How do I get my 3 month old not to cry when I put her down?
It is very common for a newborn to start crying as soon as they are set down by their mother. What are some ways you reduce your baby's crying when you put them down?
At this age, it's ok to hold her a lot. But when you have to put her down, I read some good tips from pidatritions and child psychologists. If you're putting her down for bed, make sure she has a full belly and is sleepy. Let her cry for 10 to 15 minutes, then go in and assure her that you're still there and encourage her by talking softly or singing, and patting her gently. Don't pick her up. Leave again and allow her to cry for 10 to 15 minutes again. Continue this until she falls asleep. This worked for my daughter and after about three nights she got it down. It takes patience, but once it's established it's wonderful.
If you just need to put her down to go do something, use a similar method...but I wouldn't do this very often. She's young, and holding her a lot now is likely to make her less fussy as an older baby and toddler. I like carrying wraps to help with this....
This might not work for everyone, but I would cradle them in my arms a sway them a little bit up against me. Slowly I would take them away from me and keep swaying them until they were on the bed. It worked for mine. Not only did it kind of make them drowsy, I would hold them to me for a couple of minutes before trying to put them down, I don't think the transition was so obvious. If they looked like they were going to cry when I laid them down, I would gently rub their forehead. Have you noticed when you rub around their eyes it makes them sleepy? Anything is worth a try, nobody likes to walk away from a crying baby.
The five S's.
Swaddle, wrapping tightly
Shushing, like the ocean or static in their ear.
Side, lay them on there side, almost stomach.
Sway, rock back and forth in quick motions.
Sucking, binky or your finger.
They taught this in my caring for you amazing new born class. You can do them in order until you baby calms down, you might not need all five.
http://youtu.be/XqGmBdH_oCs that shows you how to calm your baby and put them to sleep.
well my doc told mi it was ok to let her cry for a sec my 3month old wont let mi get out the room as loog as she can see mi she is good but i got her out of it by lettin her cry and talking to her letting her know im not going any were so if i do decide to walk out the room to get something she is ok for a while i just dont stay gone long lol
I just rarely put him down...I carried him in a knit wrap, www.thebabywearer.com can give you plenty of info on wearing babies. It was a life saver...and with the right carrier It won't hurt...well unless your muscles aren't very strong...and in that case you'll be sore like you would from using muscles you aren't used to...but they will strengthen and the soreness with go away. There shouldn't be any actual pain if your using the carrier right.
Swaddle her, wear her or put her in a swing. but she is kind of young i would wear her in a harness around me there comfortable there good luck
I use a Binky and a soft blanket seems to do a trick for my little guy now that he is 13 months. When he was 3 months I used one of those baby wraps and he would go right to sleep. It gives them the feeling of still being held. I used one of those until around 6 months.
I think the question should be more like how do I not feel guilty about putting my baby down when she's crying. When you need to put her down just do it as much as she cries It kills you more than it does her, crying is the only thing they know how to do so they do a lot of it. It's hard a lot of the time but it's your will power that helps her to learn those crucial lessons in life as hard as it is.
When my son does this some times when we put him down to play, we justy get down and start playing with him,then he will start playing with his kick toy by him self. I think some time they just dont like change.
my baby is 5 months and i have always put him down and let him cry. its ok to cry nothing wrong with it.
Keep your baby on a schedule, keep him/her visually stimulate when up ..soothing vocal,verbal story telling,gross motor toys for movement ocean,sounds, audio to match his/her age..When time to knap, active passive color mobile quiet soothing music..for relaxing..
sevensling .com free wraps code "christmas"
Talk to baby when she is down - so she has the assurance you are there.
They have no concept that someone is close-by and they are SO dependent on mommie!
Bed her in your room till she is at least two
Talk to them and stroke them.
There is a really helpful DVD based education workshop out, that WiC has recently implemented, called "Happiest Baby on the Block" My husband and i attended after the birth of our 3rd child, and found it immensely helpful and encouraging. it gives 5 tricks that help to soothe a fussy baby, even a colicy baby. Swaddling, position, shusshing, pacifier/finger, and brisk vibrations if i remember correctly. (they use all S-words, but those i do not recall!) Anyway, i like April's take, as she is very in tune with the child's contentment needs. This really worked with my second child, tho not with my other 2. Try it! This last one needed to be laid on her stomach, the fear of falling was just too great for her and she simply could not sleep any other way; she would almost settle and then startle and cry all over again. Each child is unique! listen to your heart and know your own child. I would caution against even 5 minutes of letting them cry until 6 months.... right now they need to know u love them and will meet all their needs, that they can trust you, that is the most important. At this young age they are incapable of self-soothing. Letting them cry will add to their anxiety and only worsen the problem for both of you. Your best bet is to experiment until you find a way to soothe them and then you will both be happy! Maybe ask a friend or family member that you connect well with to help you.... a fresh set of arms and ideas can be a huge help.... I KNOW! I wish you the best!
It's hard to listen or hear your baby cry but sometimes you have things to do that require you to put the baby down..he or she will be ok plus they have to learn to sooth themselves.
I have a 8 almost 9month old and its not easy to lay him down an hear him cry. He has cryed for an hour but eventually crys himself to sleep. But he still gets up between 3 and 5. My boyfriends step dad is a retired pediatricion and he said it is normal for babys to cry for 6hours a day. MY son has never been a cryer so it kills me. Its normal, just have to let them cry it out. Everyone tells me you have to be able to breeth through it and everything is ok.