By Veronica Whitmore - Posted on Jan 4, 2012 2 0 I am an identical twin and I can relate to this post. I am now 40 y.o. and I no longer see my sister & haven't done for years. I think it is important to recognise that all siblings fight, so twins fighting too should not be unexpected. Sometimes people have different expectations of twins - like they should have such a close & special bond & be each other's best friends. While this is great - it is not always fair or reality. Many of our childhood arguments stemmed from firstly - being expected to be identical in everything (i.e. taste, preferences, likes, dislikes...). Secondly, lots of pressure to be the same & negative comparisons when differences were evident. Thirdly, twins spend an inordinate amount of time together. If you had to spend that much time with anyone else (e.g. your spouse) then you'd fight too. I would suggest making sure they are treated as individuals & like any other siblings - make sure they have time apart & can pursue their own interests & differences. Identical twins are not 'identical' in every way. Apart from that, accept that fights between siblings are normal an leave them to sort it out. If one twin is more dominant, then the twins will both need to be taught to get along with people - just like any other kid does. 2 By Marti Miller - commented on Jan 5, 2012 1 0 I agree 100% we have 4 year old Id twin girls, and we don't even refer to them as twins, when I call them, I say girls or their names. And yes everybody that sees them asks me if they do and like everything the same, and I tell them that they have their own personalities and that they are completely different, they are an individual just like everybody else. And yes they fight but so do other kids.