both parties, and adhered to. I really agree with all the others on this topic. Just also don't let him have sleepovers or anyone else in his room as it is your house your rules. My Dad lives with us now he is 89 but it is still our house our rules for him as he plays on his age, can't kick him out tho
Lee T
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I have a 23 year old son who is still in college. He graduates next year so I am hopping he moves out - but it will be hard on him. At least he can cook things he likes & he knows how to do laundry.
Do you charge your son rent? Talk to him & see what he is thinking.
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If he's draining YOU AND your resources (water, food, electric, use of space in your home, constant laundry, etc.), then it's time for him to go. Sorry, I'm from NJ originally, and if people can't handle the truth from me, then don't warrant unwanted advice.
He's 28 - not 15, 10, 5, or a newborn. Cut him loose. Too bad. You seem to have already grown tired and spent from his selfish, lazy nature. I know a LOT of 28-yr-old men (and women) who are married, living on their own, some even have kids....WOW! Yes, being 28 makes you an adult - maybe not a MATURE one, but still an adult just the same. You have NO obligation to him and/or his needs for survival.
If he has the $$$ to go out to bars, restaurants, vacations, to fix his car/ truck, etc., then his priorities need to be re-schooled and re-tooled.
To da CURB!
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i have a 26 year old whom has moved back in when he broke up with his girlfriend he has a 2 year old who, come and stays every other being that heasn't a jjob we support both him and the baby which I don't mind helping but it as been nearly 6 months and he has made no attempt to seek for a job complains about how there aren't any jobs out there, he applied to oe which he got an interview for and has not called back to see where he stands, I try to say something about him not working and he explodes in my face goes off disrespects me, plays with his xbox all day long....but Im not to say anything because supposeably I start to bitch about everything and anything,,,,,e will play for ours and hours which is so frustrating to me, it turns into a big battle I cannot take it anymore he is very strong willed has been since a child and no matter what I say Im always bitching........how do I get a full grow ma to see the picture??? this is wrog hehasn't anywhere to go is why I haven't thrown him out also because of my grandbaby, I;ve done it in the past but he always find his way back home, my husband whom is his step father is tired of it I am uder alot of stress because of this I don't like confrontations,,,,,,,ladies anyone have some advice on what I can do?
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Tell him he has to be in by midnight! My son didn't like being told what to do which is good! It shows he was, 13 yrs ago, he was trying to grow up and get his independence, which is what kids should do! I feel sorry for the parents and especially the kids who are still living at home at your son's age.
He should be out. Get him to attend college and get a job no matter how small it might be. A job teaches a kid responsibility. I taught my son and daughter how to wash their clothes when I went back to college, he was 7 and she was 10! If you don't give them chores around the house how on earth is he going to know how to take care of himself on day when you are gone? I never had to do anything around the house, but I did! I would at least clean the house for my mom who worked with my dad.
But the thing that really cooked staying at home for my son was having to be at a certain time, so he left for college out-of-town, found a job waiting tables at a French restaurant and went on to graduate...now he is married and both he and his wife will be graduating in May for their MBA degree!
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We had a rule, that when they turned 18 and finished school, they must move out.
Oldest child, daughter, was happy about that. For her, it was exciting.
Next, was my oldest son, who did not want to leave. We told him it was notan option, and he moved in woth his sister, and her boarders.
Next son, knew it was no use arguing, and he also moved in with sister, and older brother. At this time we purchased a multifamily house, and the youngest son and my daughter and 2 other sons took an apt each, and we took the final apt.We all share in the mortgage payment and expenses.
We see each other on occassion (we travel 8 months of the year) but we certainly respect each others privacy.
The youngest and oldest child have moved away, but they rent out their apts, which pays their share.
Generally ,allowing children to stay home too long stunts their emotional developement.
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I have a 29 year old that refuses to grow up. He sleeps till 3pm. every day, he says he'll get a job, then goes and plays with his girlfriend { who is 26, and doesnt work either, she also lives 3 doors down with her parents}. If I complain, he screams at me and calls me names. I did kick him out once a year ago, he told me to make him leave. I called the police, and they said I had to go through the court system to evict him, and even then I probably couldnt get him out. I dont do his laundry or pick up after him. As a result, I think there's a dead rodent in his room, It smells that bad. He does not help out with anything, except food. He went on welfare for food stamps. His dad and I are divorced, and he plays us against each other. His dad doesnt want to take him in, he just wants to sympathize with him. Because of his sob stories I've lost almost all of my friends. And he doesn't allow me to have my own life. He butts in on my phone conversations, and stands behind me while I'm online with a friend. I even caught him listening at my bedroom door, to see if my husband and I were talking about him! If I yell at him, he will go wake up his little brother to drag him into it. He's 11. If anyone knows what to do please help!
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These are the kind of cases that still surprise me, and you're not alone. I agree with the other posters about making some changes. I published an ebook on this topic, though it's more directed at helping able, willing-bodied kids find work and plan to move out.
I do write about what I call 'the uninspired child' and other parents who have similar situations. I'd give you the same advice from the book: to set hard deadline dates for milestones of action. By such and such a date, he'll start paying 100% of his share of household expenses.. Then within six months have a firm move out date on the calendar. During this time he needs to be actively following a plan to save up enough to move. Of course the first milestone will have to be finding a job that pays enough to accomplish this. I tell people, if your child can't pay rent and is unemployed, they have no business being in the house 9-5 weekdays. Try enforcing that, to both give you your place back, and to hopefully motivate him to action.
Things like this are hard to follow through with your own kids, of course - and I sympathize greatly. You also might consider a straight-forward letter explaining how to him how this behavior essentially robs you and your husband in many, many way. Perhaps the largest being having to watch his life go unfulfilled. All the best.
-Ettie G
('How To Help Your Adult Children Move Out: Ettie's Guide To De-Nesting' - by Ettie Gyles)
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kick him out, mines 30, if he is working rent him a flat pay one months rent and move him in and then change the locks. This is my plan as soon as my son gets the latest job he has applied for because this can go on forever, and ever. Remember mom this is your life as well as his, he will thank you for it later.
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