Is it OK to strip a father of his rights if he is not in the picture?
I don't think most women have a clue what you're dealing with, they're trying to imagine and making it up from there. I've been there, 'not in the picture' meant that he'd never come to the hospital, I'd stopped off at his work on the way home from the hospital to show him the baby. He came to visit once in the first month. He quit his job and went to work in day labour so he could be paid under the table. He never bought a single diaper. He never called. He never came by, never asked to come by and disappeared, leaving me no address or phone or idea where he was. 5 years later I had his parental rights legally terminated, leaving my husband, the only man who had ever lifted a finger to be a dad to my son, free to adopt him. It was the best thing I ever did for him. He did make an attempt to get in touch with his birth father at age 11. He told my son on the phone that he 'sounded like a girl' and then started telling him about all the women he'd slept with. I took the phone, that was it for us all. My son is 23 now and never thinks of his bio father, he's an irrelevence in our large, happy family where my son is simply the oldest son, not someone else's son. If a man doesn't want to be a dad, he doesn't deserve to be a father.
My daughter's biological father walked away on her first birthday and never looked back. She will be 16 next birthday. He has NO rights
Yes - but he should still have to contribute to the upkeep of the child - the state shouldn't have to pay. Fathers (or mothers) who have children and abandon them shouldn't be let off the hook - they should be tracked down and made to pay like in America.
When you say not in the picture, yes, it's a done deal, take away his rights that he obviously shows no interest in. I just thought since no one else has, I would bring to light the flip side of the coin, for the moms out there that are depriving a child-support paying, interested and involved father of his rights. The father of my 3 year old child has a son from a previous marriage, who is 12. I met the boys' dad when we were both newly divorced and the first son was 7. From the time I met them both, I could see he was a very devoted and committed father (probably one of the main things that attracted me to him) and they were very close. Soon after, the boy's mother decided to move him 1,200 miles away and for the past 6 years she has made it nearly impossible for dad to speak to and see his son regularly, and get the supposed "50/50" joint custody that they agreed upon. Some of you might say "well he needs to tell the court," but put yourself in the absent parent's position. Really all he is trying to do is maintain balance, peace and harmony, but it's a very fine line as you can imagine. Only recently did the older son get a cel phone and now dad calls him every night or two. Before that, the mother would hardly ever answer or return da's attempted phone calls to his son. I, as a mother of a 3 year old boy, do not understand how a mom who truly has the best interest of her child in mind can dismiss the eager and willing good father from being involved. So, I say this to all the women out there who have a willing to be involved father of their child, wanting to be in the picture, who make it difficult and near impossible for the child to have a relationship with their father. I've been there, been separated from my son's dad, and did not an any point enjoy being a single mom, and always new that regardless of what happened with us, he was a good person and good dad. Do what's right. If the father is making an effort and paying support, don't put your own emotional baggage or debt in the way of a child's right to both parents (given it's healthy). Don't use a child to blackmail or punish someone who didn't "pan out" as a husband.
i say no unless the father is a molester of some sorts. Some fathers aren't there because of the mothers
can't stand the father or they want to control the man through the child. Most will not agree but i see it everyday.
I am actually thinking of this right now too. My sons father hasn't been around since my son was born. Left me in the hospital alone..and we where married. He has other children that he does not take care of at all(I found that out after I left him). Quit his job so that he doesn't have to pay child support. He is now engaged to a new baby momma, living off of her and going down the same path. My son does not know who his father is, and doesn't care. I was doing the supervised visits, then as Donna said, he hung himself. Not showing up, if he did, he was drunk...ect,ect Bringing random girls around trying to take his son out after not showing up for 6 months. The one time I let him take him out, he lost him at the zoo. I found that out from one of the girls he was bragging to. I am so happy I stumbled apon this thread. Its has really helped me see what the next step should be :).
My daughters father threw us both out when she was just 9 weeks old that was after he had beat me up, verbally abused me and spat at me then threw a jug of boiling water at me all while I was holding my baby. I for some strange reason let him visit my mums to see our daughter which he did do a handful of times then that was it nothing. He put a present for her first birthday on my mums front door step then nothing more. I have since found out he is living with an ex and her 5 children and they are now having a baby. My daughterwas 2 last month and has still not seen him since she was 9 weeks old but because I let him have his name on her birth certificate he has the exact same legal rights as me. So if he decided next week next year or in 10 years he wanted to see her he could which I don't think is right at all. If a father doesn't want to b a father why should he have any rights?!
