How do you explain the death of a grandparent to your child?
Nobody wants their child to have to face the loss of death. When a grandparent passes away though everyone wants to help guide their children to understand what has happened. How have you or will you explain the death of a grandparent to your children? How do you help your children cope with their loss?
We had the privilege of our son having the chance to say goodbye to his great grandfather. Both at the hospital and at the funeral. It was amazing to see how attuned he was to those around him. He played quietly, bowed his head during prayers, and when the time came for those of us who wanted to see great grandpa and say goodbye; he came to me (his mom) and told me he wanted to go too. He is 4 and we didn't quite know how much he understood of what he was doing, but he leaned into great grandpa's ear and I heard him whisper:"ill miss you grandpa Andrew, but I'm glad you're not hurting anymore.". It brought me to my knees and I couldn't believe the amount of care and thought he put into his actions. We may not think it but children do have the understanding required to feel loss but with that loss comes a remarkable ability to let go and move on too. Our son still talks about grandpa Andrew having been sick and having died, and right on the heels of those thoughts comes the blunt statement: "but he's okay now even though he's kinda far away". God bless him!
I have never had to do this before, and I am not looking forward to this.. sorry for your loss firstly, but for me I would keep it very simple and short. I would simply let them know that grandma or grandpa was a little sick, so he or she went up to heaven to be healthy and happy again, and that he or she is watching over us.. Maybe depending on how old the child is, you can make them understand that everyone has to go some day and that sometimes age is the reason..just say it lightly and in a way you know your child will not be so hurt by it.. It is a very sensitive subject but it is really hard to sugar coat death. I am sure your child will be sad but.. time does heal everything.. it does not ever completely go away but it becomes easier to deal with as time goes is what I meant... good luck I hope this helped at least a bit... and sorry again... :(