Is it OK for someone else to spank your child?
No it's not, but I do remember being corrected by another adult if they saw me doing something wrong.I really do believe that we mind our business way too much though. In my neighborhood if I see a kid doing something they shouldn't,i do say something but not in a threatening way, but in a loving way. They respect me for it! Parents can't be there 24 hrs a day with their kids. It takes a village to raise kids, these kids are our futures, we should be just a little more involved on their upbringing whether it's our kids or not!
No way.. someone on the other post regarding spanking said she works in a daycare and that the parents know she spanks as a last resort.. I told her no way would anyone be allowed to do that to my children, and she would have her daycare closed if she lived here.
As I am TOTALLY anti spanking a child aka hitting it ... NO it isn't ok for anyone to hit my child! [erm .. I can't hit YOU .. but I can hit a child ?? WHAT ??? ] Believe me ... there would be TROUBLE .....!
I think the right for someone else to spank your child should be reserve for close relatives and family friends. My mother was actually the first one to spank my child...but she didn't put up with fall out tantrums with me so I know she wouldn't for my son....
I think this depends on the relationship with the others. I spank my son from time to time and my parents spanked us from time to time growing up. When my son is at my parents house and in their care if his behavior is extreme and warrants a swat, I'm ok with that. But I think you have to know your relationship. If my parents were abusive to me, then I probably wouldn't have them watch my son. Neighbors and friends would probably be a big no...
It is not OK for anyone to hit anyone!! why would hitting ever be OK?
This is a touchy subject!! I would definitely not want someone else to ever spank my children now, but what if your child is on vacation with family and you are not around, does grandpa or grandma have the right to spank? I would say no, but maybe it depends on the situation? I had my first child very young, and my best friend and I lived together. Our boys were only 6 months apart and we would watch each others son while the other worked, we treated them exactly the same as we would treat our own. So if they got into trouble together no matter which one of us was there we punished them both.
I can't believe that this is even a question. Hitting is never ok. My kids have never been struck by me, my husband or anyone else and are polite, well adjusted, respectful, compassionate children. There are no circumstances that make hitting a child acceptable. It is not discipline, it is hurting another person.
NEVER!!! We don't spank our child so why would it be okay for someone else to? We use the time-out method as does her school. It is very effective. I was spanked as a child but my parents know that it is NOT okay for them to spank their granddaughter.
Seriously, not trying to be sarcastic but if you didn't give or authorize permission in the front of both spanker & spankie this is allowable you need to make certain that you have never condoned that sort of treatment or punishment to your child from anyone other that their parents.I have given my 2 brothers & 1 sister to discipline My mon my children IF NEEDED.vise verse. Knock on wood that has yet to happen to my children as of yet. I will admit i have punished ,y siblings children on occasion rarely but i have. i go by this motto" ITS HARD TELLING NOT KNOWING" Spare the Rod Spoil the child. We are to guide them and give them the tools to be God frearing Responsible interdependent self confident morally respectable;e self sufficient adults who have respect and accountability to and for one another..
dumb question - seriously why the hell would you spank someones child or let someone spank yours?
If I as a parent agreed with spanking and gave permission to someone watching over my child then yes.
Is it ok for someone to spank my child without my previous consent or knowledge? No it is not. Spanking is a very serious and physical punisment which many parents avoid at allmost all costs. Spanking someone's child may result in many bad things.
As an adult comming into a situation in which a child who is not mine requires some form of discipline I would choose from the following options:
a) bring the child to his/her parent for discipline
b) ask the child to remove themselves from the area of the incident and then report to parents as time allowed
or c) wait for parents with child until they came to retrieve him/her then report of the misdeeds and allow the parents to proceed as they chose.
If I am watching someone elses children for any extended time and have become a temporary gaurdian of that child I will have gotten consent and suggestions on how to handle misbehaivour for that child. If I had no previous consent to administer some form of disciplin then I wouldn't be watching them. This same would go for anyone watching/caring for my two precious kidlets.
No...it is not okay for someone else to yell, hit, or anything else. I get very upset when people think they can say whatever they want to my child. I would never spank someone elses kids even if they told me it was okay. They can take their kids elsewhere if they want me to be the bad guy for them.