I just think it is so sad to read about these men who just don't give a damn about seeing their kids or paying in anyway. My brother is fighting to get to see his little girl and his ex is doing everything she can to stop him. In the past he has bought nappies for her and paid her petrol which I know to be true as I have been the inbetween person where she used to come for his visits. He has had his problems in the past but he is still her father. I mean even guys in jail have visitation rights so it is so unfair. She is trying so hard to have it all her way which makes me sick. I have a son from a previous relationship who saw his father very regularly and I know from experience how important it was to both my son and his father. Some men definitely don't deserve any rights but sometimes it is just as hard when it is the opposite and men have to fight to see there kids because of negative women you take it in the own hands to punish a man they hate but really they are truly hurting their kids more but just can't see it.
My son is going through this now. he has tried to see his daughter and had three visits the ex took that away lieing to the judge told every body he was never going to see his daughter has been mad at him since there divorce he pays child surpport . A man has no rights any more so yes its wrong and the poor child has to stand it the back ground and watch her rights taken away and can do nothing about it the ex needs to be the one punished but one day she will stand before her God and give acount for her wrongs.
Children do grow up, and they have so much negative baggage they carry into their adlult life . To avoid that, don't you think it wise to make an effort to bring as much harmony into their lives as you possibly can ? If he isn't in the picture, than getting him into it may be more of a problem than keeping him out of it. Youngsters often suspect that there is something wrong with them when the parents don't take time to share their lives, and it takes years of therapy to undo the harm. We must show unconditional love , to our offspring, which does not mean we are their best friend. We teach them the meaning of the word NO . We give them guidance and encouragemnt, and keeping the father out of the picture , would I believe be a mistake, unless harm would come because it it .
I believe with all of my heart that it is ok to strip a father of his rights if he is not in the picture. When I was a little girl my father chose drugs over us kids. So my grandparents got tired of his crap and they decided that he should not have any rights at all. My grandfather pulled a shot gun and made hime sign his rights away. After everything my birth parents did to us it was the best thing. I am very greatful for them loving us and taking care of us, if they weren't around we would have been left with a child molester. I am now 35 and I think back of every bad thing that my father chose to do with his life was stupid and wrong. I believe he had demons that he fought and lost. I only got a few yrs with him and I regret every min. Even when he was in my life he was never there for me. He past away a few yrs ago of cancer never once did he ask for me or his son. He chose his other family. I want to say thank you to all of the mothers out there that choose to keep and love their children I even thank myself. We can't change the past but we can make a great future for our children.So for those dads or mothers that don't want their children your missing out on someone special. Because being a mother has tought me so much that I wouldn't trade them for anything.
im currently torn on this one. does he pay child support yes after 3 years chasing him but how do you put a price tag on the abandonment of 3 kids?? The games, graduations, plays and so on he never came to. To me he is just that a paycheck not a dad.
I have a child of whom has a father who has NEVER been in the picture. She is now 16 years of age and it has caused us all a lot of grief. She dont understand why he wouldnt want her and why he dont love her and so on. He does pay child support (if thats what you wanna call it!). However, because of the fact he is an alcoholic, and has never wanted her, I feel he should pay child support first of all, but it dont matter to us because he has never been there. In the case of if my husband wanted to adopt her, because of her bio dad's absence for so long, no, he has no right to deny her a man who wants to be her Dad. I dont think his thoughts or opinions should matter and even if my husband did adopt her, her bio dad should still be forced to pay child support!
In other instances, if the "absent parent" which is a more appropiate term for this article, is a drug addict who just refuses to clean up, an alcoholic, is proven abusive, or something of that nature, then yes. Besides, if that parent is NOT IN THE PICTURE, why should they care? The way the system is set up now, sripping their rights serves no purpose! They get off scott free of any responsibilty of not keeping their pants on! If they are going to strip their rights they should still be ordered to pay support! It IS their child and they should be forced to be responsible regardless! Thats like a 5 year old stabbing and infant and slapping their hand or putting them in the corner if they dont! So, you dont want to be a part of your childs life, fine, but you will still pay for the raising of that child! Thats what is MORALLY right.
I agree that there are lots of deadbeat moms out there who mess with the father of their children. I think the one thing everyone is forgetting here is that it hurts the children when the other parent is absent. My daughter goes to therapy because she doesn't understand why her "daddy" doesn't want her. I would rather strip him of his rights and deal with him being absent all the time than to have him pop back in occasionally once a year here or there and mess with her head again. I'm sorry if you feel that makes me cold and heartless. I could care less about him one way or the other. He doesn't pay child support so I am doing it all on my own anyway. He has never been part of the decision making process. He does nothing. At least if he was out of the picture completely I could deal with that in therapy instead of the off and on rejection from him.
