How to handle custody issues
Maybe the parenting plan wasn't clear enough, or maybe you're just dealing with a very difficult situation with your child's father, but whatever the case, sometimes there is confusion around shared custody issues. Moms who've been there, what lessons can you share about making sure everyone gets their designated time and that life stays stable for your children?
I always had to keep in mind that my children come first and that the divorce/separation issue was between their father and I. So with that being said I always made sure the experience of going from house to house was a pleasant experience. Never "bashing" their father always telling them what fun they would have and to enjoy their time with him. It was not always pleasant being with him and i knew it but i never wanted them to know that I was upset that they had to be away from me. So many divorced parents put the children in the middle of their battle and that should NEVER, EVER happen!
what about the father that wants to see his child, tries to keep in contact, pays child support and then some, but isn't allowed to see his child? what about that childs mother changing the childs last name to its stepfathers, not legally, what about the mother that has been having the child call the now stepfather, Dad, since child was 3 even though they were not married. What happens when its the mother causing all the issues and not the father? Does the father even have a chance? The child is almost 18 now and for the last few years has been very rude and we have actually had to kick the child out of our home. What about when the mother and the child and their entire family attack (verbally) the stepmother for finally putting down her foot and saying enough is enough. Our time should be our time with the child and not controlled by the mother. What happens, will this ever change for fathers? Will the mother always have control because she is the mother even though she is alienating a child from its father and family. Just because the mother didn't get her way, she is throwing a tantrum that has lasted about 3 years now.
I hired the best attorney I could find, to make sure my ex did not get custody or visitation. He was abusive towards me, and was living in a bad place when my son was a baby. My best recommendation though is to talk with your kids, they can often tell you what they want. When I was a kid my mom had me for the school year, and I was with my father during the summers. This worked out great because we never had to go back and forth every week, which I think would have driven me crazy. The kids should not be hurt in the process. Talk to teachers, counselors, your kids friends parents. It is best to make sure the choices are well informed, and not about the parents.
How do u have this done the judge and lawyer investigate cause im going through a nasty custody battle and have retained custody the past six yrs and and in june 2012 Va courts denied his false allg and told him he wasnt getting custody and two months later he files in NC and gets Temp custody with the false allg ,and i had proof that they wasnt true ,but the Judge didnt take the time to read all of my evidence ,and ive been truned down by 5 lawyers telling me this is a nasty ,bad case that i need a high end lawyer
Hi there well my three year old daughter has not seen her bio for 2 years now and he wants to take me to court for visitation rights now thing is I have fought for him 2 years ago through solicitors to see her and never bothered what rights does he have now?
some times the mother is saying the guy is the farther and may not be just to try to get money
my daughter is 3 and dad has been in and out of her life speraticlly since she was 5 months old and expects overnight visits when she screams and crys the whole time i am pulling away want to come to a smoother aggreement than me just dropping her off and leaving her wit this"stranger" i want her to have her dad but its just wrong to think she wont take a toll wit the emotions and its gotta b an easier more gentile way to do it for her...but we cant agree wit one so now the lawyers have to decide :(
What do u do when there are no papers and the dad hasn't seen baby since 1 month old acts like the worlds greatest. His parents call when convientent and show up here and there my daughter is 14 months old and has seen them about 10 times. I want rights signed away I've been w a man who she calls daddy since 2 months old I never encouraged the daddy thing I want a stable life and it is now bc I only let them see w me. Never take her alone. But there's no papers at all dad isn't even on birth certificate. What's best thing for me to do??
Make sure that the agreement is followed to what was agreed by the courts, you and the lawyers if not tell your ex husband to refile for my custody. Do Not change it on your own it will effect your child support. Men are ticky, ruthless, and not thinking of the childs best interest most of the time. Be aware that judges are not always fair, just do the right thing by your child when they have grown beyond all of this they will remember who fought for them. It is a difficult time for mothers and children when fathers don't care. Be sure you are keeping track of conversations, write a diary of things that are happening with you and the kids, be a clear and fair to present this information to the courts. Don't be afraid to ask for help, it is a unfair, unsupport fact that women suffer more than men in a divorce situation. So stay faithful in going to church, try to go through a divorce care group near by, talk to as many women that will listen to you. IT is great to have a support group when things get rough.