NEVER! no way no how!!!
F*CK NO...... if someone else hit my daughter or even grabbed my daughter bc she did something wrong u best believe im going to say/ do something about it no one will EVER touch my daughter and disapline her besides her parents.....
Absolutely not. And if any caregivers spanked my child, you can believe they would no longer be caregivers - including family members.
I don't use spanking as a form of discipline so NO I'm not OK with it.
Serious? Of course not! No way! They had better not! I have told my children that it is not okay for anybody to ever hit them, ever, for any reason. If an adult hitsspanks/swats them I want to know about it ASAP. I will take steps to protect them from that person. Bottom line (pun intended) keep your hands off my kids!
You have to ask? Would you want someone else to spank you if you were your child's age? Didn't it hurt ENOUGH when your parent did it to you? Now someone ELSE gets to have a round at your child? I think that's disrespectful-to your child AND YOU. Are you saying your child has control over you, and that's why SOMEONE ELSE GETS TO HAVE CONTROL TOO? Poor child. Spanking hurts period. I don't believe in "good spanking." That's for parents who feel a need to justify their lack of control. That's all spanking is. Actually, spanking is for parents who have LOST control of themselves and their emotions. I've been there too. I have spanked my child-twice. She is 4 1/2 years old. I NEVER tell her, "Mama, didn't mean to" or "YOU made me do it" "Or YOU brought it upon yourself" THOSE ARE ALL LIES. I never NEVER lie to my child, and nor should anyone else. When I have lost control of my emotions and I lash out in a spanking with my child, I ALWAYS tell her, "Look, I'm sorry." " You know that I hardly ever spank you, but if I do, like I just did, then that means that I lost control of my emotions. I'm not apologizing for what I did to you, because I meant to do it. I'm telling you I'm sorry, because I spanked you when I was upset." Ask you child RIGHT THEN "What do you do when you GET SO MAD at someone?" If the child says, "I feel like hitting something", then we all should understand why I'm posting this. Regardless of what the child says, a child deserves an apology for the person or ppl that spank him/her out of frustration. THAT IS THE ONLY REASON WHY A CHILD GETS SPANKED. I don't care what anyone else says...there is NO OTHER REASON why......think about it. Get control over your emotions. And for the love of man...don't disrespect your child for someone ELSE's fragile emotions.
Nooooooooo............. We do time-outs.
I think spanking is confusing too, because you're doing to your child what you're trying to teach them NOT to do - hit... Instilling fear by physical punishment is not the same as discipline.
This was a concern of mine because I've seen my out-laws give a smack to their other grandkids. They were told we do time-outs and I can only hope they respect it if they babysit him at their house. I don't go with the "my house - my rules" thing. It's "my kid - MY rules!"
But at least my son is now old enough to tell me if something happens - in which case, those grandparents will get a big time-out from us!!
No it is not right to hit someone else's child at all even if your child is in someone else's care for the day I have been in this situation and it's not nice at all I did warn the other parent if she'd hit my son again I'd ring Dept of Children Services so she never learnt first time round I rang Docs on her now she has learnt her lesson
Mothers and Fathers only. There are other non physical ways that family members can correct children without touching them. I have never physically punished my stepdaughters but that does not stop me from correcting bad behavior. The best idea I had, that stops the fighting/tattling for months between sibling is having them write their spelling words 20 times each. They started working things with just a look from you. Spanking is the last line in a long list of alteratives but if you do it right you just have to ask one question for the next several months. "Do I need to spank your bottom, again?" You give them the choice to change their behavior on their own. Spanking is not beating if three bare handed stikes on a bottom did not change the behavior than you should never spank again because it does not work on that child.
over my dead body!
What I believe warrants a spanking may differ from what another person believes. In my house it is a last resort and never given in anger. Afterwards my kids have to tell me why they think they received a spanking and we talk about it. They understand that we love them and the spanking has to do with their actions.
NO. Not without my permission, and I would not give it. I don't even spank my own anymore...When my son was 5-6 a friend "pinch him" because he wanted to leave the line @ an ice skating rink. I had left to grab my husband and she said she "had it". What she did not know was my son saw me coming back and was simply trying to get to me. When I showed up my son was crying and said, "she just pinched me really hard!" I was PISSED. She said she was sorry but he wasn't "listening" Don't EVER hurt my kid, ever..