Nobody is to blame, it is the choice we women make in men. We think too much with our hearts and not heads. When making a choice, our heads and our hearts should play a 50/50 part in decision making. If you're dating someone and have to wonder if he'll leave you if you get pregnant, then more than likely you're making a wrong decision. With a good guy, you don't need to think as much you know. Sometimes we completely ignore warning signs, so basically we have ourselves to blame.
OMG - its amazing reading all your comments!! I am a Mum in the position most men find themselves in when they are prevented from seeing their children. I looked after my children totally and completely, the only one to be involved with EVERY area of their life's. My husband was very controlling and over a period of 20 years ran me down, called me names, humiliated me in front of friends and as a result, I ended up with no confidence, suffering daily anxiety attacks and a shadow of my former self. I couldnt even go on a shopping trip with a friend unless he approved of them and me going - and even then he would phone every half an hour to check on me. I have never given him reason to worry, never been with other men or flirted (always to insecure and lacking in confidence!).
Finally something snapped and after him telling me to move on and find someone else - I had to leave - couldnt cope with him anymore. We agreed that while we sorted things out my boys would stay in there home while I went and stayed with my poorly Dad. Next day he changed the locks on my house and moved out all my stuff. He quickly set about turning the boys against me, filling their heads with lies!!
This happened 2 years ago. I have done everything possible to see my boys. But the closer I get to him the more pressure he puts on my lads to tell me they dont want me in their lives. They are 14 and 12 now. My youngest does everything he can to please his Dad. My eldest keeps getting in touch every few months and then his dad does something to stop him. My ex has firearms galore and reloads his own ammo. He has told me in no uncertain terms he will come out fighting if backed into a corner. I fear for my boys if he is pushed. I have not dragged my boys through court because of the horrible toll it takes on youngsters and how instrusive the system is and the likelyhood that if the boys say they dont want me - to keep him happy - I will have no rights at all. The schools do not contact me with information. I am not allowed to be on the contact list (except for being about 4th on the list). I face a solitary Xmas without them.
It is fine for people to judge and jump to conclusions (my ex chats up females who he thinks are a soft touch and they fall for it and his lies about me_ - they then treat me like dirt or trash!! I cant go shopping for fear of bumping into people and being judged.
Tell me how is this different to the way some Dads are treated and how is it fair!! There is no support for anyone in my situation. My boys have no contact with their Mum and are missing that vital support that only a MUM can give!!
I don't believe thats fair, especially if the child has or had a relationship with it's father. Fathers have a role to play whether they or we like it or not!
If the father is inactive he should be encouraged to take a more active role even if its small. If he is a willing father who wants to be involved with his child/ren, then be happy for both of them. Happy parents have happy children and the happier the children the happier te parents...
I am a SINGLE mother of a gorgeous boy that his (DONOR) left us when I was a month and a half preganant. DOES he he have rights? In my eyes HELL NO. He til this day hasnt made the effort to contact us. he made it clear that I could NOT raise a baby on my own ( I was 33 at the time) and that I should get an abortion. I dont believe in abortion. So he left and hasnt been heard of since. and 2 years later...til this day "MY" SON is the best thing that has EVER happen to me. Hes smart and witty, yes hes witty @ 22 months. he laughs and plays and explores and I honestly did NOT know or understand what the term "true love" was or what it meant until the second I laid eyes on a 7lb 15oz 20.5in baby boy named Kristofer Michael, from then on, that was it I was in LOVE. and he ALWAYS can my sad eyes happy and turn my frown around because No one but God graced me with this little Boy and Im proud to call him 'MY' son. The DONOR is NOT even on the birth certificate, he has NO Rights...however im open to hear other opinions and questions...
I'm a daughter of a 'absentee' father - last time he saw me i was 9 months old (I'm almost 20 now). I now have an 18 month old daughter who see's my stepfather as her Grumpy (to be honest we both do) ... He chose to leave us because i wasn't a boy so he lost his parental rights and I really don't care now.
I say YES. If they then want back in the child's life they have to earn those rights back. My son's father disowned both of us when I told him I was pregnant and has refused contact ever since. There is no way I would let him just waltz back in to my son's life. He will have to prove himself if he is serious about having a relationship with my son in the future.
