What can you do when your child is jealous of a new sibling?

Having a new baby can bring a lot of change to a family, and it is not uncommon for older siblings to be jealous. What can you do to help your child who is jealous of a new sibling?

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I never had the jealousy problem (thank goodness) with my daughter when her little sister was born. But I had told her for months that the new baby was a gift from me to her and that I was giving her a friend that would love her for the rest of her life. I told her that her little sister would always be there and love her for the rest of her life. I treated the new baby as a gift to her and told her that I loved her so much I carried this new baby in me for 9 months just so she could have a sister. She is now 7 and her sister is 3.5 and they, for the most part, are best friends.

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I had a harder time than most, because I had 2 boys first and then a girl. Boys are a lot less interested in babies typically, and they would rather drive trucks into her or smother her with a pillow, than help with any of the baby jobs. I had a lot of anxiety, naturally. I hate to admit this, but I used the TV and video games to entertain the boys, more than the recommended 2 hours a day. My daughter is now 3, and very independent, probably because she didn't get enough attention from me. I wasn't even able to breastfeed her for a year like I did the other 2. We do what we need to do to make it work. The boys are really good with her most of the time nowadays, and they get to go to school, so I think it's all good.

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my 2 girls are only 22 months apart, when i brought the baby (now 17 months) home she was premature and very jaundice, so she slept a lot, so i used this time to give my older daughter attention. When people wanted to help with the kids i always let people hold the baby so i could hold my toddler. We also prepped her before the baby was born, telling her a baby was in my tummy . my daughter was very bright and seemed to understand. when we were saying baby names she liked baby jenna, and she called my tummy baby jenna. in essence she named her sister. then when she was born she went right to the baby bed and said baby jenna came out. we let her hold her sister right in the hospital. my older daughter has never been jealous. Actually now at age 3 and 17 months its the younger one that gets jealous sometimes because her sister can do big kid stuff that she cant. When i read the older one stories, the little one come right away.

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We Include our older daughter in the things we do with baby, Ask her to grab a diaper, pick out babies outfit, help bath baby. She also gets excited to do things that baby cant be involved in with mommy and daddy

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I have boys 22 months apart, 2 and a half and 11 months now, but it's not easy, that's for sure. My two year old is verrrry territorial over his toys, and will take or push his little brother away from whatever is his. I literally need eyes in the back of my head. lol But it's just an everyday challenge trying to keep both of them out of trouble and content :) Bath times used to be an issue, as my two year old would try and hop into the baby tub with his brother. Or he would try and take his little brothers bottles out of the fridge and drink them (sometimes succeeded). And if baby was up, he needed to be up in moms arms too. Day by day, the jealousy is wearing off, and things are getting easier. What you can do when your child is jealous of a new sibling is get the older child involved as much as possible. Changing diapers, bathing, playing, holding, feeding.. everything. With assistance and supervision of course. The other morning, I realized it paid off, my two year old fed his baby brother his breakfast and even wiped his face after without any help from me :) very heartwarming. When changing diapers, I get my two year old to help me take off the diaper, then he throws it in the garbage, and the two of them can now get baths together, and he still helps me wash his baby brother. AND make sure you keep your patience. It's a learning experience for the older child as much as it is for you.

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We made sure my older one, who was 7 at the time, was involved with taking care of our little one who is only 1.5 yrs now, even if it was just getting the diapers, wipes or putting pillows around him while he slept.
I must say both of them love one another and older one is very protective about his little brother.

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I had a jealousy problem with my girls - my first child (Lily) was three when I had my second child (Paige). Lily was (and still is) a major drama queen, but she was my only child at the time. She was my only princess, and to introduce another princess was hard for her to wrap her head around. Paige was premature, and needed all the care and support she could get. Lily would want me all to herself (as it had been up until I had Paige) and cry when I didn't come and play barbies with her or make cookies for her doll's tea party. My husband died of lung cancer when I was one month pregnant with Paige. I managed with only Lily, but there was no one to help me care for Paige. I would have to leave my first child in order to feed Paige or change her nappy (diaper) or stop her crying or put her in bed for a nap. There was absolutely no time for me to be with my gorgeous toddler. My baby was taking up all my time (this DOES NOT mean that I hate Paige, and it does not whatsoever affect my relationship with my daughter). I managed to solve this problem by calling in my sister. She would keep Lily busy while I was with Paige, and the other way around. If you are having the same problem, I suggest calling in someone you know. Don't call a stranger or a younger babysitter, because you will never know their level of expertise with newborns and you don't know how the baby will react to someone they have never met before and will never meet again. My sister had been by my side ever since the birth of Lily and the death of my husband, George, so Paige was well and truly used to her being near her. I was very happy with the solution and Paige is now 5, Lily is 8. They have no problems with each other, and they are basically best friends.

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i am a nanna of 9 grandchildren i have the last 2 twice three times a week for between 7 and 9 hrs the oldest until his baby brother was born was an angel my son who works long hours gives the oldest one lots of quality time but he is turning into a little horror his mother who only works 24 hrs a week has taken to her second child but pushed the older one out i am so upset about this turn of events she knows she is doing this and says she hates nathaniel hits him and treats him like a mate instead of being his mother what can i do without interfeering too much i love both my little grandsons but my heart goes out to the oldest

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i find this a very good question actually, my 16month old son is about to be a brother as im due my second baby in 5 days (another boy). hes a very good boy, VERY advanced for his age, he amuses himself and does his own thing but were very close because hes very much a mamas boy. since ive been pregnant ive noticed the changes in him... hes very aggressive towards me at times and also to my tummy(i told him theres a baby in mummys tummy and hes going to be ur little brother). hes purposly naughty most of the time too and when i tell him off hel do what ever it was again as if to say i dont have to do what u say! whilst giving me a dirty look... im EXTREMLY worried that when the babys here hel start being nasty to the baby if he does what can i do? xXx

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We had our oldest saying the name berfor the baby was born. When I brought my second child home my first would not sit with me for three months. I always mad sure that I took her with me when we left the house and baby stayed home with dad, and lots of story time when baby was sleeping in the day. We did the same thing when we brought our thurd child home. Lots of TLC.

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