I think it depends on the person. Like my sister, my mom and I all know what boundries we have. I spanked my neice not to long ago after she looked me in the eye and called me a b****! Shes 5! Sometimes spankings are the only thing that works.
As I'm against spanking my own child anyway - no, I would be outraged if anyone else tried to spank my child. If someone else tried to punish my child using other means, it would depend largely on who they were, what they were punishing him for and how they were doing it. I would be at the very least quite irritated even a very close friend took it upon herself to punish my son (with me present) if she didn't at least have a discussion with me about it first. Though if that same friend were watching my child - I vote for them using their own discretion, provided they don't violate any of my childrearing principles (ie, don't spank my child - time outs, please).
Of course not.
Although, as mentioned in another post, I have, on very rare occasions, smacked my children, as have their dad. However, I would not allow anybody else to do so. If any of my children are misbehaving that badly then either myself or their dad are told about it and we deal with it as we feel appropriate. Thankfully my children are generally very well behaved.
If my child does something that deserves a spanking, then you better bring my child to me, or call me to come to my child and I will do the spanking. PERIOD
no. not ever.
corrected yes...spanked no no.
Are you kidding me? If I don't spank my child ever, how would I ever allow anyone else to spank him. Family or no family. If I ever found out there would be hell to pay big time!!!
NO! Yon don't want any and everybody spanking your child that is the PARENT'S job only, the child needs to know who is the parent. When you work a job is it fair for your co-workers to tell you what to do? you would be so confused, who do you listen to, when everyone one has different rules for you to follow. You might say it ok for gradmother or Aunt to spank your kid. BUT WHAT IF IT'S SOMETHING YOU ALLOW THE KIDS TO DO BUT FOR GOT TO INFORM THE SITTER AND THEY SPANK THEM FOR IT. This part of parenting allow you to bound with your child, it's reconnecting process for parent's only.
There is a BIG difference between 'hitting' and spanking!!!
When a child has violated someone's rules of their home and it is serious, I believe the parent should be called and the matter discussed with them.
Maybe the child should return home -
ALWAYS back the other parents/teachers if your child knew what they were doing was wrong ESPECIALLY if it occurred at school!
It is critical that your children leran respect for parents and all others in authority - right or wrong.
I have 3 children that live with my ex and his wife. 2 yrs ago they put VRO against my current partner because my son lied and told them his fractured arm was due to my partner grabbing him ( this was not the case, we have gone through hell because of it!!) now 2 years down the track my son is disrespectful, manipulative, wags school, graffiti's places, lies, blames everyone else for his actions and is heading to Juvenile detention if he keeps going. Now the shoe is on the other foot though. My ex has given my son a belting and so has his step mum. My pride and everything tells me I should cause them the hell they have put us through BUT at the same time nothing works with my son. We have spoken to him, given him time out, taken EVERYTHING away from him, grounded him, I even asked a friend who's a policeman to help all to no change in his behaviour. I grew up with a smack if I done something wrong and I am sorry to say but I feel this is what is wrong with todays society, talking to a child is not punishment. I knew that if I got a smack when I was a child it was because the choice I made was wrong and I knew better. I got smacked but I knew instantly that I would not do it again. I would not have even considered half the things my son has done due to fear and respect for my parents. I beleive there are some children that you have absolutely no other option but to give them a smack. You could talk to my son till you're blue in the face, 5 minutes later it's as if nothing happened and then he does something else wrong. I respect my parents for smacking me because I never done the wrong thing twice and it taught me that respect for other people also. Our parents were always commended by their friends for us being well behaved children. A smack hurts for 2 minutes it's more the shock that hurts them than anything else.
I, myself, personally am not okay what-so-ever with someone else spanking my child. If other people are okay with it that is fine, their discretion. but I am flat out against it for me & mine.
Absolutely NOT!!! I can count on ! hand the number of times I have spanked my child and those times were for instances when his behavior could have caused real harm to him or someone else. I would be livid if a family member or anyone else ever thought they had the right to put thier hans on my child. That is for a parent to decide, and only in an extrene case at that!