First of all absentee fathers will hang themselves. first give him limited supervised visits with a counselor to evaluate his interaction with your child or children. Drug testing and alchol testing if apply. Set up strict visitation rules such as a time when to pick-up or lose his time. Home time or loss his next visit. Dates made must be kept and if not make arrangements for him not to be available when father visits. This sets the tone for them to either abide by the rules or he losses. Most dead beat fathers will either hang thenselves this way or they will be come parents and becomes more involved with your child or children. Now always send him a calender of all activities and document when it is sent, keep everything on tape or documented into a file. Phone calls, times and person you spoke with. Gudelines are set to make the parents better parents. Now as the other part of the parent sinario you mut not use him as a baby sitter or a drop off. Sometimes it gets to easy to call and have him babysit. That sets your child up to be disapointed as if a parent is not ready to keep a child they often take out there feeling on a child. Now if the Father changes and wants to be part of the family then he meets the guidelines and then he is allowed the privaledge of being a parent and a father. Now the Fathers whoa re good fathers will say this is one sided but I have used this system and it works. The Father didn't comply, nor ddid the mother. They both regret not being there for thier children. If they couldn't comply then they probally didn't need to be around the children anyway. Just a great grand parent who has raised 1 daughter, 2 step sons, 8 grandchildren and raised one grand son and his sister joint custody. Also help with 4 great grand children. Been there and done that.
I believe it takes two to tango and the parents should share the costs of the child half and half. I have always wondered why the courts just gave what they felt was good enough to the custodial parent. I was wondering what other parents' thoughts were on the subject but hear (or read in this case) me out. If a parent (be they dad or mom) wants or needs child support, they should be reimbursed for NECESSARY things the child needs. I know my hubby's ex uses her child support to go get her nails done. If the custodial parent saves reciepts for diapers, child care, or whatever the child needs, they should be reimbursed for half of it. If a parent needs the money in advance, they should merely show proof of the cost of the item or service, then after the purchase, show the proof of the purchase. I know it would be a bit complicated but it would be a more fair way to do child support. I am in the middle of a child support dispute as well. I actually don't want anything from him, except his promise to stay out of our lives. I have been forced into this crap by the state. My children have a wonderful dad. It takes only a sperm donor to be considered a father, but a real man to be a dad.
I really don't think it is a good to strip a father of his rights, even if he's not in the picture. Reason: Because sometimes it isn't the fathers fault, sometimes the Mothers have other ideas, and then hello, the father comes home from work, and suddenly there's no one home, all packed up and left.
Fathers don't have many choices about what happens to there Child/ Children, they just have to go with whatever is happening at that time. So yea, i think the Dads get the raw end of the Deal. Well that's my opinion anyway.
I asked my sons father to sign his rights over when he was very young because of the fact he wasn't there. I also let him know that i would never stop him or any of his family from being there for my son. I also stuck by my word to never put him down for not being there. It was a decision he made and i respected it. As much as i hated my son not having a dad, I would have rathered him have none than have a man who couldnt even take care of himself. My son is now 20 and has a 3 month old son and loves and cares for him more than his dad ever did. Just goes to show us mothers can handle anything that comes our way ..... without a man :)
NO. Its not right. Men are perfectly capable of being a good father but not a good mate. For the most part, you have to weigh your options. There are too many children that have fathers that DONT want to be a part of their lives, why contribute to that number? Let the men be fathers!! My two boys WISH they had their dad in their lives...unfortunately he didn't want to be.
What if the father wants to be in the picture but is not allowed to be by an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend? Should his rights be "stripped"? My husband's children are adults now but he fought for years to see and be part of his children's life. We could purchase two automobiles with the money we spent fighting for this right. When I read this, I could not help but wonder if there are vindictive women who would take away a father's rights out of spite. I realize many men do walk away but there are men in the population who desire to be fathers and their rights are taken away too. Shame on those moms.
My husband has a daughter prior to our son being born his daughters mom won't let us see her at all he pays child support and everthing his daughter is his world we haven't seen her in two yrs her mom calls an makes promises for us to see her but never follows through she calls his job to try and get him fired and everything we Just want to spend time with her.... We went to file visitation rights but nothing has came back yet and that was in June .... What should we do?
I am a mother of a 16.5 yr old daughter and 12 yr old son. Their father walked out of their lives a year ago. He pays child support only because he is in the military. He will not take their phone calls ....nothing.he actually screamed at my daughter a few months ago to quit calling if the only thing she and her brother wanted was to see him. He is in violation of a court order for this. I would love to take his rights away but I won't. Someday he will feel guilty and want a relationship with these children and then they can decide on their terms what kind of relationship they want with him. Do I think some of the people who have posted on here should heck yea..... my children are lucky enough to have plenty of male role models that treat them better than their bio.
I definately think it is ok. If a man doesn't understand the joy of being a parent, to hell with him! No child should ever have to wait and see if their parent "remembers" to pick them up. If the man has no rights, there's no confusion of what's expected of him.
I have 2 boys by 2 different FATHERS...yes, I can only imagine what everyone is saying...but, you know what...don't judge!
My oldest is 14 1/2 years old & the last time his Father seen him was when he was 4 yrs. old....He is supposed to pay child support...DON'T. Has had PLENTY of chances to PROVE HIMSELF...FAILS & yet...Still FAILS!
My second son is 12 years old & his Father walked out of our lives & said to hell with the kid...I ran into him one time & the only thing he said was...."What's up? When we gonna hook up again? What did you do with that kid?"
You tell me...Should Fathers like that be stripped of their rights?! They are a disgrace to MEN/FATHERS! I have an AMAZING man in my life...has been there 10 years & would love to adopt my boys...he can my youngest cause that one vanished/more or less signed off...My oldest son...wants nothing to do with his & wishes he would sign off! But, he is being inconsiderate & will not.
So, help me out...How do I get him to sign off completely, seeings how he wants nothing to do with my son anyways...or rather pay his child support. I cannot afford a lawyer...it so sucks! : (
Thank you & Good Luck & God Bless all Single parents out there raising kids without the other, on your own or with someone that has STEPPED UP to be the REAL MAN/WOMAN in these kids lives!!
I agree that it depends on the situation. In my case, I was pregnant at 16 and broke up with the bio father during my pregnancy. I was working fast food and going to school (and graduated with my class, thank you very much) and he did nothing but be a mooch. He came to the hospital when my daughter was one day old and that was it. He never saw her again, never bought one single thing for her, never gave any money or help. For a while, I tried to get help from him but then after a while, I quit trying.
I met my future husband when my daughter was only 5 months old and we got married 3 years later. He's been her daddy all along. We found out that you have to post it in the paper for a certain time frame and show that you tried to get in touch with the biological father. In our state, after 7 years the biological father is considered to not have rights if there's been no attempt on his part.
My husband did finally adopt her but it was only after the decision was made between the two of them. I didn't want to influence that because it was up to him to be her daddy and I wanted to know for sure that she wanted him to officially be her daddy. When she was 18, her bio father tried to contact her on myspace. Little did he realize but she wanted nothing to do with him and she told me right away. I told him that he couldn't just show up once she was an adult and that if he wanted to have anything to do with her, he'd have to come up with 18 years worth of back child support. Never heard from him again.
If a man truly wants to be a part of their child's life, they can make it happen. But if they're not, and it's not because of circumstances beyond their control, they don't have the right to call themselves a dad.
A father that has no desire to be part of his child/children's lives absolutely has no rights.
However, I feel as if too many children are already born into a mess. Is is right to walk away from your child and responsibilities as a parent, absolutely not. As women we have the ultimate power to recreate life, we must treat conceiving a child as a precious gift to be guarded with all our might. The person we decide to share this gift with should be sound, loving, caring and READY to take on the responsibilities. We control who we decide to have children with, not them.
Yes! My son hasnt seen his father since he was 3 months. I have him on child support and he hasnt done supervised visitation yet my son wasn't even a year when we went to court. He is 20 months now..he recently got engaged and moved out of state with her and her son! Took my son off his insurance and put his fiance and her son on it... Ive been dating a wonderful man that took my son in as his own since for the last year 1/2 and never looked back! His bio has brought up giving up rights everytime he can't get what he wants when he wants!..they try to be sneaky (him and his mother/family)...this momma ain't having it!! My son doesn't know him and don't take kindly to any strangersh!
my thoughts r that he don't exsist,to me or the boys ,fuckin dead beat piece of shit
i actually would love some advice for my situation.. Im about to be a young mom, my ex an i found out i was pregnant last may and he begged me to get an abortion up and down, never wanted our baby, i told him i was a package deal and if he wanted to leave i wouldnt hold him to anything. he then swore up and down he was going to be there for us because he wanted to be with me, not because of the baby... he then moved out west to work in the oil feilds to make money for "us" (havent seen a dime). a couple days later a woman text me off his phone and i found out he had bin cheating on me so i ended things with him. he then harassed me and would say anything to hurt me. ie. not his kid, im a sl*t.. u name it. it got to the point where i told him it was my baby not our baby. he started dating a new girl and hid the fact that he had got me pregnant etc. meanwhile he was living with MY DAD(who i no longer talk to btw). blocked me from being able to contact him on fb etc. therefore we hadnt talked in months so i have prepared myself to do this alone with support of my family. he then randomly messages me saying he has just as much right to custody as i do. im just not sure how to effectively handle this situation. im not willing to hand my baby over to somebody who manipulated me when we were together, was emotionally abusive to me(screamed at me F**k you over and over and when i went to leave he layed down behind my car so i couldnt). i did offer him at one point supervised visitation until he could prove himself to be responsible enough to care for a child and he couldnt care less about my offer at the time.
Im pretty sure he just randomly does this to me to upset me because then id ont hear from him for months after the fact. and i dont think he has as much right as i do to custody because really in my eyes he moved out west to run away, if he really moved there to support us i think he wouldve bin sending money instead of cheating on me while im here sick as a dog dealing with pregnancy. i had to move back home with my parents and quit one of my jobs to be able to support a baby. i have had to change every aspect of my life, which i dont mind doing, im extatic for my son to arrive! but i just dont think he has a right.
i know of someone putting "unknown" for the father in the birth certificate, and im not sure if thats the best route for me to go or what to do? HELP!
I LIKE TO THINK OF THIS QUESTION BACKWARDS, BECAUSE MEN ALWAYS GET THE BAD RAP. MY EX DAUGHTER IN LAW IS NOT REALLY IN THE PICTURE AND IS ABUSIVE TO MY GRANDDAUGHTER. SHE SHOULD HAVE HER RIGHTS TERMINATED BUT THE LAWS ALWAYS WANT TO REUNITE THE CHILD WITH THE MOTHER...WHEN SHE GETS OLDER AND UNDERSTANDS THIS WHOLE MESS AND WANTS TO RE MEET HER MOTHER ( IF WE FINALLY WIN CUSTODY )ITS NO PROBLEM FOR US. I FEEL THAT PEOPLE MAKE HORRENDOUS MISTAKES BUT ULTIMATELY IT SHOULD BE UP TO THE CHILD IF THEY FEEL THEY WANT TO BE IN THAT PARENTS LIFE LATER IN LIFE. RIGHT SHOULD BE STRIPPED IF ABUSE, AND NEGLECT ARE PRESENT..NOT JUST FOR BEING ABSENT.
That's a real hard one. It would depend on each circumstance. Just because an ex-wife doesn't want him in their lives, then NO ! If the father just doesn't pay any attention, I think yes!
I think it's all circumstantial!! I have a son who is almost 11 who has not seen his dad since he was almost 2. He walked out of our lives and didn't give his son a second thought until he decided he missed him about 6 months later...for a 2 yr old .. .six months is a long time..when my son came back from his visit it took several days for him to settle down...It was difficult on him... so when my sons father showed no interest in having a scheduled set visitation with him.. and just wanted to come in and out of my sons life whenever it was convenient for him.. I told him to take me to court and get scheduled visitation rights..He never did.. never called .. never came by. I think that was the best decision I made for my son!! It is NOT about the rights of his father..It's about what's BEST for the child!! I refuse to have my son be screwed up for a lifetime because his father is running in and out of his life leaving him with emotional damage.. He is much better off without knowing who his donor is!! My son asks me about his dad every once in a while now.. I never deprive him of information, I don't talk freely of his father but I always answer his questions, only matter of factly, I never speak negatively about his father to him, although he is the one person on this earth I loathe the most.. But I am doing what is best for my son.. and when he is 18 yrs old and wants to seek out his father.. that's his right to and he will be old enough to understand what type of man his father is and make his own judgements. IT IS NOT ABOUT THE FATHER'S RIGHTS..IT'S ABOUT WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILD!!
my daughter was born and her biological fathe rhas not been there sincei told him iw as pregnant hes not even on the birth certificate . he knows he has a child doesnt even knnow if its a boy or girl. i know where he is i just refuse to chase him cause thats what he wantas me to do and im not.
If the fathe is not in the picture at all, yes, he should lose his rights. But if the father is there and the mother is keeping the child from the father only because he is not with her anymore, no, the father should not lose his rights, if anything, the mother should give the child to the father since she is keeping them apart. If the father wants to be a part of his child's life but the mother or her new boyfriend is trying to keep them apart, there should be a way for him to stay in his child's like regardless of what they say.